Strapping on - Single versus double-ended

Kirsten A Kirsten A
Hi, I'm new to this forum! I'm also new to strap-on sex but really enjoy it. I bought a cheap harness to try it out, and have tried it both with a flared-base dildo and a double-ended dildo (of the supposedly "strapless" variety but I used it with a harness).

I am looking to upgrade both in harness and dildo, but I'm debating between a regular dildo and a double-ended. The idea of a double-ended one is totally hot, but it does seem harder to use. It has popped out of me, despite my wearing the harness, mid-action.

As an inexperienced strap-on user, should I first learn how to drive a regular dildo with a quality harness, then try to come back to the "strapless" kind? This effects my choice of harness - do I limit myself to ones that would be compatible with a double-ended dildo or not. It's a big purchase for me so I'm trying to do research before I buy.

I guess all of this comes down to, wanting to be able to get off while my partner gets off. I am more G-spot oriented than clit-oriented, and I don't really like vibration on my clit, so I'm not happy to just pop a bullet in the base of a dildo and then go to town. I have seen that the Outlaw Leather harnesses can take a second dildo for the wearer but I can't imagine there's a lot of movement of that dildo.

Thanks for your help!
02/25/2012
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ScottA ScottA
Not sure if you will be using the strap-on anally or vaginally.
You can get a number of very good harnesses that will work with either doubles or singles, so I'd say look for one that works with either. I've heard very good things about the Jocque harness in this department, and the Aslan/Outlaw harnesses are also well designed.

I'm not sure what double you've tried, but there are some that have a bit of a flange or ledge for the harness to "grab" and take some of the force. I know the Vixen Nexus dildos have this, and the Fun Factory Share also will catch on a harness' O-ring (it is a good choice for G-spot stim). Another option is the Aslan Double-Up Cuff, though I haven't tried this one out.

When you're using a double do pay attention to your position choice. A position that pushes the getter's end of the dildo "down" in a tight harness will help to push your end "up".
02/26/2012
Kirsten A Kirsten A
Quote:
Originally posted by ScottA
Not sure if you will be using the strap-on anally or vaginally.
You can get a number of very good harnesses that will work with either doubles or singles, so I'd say look for one that works with either. I've heard very good things about ... More
Well, I'll be using it on both of my partners (one male, one female). The double that I tried was the Gal Pal, although I am realizing now I should have read reviews first. It does have a flange but that doesn't seem to stop it from tilting and falling out of me. It just pivots on the O-ring! The Gal Pal is made of a pretty floppy material, but it makes me question the double concept, especially in this beginner learning-how-to-drive- a-cock stage.

Thanks for the harness recommendations! I am trying to decide on a purchase before my girlfriend visits next month (we are long-distance). Funds are limited so I kind of agonize over purchases.

Positions are definitely something that we'll have to play around with! What do you recommend for a double?
02/26/2012
Modern^Spank^Anthem Modern^Spank^Anthem
you need really strong kegels
02/26/2012
ScottA ScottA
If you want a double go with either the Share or Nexus. A good single might be a better way to start, since then you won't have to worry about keeping it in. I'd say definitely silicone as you're going to be moving between anal and vaginal, and silicone can be sanitized (it also lasts forever and doesn't leach chemicals).
02/28/2012
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