I am looking to upgrade both in harness and dildo, but I'm debating between a regular dildo and a double-ended. The idea of a double-ended one is totally hot, but it does seem harder to use. It has popped out of me, despite my wearing the harness, mid-action.
As an inexperienced strap-on user, should I first learn how to drive a regular dildo with a quality harness, then try to come back to the "strapless" kind? This effects my choice of harness - do I limit myself to ones that would be compatible with a double-ended dildo or not. It's a big purchase for me so I'm trying to do research before I buy.
I guess all of this comes down to, wanting to be able to get off while my partner gets off. I am more G-spot oriented than clit-oriented, and I don't really like vibration on my clit, so I'm not happy to just pop a bullet in the base of a dildo and then go to town. I have seen that the Outlaw Leather harnesses can take a second dildo for the wearer but I can't imagine there's a lot of movement of that dildo.
Thanks for your help!