I'm looking for a dildo that will be hard enough to grasp easily but also soft enough that it isn't completely hard like a rock. I can't figure out what material that would be made of. I know rubber/jelly items are a 2 on the material safety so I don't know if that's sort of a dangerous option or if that just means there's more care that goes into them but something rubbery and slightly squishy sounds like it would feel better. Lately all the toys I've been trying are just too firm.
I just chose those materials because they sounded like they'd be the material I'm looking for but if there are suggestions for something else, please share! Thanks.