warming a dildo

mfmtrios mfmtrios
I have a MFM 3some fantasy I want to play out with my wife, using a dildo. She is rather new to dildos and feels that they are too cold and most are too large. I am looking for a smaller dildo size and one that I can warm up prior to play. Any tips on microwave vs boiling for realistic temp?
07/01/2008
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Sugargirl Sugargirl
Go for silicone dildos, definitely. As I understand from your fantasy the dildo might be used also for anal play, hence, you'd better get a silicone toy as it's not porous, thus, doesn't attract bacterias and dirts. Also they can be sterilized by boiling or/and even washed in a dish-washer.
07/01/2008
Jimbo Jones Jimbo Jones
That's a fantasy of mine as well, so I totally understand.
As far as warming up, metal dildos will change temperature the most quickly, but for obvious reasons they cannot be put in the microwave. Glass is probably safest in the microwave, but 100% silicone toys can also be put in the microwave for 20 seconds to warm them up. Boiling is too hot for a realistic temp, but warm water would work fine for all of these toy materials as well.
I personally think that metal is a more intimidating material for a dildo than glass and silicone. Silicone is softer than glass making it more comfortable.
In conclusion, I might suggest the Small Silk by Tantus:
link
if you are really concered about size.
If you think she might be willing to go a little bit larger, then the Boy 1 by Downunder Toys might not be a bad choice as well:
link
Make sure you talk to her about this stuff and HAVE FUN!
07/01/2008
Sleeping Dreamer Sleeping Dreamer
If you just want a dildo to be warm, I usually wash mine under the sink for around 3 minutes or leave it in a bowl full of warm water.

As for what type of dildo. Definitely go silicone. link only has a circumference of 4".
07/01/2008
Cock Wrangler Cock Wrangler
Don't microwave! Boiling is good for cleaning, but for warm-up before play, immersing in a bowl of warm water should do it.

For realism- definitely go with silicone. If you want to spring for it, I would recommend getting something from the Vixskin line, like Goodfella. Those are about the most realistic-feeling dildos you'll find, and that one in particular has free-hanging balls.
07/01/2008
DonPedro DonPedro
Quote:
Originally posted by mfmtrios
I have a MFM 3some fantasy I want to play out with my wife, using a dildo. She is rather new to dildos and feels that they are too cold and most are too large. I am looking for a smaller dildo size and one that I can warm up prior to play. Any tips ... More
Threesomes fantasies happen to spread rather fast on this forum I see.

Anyway, to cut the long story short, I totally agree with Cock Wrangler - NO MICROWAVE!!! The best solution is warm water and surely there's nothing better than silicone.
07/01/2008
Essin' Em Essin' Em
Microwave, bad. Hot water, good. Test on the inside of your wrist before taking it ANYWHERE near the naughty bits.

