I recently bought the Lelo Ella for my girlfriend but so far we have had little success. (it either hurts or simply doesn't do much for her). She is reluctant to practice on her own and would rather we explore it together. I realize that each person is going to be different, but for those that have been successful in achieving g-spot orgasms/squirting with the Ella, what specifically worked for you? Are you using the G-spot end exclusively? How hard and fast do you need to thrust? Do you need clitoral stimulation as well in order to squirt?
Learning to squirt with the Lelo Ella
aussielover
05/02/2009
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Are you the one using the toy on her? This might be why she's having pain. Have her experiment first so she knows what angle comfortably hits her g-spot, and then get her to teach you!
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aussielover
I recently bought the Lelo Ella for my girlfriend but so far we have had little success. (it either hurts or simply doesn't do much for her). She is reluctant to practice on her own and would rather we explore it together. I realize that each
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I recently bought the Lelo Ella for my girlfriend but so far we have had little success. (it either hurts or simply doesn't do much for her). She is reluctant to practice on her own and would rather we explore it together. I realize that each person is going to be different, but for those that have been successful in achieving g-spot orgasms/squirting with the Ella, what specifically worked for you? Are you using the G-spot end exclusively? How hard and fast do you need to thrust? Do you need clitoral stimulation as well in order to squirt?
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I have yet to achieve a g-spot orgasm or squirt with her as well, but know this to be a fault of my own instead of Ella's. I need to improve my own technique, and I'm sure my partner could get me off.
If I intend to have a g-spot orgasm, I only use the straight end as a warm up. When I move to the g-spot end I need a very steady, speedy thrust that isn't too hard. It can definitely become painful, so a balance should be found first. Clit stimulation is always a plus, but she should be very verbal or stimulate it herself so that she doesn't reach orgasm that way.
Most importantly, is she able to find her g-spot with the Ella? I'm not saying it will feel amazing, but she should definitely know if it's hitting the right spot!
05/02/2009
Lithaewyn's right. She needs to use Ella on herself. That's the best way for her to find where her g-spot is and figure out the rhythm that will work for her. It took me several tries with Ella before I was successful. Fear of peeing held me back. So she might want to have several towels folded under her so she can convince herself that even if she does pee it doesn't matter.
I find that fast thrusting works best for me. I never use the straight end and usually don't bother with clitoral stimulation first, although I'm sure that would make it easier.
I seem to be alone in my opinion that a non-empty bladder helps. If its empty you don't have to worry as much about peeing. But if it isn't empty, sensation is much greater.
I find that fast thrusting works best for me. I never use the straight end and usually don't bother with clitoral stimulation first, although I'm sure that would make it easier.
I seem to be alone in my opinion that a non-empty bladder helps. If its empty you don't have to worry as much about peeing. But if it isn't empty, sensation is much greater.
05/02/2009
I agree with others that she needs to use it herself. The G-spot end is just very extreme and can feel funny if not used correctly.
For me, I have to thrust very, very fast, with no clitoral stimulation (otherwise I get distracted by it), using the G-spot end and gripping the other end very hard.
For me, I have to thrust very, very fast, with no clitoral stimulation (otherwise I get distracted by it), using the G-spot end and gripping the other end very hard.
05/02/2009
I haven't used this particular toy, and have never set out to "squirt" on purpose - honestly I didn't have any interest in pursuing it. Then one day I was going about my business just lazily using my fingers and rubbing externally between my clit and my vagina, and it happened. I was boggled! Later I figured out that I had been lying on my side, and in all my years of self-pleasure I couldn't remember doing that before (not sure what inspired me that day to try, either). I can't give you suggestions about that particular toy, but if a position or a movement isn't working, don't be afraid to try something new, maybe something you never considered before. It's good advice to get her to use it on herself, too, or if she is hesitant for you to hold it together to start out. She's the only one who knows if it's working for her.
05/03/2009
I definitely agree with the others that she should try experimenting herself, you can do it together but let her have the reigns. Every woman is different in terms of what helps them squirt. So she may or may not require clit stimulation. Before trying to stimulate the g-spot make sure she ir aroused by doing what turns her on before getting down to business. I for one have a painful burning sensation if my g-spot is stimulated when I am not appropriately aroused so it isn't pleasant. Once I am aroused and my g-spot is stimulated I could cry tears of joy from the pleasure.
