First toy for my wife

Kindred Kindred
I'd like to get a first toy for my wife as a gift. However, to be honest, I am completely overwhelmed with the amount of choices out there. So, Ive come here looking for some advice and suggestions.

She is 41 and I would classify as somewhat conservative. However, I believe she would be very open to a toy. I should add that we have some toys that we've used together, but realized that they are all really for me. Therefore, I would like to get something specifically for her that we could also use while together.

My first thought was a G-Spot vibe. Some look very beautiful and non-intimidating. So, I'm asking for any and all suggestions. Thanks in advance.
08/11/2010
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twistedheartsx twistedheartsx
I'm not a toy expert, but I can recommend that a lot of us women love rabbits. I guess they may be a little intimidating for beginners, but you said you've used some toys already. It's definitely a 'for her' toy since you have some that are sort of 'for you'. I'm sure the advanced toy users will be along and help you greatly!
08/11/2010
Kindred Kindred
Thanks. Do you have any favorite rabbits? I'm hoping to get some specific recommendations since the choices are overwhelming.
08/11/2010
twistedheartsx twistedheartsx
This rabbit I own, I absolutely love. link

If she doesn't like anal stimulation, I would go with something with not so many buttons. If you type "rabbit" into the search bar, you can sort by price or rating. I suggest searching by rating and then seeing if you spot any toys that would stimulate your wife since you know what she does and doesn't like. All the toys have different reviews for that reason as well
08/11/2010
NuMe NuMe
I sent you a message through EF's message system because there was just too much information and was easier to help you that way.
08/11/2010
MuffysPinguLove MuffysPinguLove
I highly, highly, recommend the Gigi if you are looking for a vibe to explore g spot stimulation. It's made out of silicone so it's body safe and easy to clean. It's rechargeable so you don't have to worry about replacing batteries. Plus, it comes with a nice little storage bag and box. It's perfect for beginners, because it doesn't look intimidating and is very user friendly. The price tag is a little higher than some vibes, but I think it's worth it for the quality
08/11/2010
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
This is my wife's favorite vibe right now. Smaller size, soft and flexible and has multiple speeds.

Could you maybe show her some toys here and get some idea of what she likes? This has worked for my wife, I just don't tell her I am buying her one and surprise her with it.
08/11/2010
Passionate Pastor Passionate Pastor
Jimmyjane Iconic Smoothie. For the price there is not a better vibe out there and the design is versatile and non-threatening.
08/11/2010
Destri Destri
Quote:
Originally posted by Kindred
I'd like to get a first toy for my wife as a gift. However, to be honest, I am completely overwhelmed with the amount of choices out there. So, Ive come here looking for some advice and suggestions.

She is 41 and I would classify as ... More
I have been reviewing toys for years on this site, and of all the toys I have gotten, this one is consistently my favorite:

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I call it my old faithful, it never lets me down.
08/12/2010
Envy Envy
Rabbits or a bullet vibe might be good. Gspot if she can orgasm from internal stim is good too.
08/12/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
I'd recommend a standard phallic vibe, so you can help with oral etc and be in on the action.

We have a lot of toys (My Man and I) and we don't even own a rabbit yet, mainly because I feel there would be "nothing for him to do" with a rabbit in the picture. This is purely our choice, though, so you may have different ideas.

We use a standard, phallic silicone vibe for use during oral or to use vaginally during DP sessions. We have a good time with these and they were the start of our toy collection. These, along with a strong clit vibe, anything from a bullet to a Wahl or the Hitachi would be good when she is alone OR with you.

A good number of the Fun Factory vibes would be a good starter.

Here's some nice starter toys, they are simple and the shapes are familiar. Also, getting a good quality toy REALLY saves on aggravation, as they work well, the materials are safe and women are less likely to have a less than pleasant experience and think, "I don't like sex toys." These are HIGH quality toys, and spending a little more is worth the satisfaction.

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this is a smaller one

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08/12/2010
SexyySarah SexyySarah
I agree with the rabbits. I've tried many, and a inexpensive one link and this one is a bit pricier, but it's a true keeper.link, and the jack rabbits are always a hit!
08/12/2010
Kindred Kindred
Thank you all for your suggestions. I have some more research to do.
08/12/2010
SydVicious SydVicious
I think if you are looking for something in a g-spot vibe you should take a look at the JimmyJane Form 6. It's sleek and beautiful and comes in beautiful packaging for gift giving. It's also totally waterproof and has a storage case. It's the very same vibe I recommended to my own mother.
08/12/2010
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
From my perspective I agree that Rabbit vibes are great toys - but I don't think they are right for an introductory toy - and a Form 6 is way too expensive (my opinion for a anything but a committed aficionado.

I like your idea of a g-spot vibe - but mostly because they also work great as clit vibes. For beginners - having a didlo or vibe penetrate them for the first time can be too much.

I'd take a traditional vibe and incorporate it into an external massage - working it around and teasing her clit to see what her tolerance is before going for direct stimulator or penetration.

Here are some inexpensive choices - that my wife still likes after more than 10 years:

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Happy hunting and good luck
08/12/2010
Phoenix713 Phoenix713
I would try one of the LELO toys, which are classy and beautiful, or I would go with a rabbit.
11/05/2010
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