How can I keep a dildo(not butt plugs) in my butt while penetrating my wife?

frstimr frstimr
I have looked at various harnesses but they are all geared toward women to pleasure men. Most don't have a hole through which to stick my penis or if it does it seems like it would be very uncomfortable and/or mover around a lot.

We do many different positions so it would be beneficial if a solution was universal but I know that is asking a lot and I welcome all suggestions.

I don't like butt plugs for this purpose because I like the feeling of the shaft going from base to top with NO skinny area above the base and no tapering at the end. So...your basic dildo shape. Hah

Thanks for any help!

P.S. Obviously any toy suggestions need a flared/balls base so as not to slip inside.
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Pretties Pretties
Interesting problem. I'm not sure how comfortable they are, and in fact I think they would look pretty silly rather than sexy, but when search for stuff on eBay before I've seen g-strings for guys with a hole in the front, so they might work. They're all super cheap (like under $5 including postage) so you could try them out and if they're good get better quality ones later.

Keep us posted on how you do solve this as I too like the "spread" feeling of a dildo over a butt plug (though I like them too!).
07/26/2013
Rossie Rossie
Only position I can think of: you lying on your back with a dildo inserted, and have your wife riding you cowgirl -- I hope your dildo won't slip out repeatedly, since it doesn't have a narrow neck to keep it in place!
07/26/2013
charmedtomeetyou charmedtomeetyou
What about something like this?

link

You could put a dildo facing toward you in the O-ring in the back, remove one of the front O-rings and just put your penis through the single ring remaining.

Seems like a solution to me! Hope that helps!
07/27/2013
Kindred Kindred
Google "anal plug harness for men" and you will see some available options.
07/27/2013
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Kindred
Google "anal plug harness for men" and you will see some available options.
I was about to suggest the same thing They make some wonderful dildo harnesses for men. If you find an amazing one let us know!
07/27/2013
frstimr frstimr
Hey everyone, sorry I haven't replied until now. I had to have back surgery after an injury(not sex related ), been recovering for two weeks now.

We were able to try the g-string thing before the accident but it wasn't effective even with trying several positions, we are looking forward to trying your other suggestions but it will be at least 2 months from now but most probably even longer. =(
08/21/2013
frstimr frstimr
Quote:
Originally posted by Rossie
Only position I can think of: you lying on your back with a dildo inserted, and have your wife riding you cowgirl -- I hope your dildo won't slip out repeatedly, since it doesn't have a narrow neck to keep it in place!
We have tried this, even with large head dildos but it hasn't worked.

The only thing that we can use to any good effect are prostate massagers with the handle that rubs the perineum as well, but again they have a narrow neck. I am looking for the stretch. Thanks for the reply though! =)
08/21/2013
frstimr frstimr
Quote:
Originally posted by charmedtomeetyou
What about something like this?

link

You could put a dildo facing toward you in the O-ring in the back, remove one of the front O-rings and just put your penis through the single ring remaining.

Seems like a solution to me! ... More
That is a definite possibility, wish these things weren't so costly. All these tests are getting expensive.
08/21/2013
frstimr frstimr
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
I was about to suggest the same thing They make some wonderful dildo harnesses for men. If you find an amazing one let us know!
Thanks to you both, I did look that up. However, I'm not sure how to find out what what size dildo they can hold. Ugh, too expensive to keep buying one after another.
08/21/2013
swallowbig swallowbig
Quote:
Originally posted by frstimr
I have looked at various harnesses but they are all geared toward women to pleasure men. Most don't have a hole through which to stick my penis or if it does it seems like it would be very uncomfortable and/or mover around a lot.

We do ... More
I use tampons as butt plugs! They are disposable and have a string to tug on to make you cum super hard! Try it using.a small tampon first such as a tampax pearl regular with plastic applicator. I have.been doing this for many years and now I use Kotex super plus plastic.applicatot. Be sure to use.a little KY or.similar.lube at first so the tampon doesnt dry out.
09/04/2013
Oriental husband and wife Oriental husband and wife
Check out the glass dildos with a curve at the end. I have the one with the bumps and curve at the end. It doesn't come out on me. Of course during the excitement I don't remember if I was clinching it with my anus muscle or not. Clinching will also help your stamina.

Or try the thick glass plugs like Sasha Grey. It is thick and should give you that opened feeling. Any very thick neck plug will work.

Or use your favorite dildo, wear very tight undies or swimwear and pull your cock out of the front opening. I think high performance stretch fabric boxers might work. Costco has a Kirkland brand like that.
09/04/2013
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