In terms of thrusting it depends from one person to another, quick thrustng can be good. For me I need clit stimulation (most of the time) and a good amount of hard thrusting. It doesn't have to be quick it just has to be right on the spot and it must be really pushed up against the g-spot or else I don't feel it enough.
Also about the bladder, empty is best. It seems that a full bladder makes the stimulation of the g-spot more intense for me but I won't squirt bcs I am afraid I will pee. So an empty bladder really reassures me I won't pee and will help me feel more relaxed.
So basiclly experiment, relax and just have fun. Let her discover what works for her and be there for her and be patient. I think that even if a person can master squirting they can still learn many things about their body. It's just a question of trying new things and being attuned to what is pleasureable to you.
In terms of thrusting it depends from one person to another, quick thrustng can be good. For me I need clit stimulation (most of the time) and a good amount of hard thrusting. It doesn't have to be quick it just has to be right on the spot and it must be really pushed up against the g-spot or else I don't feel it enough.
Also about the bladder, empty is best. It seems that a full bladder makes the stimulation of the g-spot more intense for me but I won't squirt bcs I am afraid I will pee. So an empty bladder really reassures me I won't pee and will help me feel more relaxed.
So basiclly experiment, relax and just have fun. Let her discover what works for her and be there for her and be patient. I think that even if a person can master squirting they can still learn many things about their body. It's just a question of trying new things and being attuned to what is pleasureable to you.
05/04/2009
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The arousal level is also key for me. Straight out the gate g-spot stim is just aggravating, irksome and sometimes painful, always awkward. After I'm seriously aroused, though? It's incredible.
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Naughty Student
I definitely agree with the others that she should try experimenting herself, you can do it together but let her have the reigns. Every woman is different in terms of what helps them squirt. So she may or may not require clit stimulation. Before
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I definitely agree with the others that she should try experimenting herself, you can do it together but let her have the reigns. Every woman is different in terms of what helps them squirt. So she may or may not require clit stimulation. Before trying to stimulate the g-spot make sure she ir aroused by doing what turns her on before getting down to business. I for one have a painful burning sensation if my g-spot is stimulated when I am not appropriately aroused so it isn't pleasant. Once I am aroused and my g-spot is stimulated I could cry tears of joy from the pleasure.
In terms of thrusting it depends from one person to another, quick thrustng can be good. For me I need clit stimulation (most of the time) and a good amount of hard thrusting. It doesn't have to be quick it just has to be right on the spot and it must be really pushed up against the g-spot or else I don't feel it enough.
Also about the bladder, empty is best. It seems that a full bladder makes the stimulation of the g-spot more intense for me but I won't squirt bcs I am afraid I will pee. So an empty bladder really reassures me I won't pee and will help me feel more relaxed.
So basiclly experiment, relax and just have fun. Let her discover what works for her and be there for her and be patient. I think that even if a person can master squirting they can still learn many things about their body. It's just a question of trying new things and being attuned to what is pleasureable to you. less
In terms of thrusting it depends from one person to another, quick thrustng can be good. For me I need clit stimulation (most of the time) and a good amount of hard thrusting. It doesn't have to be quick it just has to be right on the spot and it must be really pushed up against the g-spot or else I don't feel it enough.
Also about the bladder, empty is best. It seems that a full bladder makes the stimulation of the g-spot more intense for me but I won't squirt bcs I am afraid I will pee. So an empty bladder really reassures me I won't pee and will help me feel more relaxed.
So basiclly experiment, relax and just have fun. Let her discover what works for her and be there for her and be patient. I think that even if a person can master squirting they can still learn many things about their body. It's just a question of trying new things and being attuned to what is pleasureable to you. less
I'd try massive amounts of foreplay or even outright sex, then switch to the Ella. At that point it may not matter whose hands it's in since the blood is pumping, the body stimulated and the g-spot is ready for some action!
05/04/2009
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