Which strapless strap on is best for female/female sex?

Contributor: Madeira Madeira 09/18/2010

I was wondering which strapless strap on is best for female/female sex?

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Contributor: Madeira Madeira
Which dildo is easiest to hold in without a harness? (due to factors like weight, shape, etc)
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Beck
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daveysgirl , Sarah <3
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ButchAndFemme , minny , A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , Solar Ray , Kylar , Sweet-Justice , jankit , chidoll , Lolla Munz , w-o-name , jay28 , ichwillwaffels , The Curious Couple , boobookittyfuk , pinkcupcakes , Sexy Alex , Miss Anonymous , mizzmilla , IslandGoddess , ParisLove , Breas , LuciFaery , Ghost , Anjulie , padmeamidala , Jon S , TameTemptress , kellyg , -BillD , sweetpea12 , deltalima , icelandia , LavenderSkies , ksparkles16 , Falsepast , Bethy Cassatt , sugar&spikes , BlooJay , ashboo32 , Graniteal , Dr Anal
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minny , Phoenix713 , jankit , eggiweg , MeliPixie
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Lady Marmelade , zracer , Beck
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~LaUr3n~ , kermi91 , Lady Marmelade , Howells
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iceman681 , jreed24 , XXXXXXXXXXXXX , Liz2 , meganthomas , mnc5051 , Tart , Faith , dv8 , Herp , Lio , Miss T , s2 , Kylar , Drifter86 , rdytogo , Kaltir , potstickers , chidoll , xX Plepsyt Xx , barrettbn2 , SiNn , Kdlips , Pinkhare , toysforall , mizzmilla , MeliPixie , Toys in Love , carenautilus , BabyL0ve , unfulfilled , elli , Missmarc , Apirka , SMichelle , Falsepast , MissCandyland , TiffyPixie , bellea
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Total votes: 95 (86 voters)
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Contributor: ScottA ScottA
Share is probably the easiest, followed by Feeldoe
09/19/2010
Contributor: ButchAndFemme ButchAndFemme
My lady and I have had the Share for over 2 years and we use it almost everyday. It feels great on both ends and is quite easy to get the hang of. The material is wonderfully soft and it has just the right amount of flexibility.
10/10/2010
Contributor: Greta Greta
Share - the regular one- is easier to keep in. I have reviews on both dildo. I haven't tried the XL, yet.

Share: link
Feeldoe: link
10/29/2010
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
I have never been successful with a strapless strap-on. Beyond the distraction of trying to keep it in place, I expel it just prior to orgasm w/o a harness.
I heave used all the above doubles (different models) except the Mantric and using a quality harness such as the Aslan Jaguar or the Spare Parts with them gives me an enjoyable experience.
10/29/2010
Contributor: mnc5051 mnc5051
I want one very bad!
11/06/2010
Contributor: Not here Not here
I don't actually have a reason to buy one yet, (no lady friend to play with ) but I am also interested in one of these. I figure I can always just use it for masturbation until I get to play with a girl again!
11/06/2010
Contributor: kermi91 kermi91
I've never tried, but every lesbian I know raves about the nexus. they say it's comfortable and easy to maneuver.
11/11/2010
Contributor: A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople)
I'd pick Share XL because of its texture.
02/06/2011
Contributor: Herp Herp
None are really that easy, but they are pretty easy with practice.
02/10/2011
Contributor: MMMARY MMMARY
Quote:
Originally posted by ScottA
Share is probably the easiest, followed by Feeldoe
The Share does not have a vibrator, and the Feeldoe is tough silicone. Looking for a strapless strap-on for two beginner females w/ vibe. My GF is on the smaller side, and will be the receiver (most times) me on the other hand, can handle something w/ much more girth, and I will be the giver. Your thoughts?
03/02/2011
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
Quote:
Originally posted by MMMARY
The Share does not have a vibrator, and the Feeldoe is tough silicone. Looking for a strapless strap-on for two beginner females w/ vibe. My GF is on the smaller side, and will be the receiver (most times) me on the other hand, can handle something ... more
If you can deal with stiff silicone you might want to look at the Mantric Sysil:Edge. The vibrator "horn" can stimulate two women, it's curved to hit the G-spot, and it's pretty slim.