Silcione FTW (for the win!)!
07/09/2008
mfmtrios mfmtrios
Thanks for your input everyone! I will try soaking my dildo some hot water prior to use. We have been using a cyberskin extender currently and am browsing this site for silicone. Will let you know how it all works out.
07/13/2008
trios trios
The jury is still out with heating the dildo. I tried using warm bath water prior to the fun, but by the time we got into it, the cock cooled down rather quickly. This was cyberskin. Anyone know how long silicone takes to cool down. i.e. do I need to have a pot of hot water by the bed?
09/15/2008
Sleeping Dreamer Sleeping Dreamer
Also. Look into the Heart Massager here... you boil it on the stove, I've rested dildos on top of it plenty of times to warm them up.. it works quite well.
09/15/2008
Jimbo Jones Jimbo Jones
That's a very good idea sleeping dreamer.
Threesome, since you ran into trouble, I will suggest that if the dildo will be sitting after being warmed up that you make it a little warmer than you want it to be and dry it off completely afterward and then keep it wrapped in a towel so that it is insulated against the cool air of the room. Also, make sure you give it some time at the warm temperature so that the heat is able to penetrate all the way into the toy (especially if it is silicone) so that the heat will take longer to escape as well.
09/16/2008
Cock Wrangler Cock Wrangler
Quote:
Originally posted by trios
The jury is still out with heating the dildo. I tried using warm bath water prior to the fun, but by the time we got into it, the cock cooled down rather quickly. This was cyberskin. Anyone know how long silicone takes to cool down. i.e. do I need to ... More
It should be easier with silicone, since you can actually safely submerge it in hot water. I would say to do that (hot, not boiling) for 5 minutes or so, then take it out and just wait long enough for it to be comfortable to touch before use. It won't lose heat as quickly as cyberskin, most likely.
09/16/2008
David Berry David Berry
Quote:
Originally posted by mfmtrios
I have a MFM 3some fantasy I want to play out with my wife, using a dildo. She is rather new to dildos and feels that they are too cold and most are too large. I am looking for a smaller dildo size and one that I can warm up prior to play. Any tips ... More
try these products to warm up any dildo or vibrator, link
02/24/2010
trios trios
Thanks to all who contributed! I recently bought a silicone Mustang. Yes, silicone does make all the difference! It seems to stay closer to room air temp at rest and warms up very fast! I use a heating pad prior to play and that seems to do the trick! Also warm up the lube in the heating pad at the same time because that can be the source of coldness too!
04/29/2010
yayy yayy
Quote:
Originally posted by David Berry
try these products to warm up any dildo or vibrator, link
cool
12/30/2010
ScottA ScottA
Quote:
Originally posted by David Berry
try these products to warm up any dildo or vibrator, link
I always use a pitcher of warm water. Works well, doesn't need to be plugged in.
12/30/2010
hornypoet69 hornypoet69
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Originally posted by Cock Wrangler
Don't microwave! Boiling is good for cleaning, but for warm-up before play, immersing in a bowl of warm water should do it.For realism- definitely go with silicone. If you want to spring for it, I would recommend getting something from the ... More
Free hanging balls? Like they flop about just like the real thing? I'd honestly find that creepy, but a morbid curiosity drives me to ask which dildo this is, and if there is a video review.
12/30/2010
Mr. E Mr. E
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Originally posted by hornypoet69
Free hanging balls? Like they flop about just like the real thing? I'd honestly find that creepy, but a morbid curiosity drives me to ask which dildo this is, and if there is a video review.
Cock Wrangler was referring to the Goodfella. I don't have it, so I cannot comment as to how freely they hang or how much they flop around. Maybe someone else will comment on that.

Goodfella
12/30/2010
hornypoet69 hornypoet69
Quote:
Originally posted by Mr. E
Cock Wrangler was referring to the Goodfella. I don't have it, so I cannot comment as to how freely they hang or how much they flop around. Maybe someone else will comment on that.

Goodfella ... More
Yep, definitely creepy. Never liked realistic dildos, but the balls make it weirder. But to each their own, I suppose.
12/30/2010
kittychilla kittychilla
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Originally posted by Essin' Em
Microwave, bad. Hot water, good. Test on the inside of your wrist before taking it ANYWHERE near the naughty bits.Silcione FTW (for the win!)!
i've microwaved a silicone toy a few times. o_o but only about..3? times. no damage on it yet. D:
01/02/2011
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by Sleeping Dreamer
If you just want a dildo to be warm, I usually wash mine under the sink for around 3 minutes or leave it in a bowl full of warm water.As for what type of dildo. Definitely go silicone. link only has a circumference of 4". ... More
Great idea
01/02/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by David Berry
try these products to warm up any dildo or vibrator, link
These products look cool - but if you have a heating pad somewhere at home, it's a pretty good multi-use device! We use ours all winter long for heating up my girl's favorite metal and glass dildos.
01/02/2011
ToyGeek ToyGeek
Don't microwave or boil something and then immediately put it near skin. A heating pad will do nicely.
01/02/2011
Mr. E Mr. E
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
These products look cool - but if you have a heating pad somewhere at home, it's a pretty good multi-use device! We use ours all winter long for heating up my girl's favorite metal and glass dildos.
I like the heat pad idea.

Now, just where did I put that old heat pad???
01/06/2011
GirlyGirlRed GirlyGirlRed
most will end up melting
12/14/2011
Rawhide Rawhide
Honestly I've been warming them up with my hands all these years... sure, warm water or a heating pad will work, but most of the time it's going to be too labor intensive. With VixSkin a nice handjob at the start gets them up to body temp within minutes.
12/14/2011
Boobs and Lubes Boobs and Lubes
Silicone in a hot water bath in the sink.
02/07/2012
Nice to Eat you Nice to Eat you
We put it under an electric blanket. It's ready when we are.
02/08/2012
The Majikat The Majikat
I like the blanket idea!
04/22/2012
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