Losing your Virginity: Getting Strapped (Penetration) Does it a count?

BonáeVintage BonáeVintage
Does being penetrated by your partner with a strapon dildo count in the sense of losing your virginity.
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
yes
Stinkytofu10 , Kitka , Petite Valentine , Vanille , indiglo , Emerlyn , LovesAPoet , Kissaki , ghalik , JackRaiden , treefrog88 , Rin (aka Nire) , BBW Talks Toys , LavenderSkies , chowchau , kawigrl , Vegan Silk , Rawhide , meesmabye , meezerosity , GONE!
21
no
bayosgirl
1
undecided
Lickable Lollie , OhMy! , DreamWolf , deltalima , Master DarkWolf
5
Total votes: 27 (27 voters)
Poll is closed
05/17/2012
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Kitka Kitka
I think it definitely counts.
05/17/2012
Vanille Vanille
Consensual sexual activity of any kind with another person counts in my opinion, it's not limited to PIV anymore...
05/17/2012
Petite Valentine Petite Valentine
Quote:
Originally posted by Vanille
Consensual sexual activity of any kind with another person counts in my opinion, it's not limited to PIV anymore...
I agree with this, though I would amend it slightly — Consensual sexual activity of any kind while physically in contact with another person counts.

My definition of sex goes beyond PIV — penetration by someone else's hands counts in my opinion — however I wouldn't consider cyber or phone sex a loss of virginity.
05/17/2012
ghalik ghalik
Well... it's sex, isn't it?
05/17/2012
Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
Quote:
Originally posted by Vanille
Consensual sexual activity of any kind with another person counts in my opinion, it's not limited to PIV anymore...
I'd agree with this. Considering just how many kinds of sex one can have, I'd say so long as another person is involved you might as well count it. Though I also agree with Petite Valentine that some kind of physical contact would be what seals it.
05/17/2012
Master DarkWolf Master DarkWolf
I guess it really depends on how the person sees it.
05/17/2012
DreamWolf DreamWolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Master DarkWolf
I guess it really depends on how the person sees it.
Agreed...
05/17/2012
BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
Quote:
Originally posted by Petite Valentine
I agree with this, though I would amend it slightly — Consensual sexual activity of any kind while physically in contact with another person counts.

My definition of sex goes beyond PIV — penetration by someone else's hands counts in my ... More
This.
05/17/2012
deltalima deltalima
Quote:
Originally posted by BonáeVintage
Does being penetrated by your partner with a strapon dildo count in the sense of losing your virginity.
Hmm good question. I think it does.
05/17/2012
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by Vanille
Consensual sexual activity of any kind with another person counts in my opinion, it's not limited to PIV anymore...
I agree.
05/17/2012
bayosgirl bayosgirl
Call me old-fashioned, but nothing but PIV counts for me. If I had started out having sex with females via strap-ons, I would still consider myself a virgin.
05/18/2012
kawigrl kawigrl
to me it does
05/18/2012
Vegan Silk Vegan Silk
the definition of sex and virginity is always being debated. do what you want when you feel ready. end of discussion.

The whol concept of virginity is archaic and patriarchal. It was about knowing that you were the only one to have sex with a specific woman. So you knew whose kids they were.

it is outdated.
05/18/2012
Rawhide Rawhide
I see virginity in two seperate ways: status as a captital-V "Virgin" and the progressive loss of levels of virginity with different activities.

My concept of a Virgin is someone who has never had sex with a partner. Sex with yourself does not count. Therefore, when someone has sex for the first time with the participation of someone else, whether it is oral, intercourse, mutual masturbation, whatever - that person is no longer a captital-V Virgin.

But after that, you can still loose your lowercase-v virginity with different activites that they've never done before. Anal virginity, oral virginity, strapping-on virginity, etc. You may have had sex, but you can still lose your lowercase-v virginity trying something new.

So yes, someone who has strapped it on with a partner is no longer a Virgin. But they can still have virginity to lose in other ways.
05/18/2012
meesmabye meesmabye
Quote:
Originally posted by Petite Valentine
I agree with this, though I would amend it slightly — Consensual sexual activity of any kind while physically in contact with another person counts.

My definition of sex goes beyond PIV — penetration by someone else's hands counts in my ... More
This is pretty much my definition. The concept of "virginity" as defined as a penis penetrating the vagina is such an outdated social construct anyhow. D:
05/18/2012
meezerosity meezerosity
Sex is sex, so yes. Whether it be oral, VIP, with a toy, anal, whatever. If by definition losing virginity is being penetrated then there are a lot of sexually active lesbians out there who have engaged in oral sex or fingering and do not like penetration that are virgins.
05/18/2012
<3BF <3BF
idk. the late night sunday sex talk lady said one loses virginity only from penis to vagina penetration. But honestly, who cares?
05/18/2012
Petite Valentine Petite Valentine
Quote:
Originally posted by <3BF
idk. the late night sunday sex talk lady said one loses virginity only from penis to vagina penetration. But honestly, who cares?
This is correct from a medical standpoint, however I thought the question was about virginity in the social sense.
05/18/2012
G&L G&L
Its still losing your virginity
05/22/2012
MissYouBubbles MissYouBubbles
The way I look at it, the day my hymen was broken I was no longer a virgin and it wasn't PIV.
So yes I think you lose your virginity
05/27/2012
namelesschaos namelesschaos
A person who penetrated by their partner with a strapon dildo is "a person who ha benn penetrated by their partner with a strapon dildo". I gain nothing by labeling it further. Indeed I loss data and perspective sexual experience is a continuum not done justice by simple dichotomies.
05/29/2012
lisasharrer lisasharrer
Quote:
Originally posted by BonáeVintage
Does being penetrated by your partner with a strapon dildo count in the sense of losing your virginity.
yes i would say if it goes in and it pops yes
05/29/2012
Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
Quote:
Originally posted by MissYouBubbles
The way I look at it, the day my hymen was broken I was no longer a virgin and it wasn't PIV.
So yes I think you lose your virginity
Considering that you can break the hymen through extremely mundane activities, or even be born without one, I don't even include it in the equation.
05/29/2012
Girly Juice Girly Juice
I think you get to decide for yourself when you feel like you've lost your virginity. I had strap-on sex at 16, but it didn't involve an emotional connection and it didn't feel good, not to mention I'd already broken my hymen via masturbation, so I didn't feel like anything momentous had happened. It was a kind of virginity loss but it didn't feel complete.

Strap-on sex can be a totally valid way to lose one's virginity, though. It's up to you to define what counts as sex for you.
05/29/2012
Rey Rey
still valid!
06/04/2012
Th8405 Th8405
Quote:
Originally posted by BonáeVintage
Does being penetrated by your partner with a strapon dildo count in the sense of losing your virginity.
Yes
06/04/2012
Double Analysis Double Analysis
Quote:
Originally posted by Vanille
Consensual sexual activity of any kind with another person counts in my opinion, it's not limited to PIV anymore...
Exactly.
06/04/2012
brandi2009 brandi2009
Quote:
Originally posted by BonáeVintage
Does being penetrated by your partner with a strapon dildo count in the sense of losing your virginity.
if your lesbian it might
05/05/2013
showgirl showgirl
Quote:
Originally posted by BonáeVintage
Does being penetrated by your partner with a strapon dildo count in the sense of losing your virginity.
I think yes lol
05/11/2013
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