If that doesn't work you might look at the Nexus Maximus. The downside there is length, but it does vibrate, is a moderate width, and is soft.
03/02/2011
Contributor: Sweet-Justice Sweet-Justice
I was wondering this as well. Over all I think the share XL would be the "Easiest" for the sheer fact that it is larger, but that also means its heavier.
03/02/2011
Contributor: jankit jankit
The Feeldoe is great for blowjobs and handjobs, but is tricky to hold in or position for mutual pleasure on insertion without a harness. Haven't tried the Share yet, but it looks like the head and the curve of the thing might be better for penetration purposes.
03/17/2011
Contributor: Kdlips Kdlips
all the same to me
07/21/2011
Contributor: toysforall toysforall
I've heard great things about the feeldoe, and we're considering one for ourselves....
08/26/2011
Contributor: Miss Anonymous Miss Anonymous
Share XL... I love the color and the shape of this one.
08/28/2011
Contributor: mizzmilla mizzmilla
I feel like they're all about the same. I really want a feeldoe though.
08/28/2011
Contributor: Owl Identified Owl Identified
I have the original Share and the Realdoe Feeldoe which is the same as the original Feeldoe, just with a realistic texture. I primarily have sex with my male-bodied partner currently, but do have sex with female-bodied folks as well. I think which one will be right for you depends on what you and your girlfriend are like in terms of anatomy.

First off, ALL of these are really heavy with the exception with the Share XS, which I honestly think is useless for anything except mild anal stimulation. So if you want to use this without a strap-on, even the smallest vagina with the strongest PC muscles will need a hand or two to help support things. That kind of ties of your movement in some ways during sex, so I highly recommend a harness in addition to any of these - just makes things easier. Both the Share and the Feeldoe work great in a harness, but I do like my Share better just because it's a bit more flexible at the neck between the bulb and the shaft, which lets it move more with you when you fuck.

Overall, they're both great quality. I prefer the Share because even the Realdoe Feeldoe is just too firm for my tastes - too hard and inhuman. Plus, the Share comes in that nice matte texture that lube clings nicely too. Just be warned that the bulb of the Share is HUGE. Seriously. The pictures on the site cannot properly communicate how big this thing is. I always, always, always have to warm up quite a lot before I can use it comfortably, although when I do it is REALLY stimulating and gives me a lot of AWESOME G-spot stimulation. I can cum with it in while I'm thrusting just because the pressure is so intense. The Feeldoe is smaller, but less stimulating to me due to the shape and size. However, if you don't want to feel REALLY full during your play then I wouldn't go for the Share.

If you have any questions or want to see pictures, just shoot me a private message or comment here
08/28/2011
Contributor: Dr Anal Dr Anal
feeldoe more all the way
08/30/2011
Contributor: Anjulie Anjulie
I def think the share is
09/18/2011
Contributor: padmeamidala padmeamidala
Quote:
Originally posted by Madeira
Which dildo is easiest to hold in without a harness? (due to factors like weight, shape, etc)
Share EL (Fuchsia)
09/18/2011
Contributor: carenautilus carenautilus
A lot depends on your anatomy. I love my share to bits, but if you're a tighter woman you're going to find it uncomfortable. the feeldoe more is good for a wide range of body types, but not for everyone.
09/19/2011
Contributor: Rawhide Rawhide
Personally I've never used one, never saw the point in investing the cash because of all the people I know who have used them, everyone recommends using a harness. Not one said they regularly use it without one.

It seems like a nice idea, but I don't want to be worrying about keeping my muscles clenched around a bulb when I'm trying to fuck someone. And anyway, I love the feel of a leather harness.
10/07/2011
Contributor: WhiskeyHot WhiskeyHot
Quote:
Originally posted by Owl Identified
I have the original Share and the Realdoe Feeldoe which is the same as the original Feeldoe, just with a realistic texture. I primarily have sex with my male-bodied partner currently, but do have sex with female-bodied folks as well. I think which ... more
Thank you for the informative post. My girl and I are excited to get our first double, but all of the givers ends look like they may be too small for her liking. She wants as much as possible on her end while staying with the 'strapless strapon' style(although we will be using a harness) We realize that it is hard to judge based on pics, so here I am, begging for your opinion......it is so jard to wait!
02/01/2012
Contributor: sweetpea12 sweetpea12
Quote:
Originally posted by Madeira
Which dildo is easiest to hold in without a harness? (due to factors like weight, shape, etc)
Honestly they all seem really difficult to manipulate.
02/14/2012
Contributor: icelandia icelandia
Share XL
09/14/2012
Contributor: Bethy Cassatt Bethy Cassatt
The Share XL.
09/16/2012
Contributor: MissCandyland MissCandyland
I'm not sure, but the Share XL looks good.
09/16/2012
Contributor: Aussie Girl Aussie Girl
Quote:
Originally posted by Owl Identified
I have the original Share and the Realdoe Feeldoe which is the same as the original Feeldoe, just with a realistic texture. I primarily have sex with my male-bodied partner currently, but do have sex with female-bodied folks as well. I think which ... more
Can i ask you something?
I really want to buy one... i was really going for the feldoe..
two questions:
does look realistic wearing it, or look way too weird?
and the vibration is good, if doensnt is it possible to insert another bullet???
Thanks.. really! =)
11/05/2013
Contributor: PadoruLover PadoruLover
nexus sir
04/26/2014
Contributor: Madeira Madeira
Which toy is most pleasurable for the person giving the penetration?
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ParisLove
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iceman681 , XXXXXXXXXXXXX , meganthomas , minny , A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , Lio , Lady Marmelade , Miss T , rdytogo , potstickers , chidoll , xX Plepsyt Xx , Solar Ray , The Curious Couple , SiNn , Sexy Alex , IslandGoddess , Sarah <3 , Ghost , kellyg , -BillD , unfulfilled , Apirka , deltalima , LavenderSkies , Falsepast , MissCandyland , Missmarc , ashboo32 , Dr Anal
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~LaUr3n~ , minny , dv8 , boobookittyfuk , Howells , Owl Identified , Ghost , Anjulie , TameTemptress , carenautilus , Jon S , deltalima
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minny , Lady Marmelade
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minny
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minny , Phoenix713
2
minny
1
Total votes: 49 (41 voters)
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Contributor: ScottA ScottA
The vibes all stimulate the giver pretty well. The Nexus when used with a harness can be set up to "thrust" in you a little, whereas the others give more of a rocking stimulation against the G-spot and clit.
09/19/2010
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
There is one big difference with the vibes: the Sysil:Edge has a vibrating "horn" that can stimulate both users at full penetration. If you want a large dildo I don't know if it will make up for the small diameter of the Sysil:Edge, but compared to the Share XS you'll probably notice a positive difference.
10/29/2010
Contributor: mnc5051 mnc5051
Share
11/06/2010
Contributor: Anjulie Anjulie
Share and nexus are pretty close. Both stimulate the wearer well
09/18/2011
Contributor: MissCandyland MissCandyland
Share XS
09/16/2012
Contributor: Madeira Madeira
Which of these toys is most pleasurable for a female person "receiving" penetration?
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sasweetheart89 , dv8 , A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , Solar Ray , chidoll , boobookittyfuk , Howells , IslandGoddess , Sarah <3 , TameTemptress , carenautilus , kellyg , deltalima
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iceman681 , XXXXXXXXXXXXX , meganthomas , minny , Lio , Lady Marmelade , Miss T , rdytogo , potstickers , xX Plepsyt Xx , chidoll , The Curious Couple , SiNn , ParisLove , Ghost , Jon S , -BillD , carenautilus , unfulfilled , Apirka , deltalima , LavenderSkies , Falsepast , MissCandyland , ashboo32
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Phoenix713
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Anjulie
1
Total votes: 40 (37 voters)
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Contributor: ScottA ScottA
Depends what you want. Feeldoe has some inside vibrations coupled with G-spot stimulation, Share XL has plenty of texture, Sysil has the little clit vibe nub that stimulates both users (and the shaft has texturing and conducts vibrations well).

Nexus is great if you need to have a flexible dildo
09/19/2010
Contributor: mnc5051 mnc5051
Feeldoe
11/06/2010
Contributor: A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople)
Share XS and Share XL for the giver and the receiver respectively.
02/07/2011
Contributor: Anjulie Anjulie
I like nexus the best
09/18/2011
Contributor: MissCandyland MissCandyland
Feeldoe more
09/16/2012
Contributor: Madeira Madeira
Which product is the best in terms of maintenance and lifespan?
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Howells
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sasweetheart89 , dv8 , Solar Ray , boobookittyfuk , ParisLove , kellyg
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XXXXXXXXXXXXX , meganthomas , minny , A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , Lio , Miss T , rdytogo , potstickers , Lady Marmelade , chidoll , xX Plepsyt Xx , The Curious Couple , Howells , IslandGoddess , Sarah <3 , SiNn , Ghost , -BillD , Jon S , unfulfilled , Apirka , deltalima , Falsepast , MissCandyland , ashboo32
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Phoenix713
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iceman681 , Anjulie
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Total votes: 35 (34 voters)
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Contributor: ScottA ScottA
They all will last a lifetime as long as you're slightly careful. Excluding the vibe bullets, of course
09/19/2010
Contributor: mnc5051 mnc5051
Feeldoe
11/06/2010
Contributor: Owl Identified Owl Identified
Quote:
Originally posted by ScottA
They all will last a lifetime as long as you're slightly careful. Excluding the vibe bullets, of course
Agreed!
08/28/2011
Contributor: SiNn SiNn
Quote:
Originally posted by Madeira
Which product is the best in terms of maintenance and lifespan?
i have to go with teh feeldoe more
08/30/2011
Contributor: Anjulie Anjulie
Quote:
Originally posted by ScottA
They all will last a lifetime as long as you're slightly careful. Excluding the vibe bullets, of course
Agreed they are all pretty sturdy
09/18/2011
Contributor: Madeira Madeira
Which toy, in your opinion, is best over all?
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iceman681 , XXXXXXXXXXXXX , meganthomas , A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , Lio , Lady Marmelade , Miss T , potstickers , xX Plepsyt Xx , Solar Ray , chidoll , The Curious Couple , SiNn , ParisLove , Ghost , -BillD , Jon S , kellyg , unfulfilled , Apirka , Falsepast , ashboo32
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sasweetheart89 , dv8 , potstickers , boobookittyfuk , Howells , IslandGoddess , Anjulie , kellyg , MissCandyland
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minny , Phoenix713 , Sarah <3
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Anjulie
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Contributor: mnc5051 mnc5051
Feeldoe
11/06/2010
Contributor: Spilock Spilock
I'm surprised that the Share XS gotted voted best overall for female/female. Seems like it was made for an anal scenario, and even then it's tiny.
04/08/2011
Contributor: SiNn SiNn
Quote:
Originally posted by Madeira
Which toy, in your opinion, is best over all?
share XS blue for sure
07/21/2011
Contributor: Anjulie Anjulie
Nexus and share are both tied
09/18/2011
Contributor: Madeira Madeira
Which toy fits most easily into a harness (if we feel like a little added stability)?
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iceman681 , XXXXXXXXXXXXX , minny , sasweetheart89 , A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , Lio , potstickers , Lady Marmelade , chidoll , xX Plepsyt Xx , Solar Ray , The Curious Couple , boobookittyfuk , Howells , IslandGoddess , ParisLove , Sarah <3 , SiNn , Ghost , -BillD , Jon S , kellyg , Apirka , ashboo32
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dv8 , chidoll
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Phoenix713
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Contributor: ScottA ScottA
If you get the right harness they'll all work. With the big ones (Feeldoe More and Share XL) you'll need to be careful to get a harness that they can fit in - for instance the Feeldoe More doesn't fit through the hole in the pad of our Aslan Wonder Woman very well.

The Mantric is better without a harness, since the harness usually gets in the way of someone and the clit vibe. I suppose a big O-ring might work.
09/19/2010
Contributor: mnc5051 mnc5051
Mantric Sysil edge
11/06/2010
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
Quote:
Originally posted by mnc5051
Mantric Sysil edge
Odd - I found that the Sysil Edge required more care because of the way the clit vibe should work for F/F sex being blocked by the harness.
11/06/2010
Contributor: SiNn SiNn
Quote:
Originally posted by Madeira
Which toy fits most easily into a harness (if we feel like a little added stability)?
Mantric Sysil edge in my opinion works the best
08/30/2011
Contributor: Anjulie Anjulie
For me nexus works best
09/18/2011