Need some help on how to wear corset/bustiers

Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
I feel so stupid posting this here - but here goes.

As many of you know, I'm 51 and I live in a small conservative town. Up until a few months ago, I always thought that showing ANY cleavage was "indecent" (I was brought up by a very very strict mom).

I would love to wear some of my corsets, etc. that I've gotten on here - but not as they are. They don't fit me well enough to wear them "as is" and I feel like I either need to wear something "over" them like a shrug (only with a bit more modesty) or something under them. But I have no idea what to wear with them.

My daughter loves her velveteen one from Coquette and wanted to go with sort of a steampunk look (which she hasn't quite achieved yet) - but here she is trying it on with a blouse.





I think I need something like this - but I don't wear white because I'm warm-toned (she's cool-toned like her dad) so I tend to wear creme and ivory. I do wear a lot of red and purple, etc. but don't know what to put with my corsets.

The ones I'm talking about in particular are:

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and this one I'd love to be able to do something with:

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I also have these on order and due in on Thursday:

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Is there some way I could wear these and still be "modest"? I don't want to wear them JUST in the bedroom....

Please - when making recommendations - be specific. I'm a size 18/20 in the top (used to wearing 22/24 to "hide"). Should I have a collar? v-neck? (a crew neck looks horrid on me).

Should I be looking for a t-shirt type material or dressy? (I hate dressy).
01/24/2012
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BobbiJay BobbiJay
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Originally posted by Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
I feel so stupid posting this here - but here goes.

As many of you know, I'm 51 and I live in a small conservative town. Up until a few months ago, I always thought that showing ANY cleavage was "indecent" (I was brought up by a ... More
I am a 16/18 personally wear tank tops with them. Mainly because I have a large breast size (DD) this way you don't have it baggy on top and tight on bottom. You could also try these:

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Or this:

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Or even long sleeves like this:

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01/24/2012
Ryuson Ryuson
I personally really like the look of a collared shirt under or a dress shirt! I would maybe go for more of a slinky material than a T-shirt material, but you can always go with a long sleeved t-shirt. I would for SURE go with cream. Cream would look perfect with those!

I think that a V-neck would be hot, but if you live in a conservative town you can always go for a more traditional scoop neck. That would still give a nice neckline but wouldn't give such plunging cleavage!
01/25/2012
Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
Well, I did this - not sure how it looks exactly...



It probably needs different pants or something but I like the top two colors together.
01/26/2012
Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
Well, I did this - not sure how it looks exactly...



It probably needs different pants or something but I like the top two colors together. ... More
Definitely different pants. Maybe some nice jeans or something?

I like the top two colors together a lot, although I'm not as big a fan of what the bustier does to the sleeves of your T-shirt. Maybe something with cap sleeves, or something that's more form fitting in the armpit area? But you've definitely given me a few ideas for my own pieces.
01/26/2012
NurseKitty NurseKitty
I have seen a lot of people wear them as "under" pieces almost like camisoles under a pretty jacket or cardigan. I also think that you want less volume on the pants, go for a nice sleek tailored pair of pants
01/26/2012
Beck Beck
I like the original pics, I would wear that. The blue with the black corset doesn't really look that right, since the sleeves ruffle up and you do need different pants white ones maybe?

You can always get a sweater to go over top of them too. Like these.

I would try a red button up top similar to the white one with that black velvet corset.
01/26/2012
NurseKitty NurseKitty
I have seen a lot of people wear them as "under" pieces almost like camisoles under a pretty jacket or cardigan. Like this

This is nice casual look, just make sure the jacket or cardigan is slightly fitted, you want to draw attention to your figure.

Also I think of your corsets the best one to try is the leopard print one you have on order. I don't tend to find the corsets with frills and lace accents work overly well for out of the bedroom wear, they look too costumey to me.

I tend to go with sleek corsets on top of snuggly fitted shirts, the key is keeping the volume down to a minimum. So go with a tight fitting long sleeve or tight to the arm cap sleeve for casual. Pair with well tailored, fitted jeans or pants.

Also I tent to go monochromatic, pick one color throughout and use the corset as the color accent. Like black shirt and pants with the leopard would be killer on you
01/26/2012
Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
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Originally posted by Beck
I like the original pics, I would wear that. The blue with the black corset doesn't really look that right, since the sleeves ruffle up and you do need different pants white ones maybe?

You can always get a sweater to go over top of them ... More
Beck,

I would wear that too but that is my daughter wearing it - and she's smaller.

I'm trying to find something that can go with the ruffled corsets - I hate long sleeve shirts and I'm not a big fan of button up ones w/ cuffs.

I'm so tempted to just sell these because while they're pretty - just not sure if they're "me".

Showed the picture to my son and he was like "um...that's not "mom-like"".

I wanna stop being mom-like though.
01/26/2012
Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
Thanks NurseKitty.

I think I've decided that for my free item (which I can request tomorrow) for review - I'm going to go with this because I can wear it with something.

My feelings are kinda hurt right now about the other one - I know it didn't look the best on me but hubby just sorta blew it off and was like, "you're wearing that out to lunch?"

Well - not really I guess.

I think I'm gonna go kick his butt - or I would - but he just apologized a bit ago for his lack of tact.
01/26/2012
aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
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Originally posted by Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
I feel so stupid posting this here - but here goes.

As many of you know, I'm 51 and I live in a small conservative town. Up until a few months ago, I always thought that showing ANY cleavage was "indecent" (I was brought up by a ... More
are those kitty scratches on her neck? i ask because i have pretty much the exact same ones on mine right now... kitties need manicures!!
01/26/2012
Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
This is a chemise from DreamGirl that I'm thinking of trying to remove the bottom lace from so I can wear it over a shirt (maybe not this one - don't feel like going through my wardrobe at the moment to look for something else).

01/26/2012
Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
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Originally posted by aliceinthehole
are those kitty scratches on her neck? i ask because i have pretty much the exact same ones on mine right now... kitties need manicures!!
rabbit scratched from a 14 pound rabbit that didn't want to go back in her cage.
01/26/2012
NurseKitty NurseKitty
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Originally posted by Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
Thanks NurseKitty.

I think I've decided that for my free item (which I can request tomorrow) for review - I'm going to go with this because I can wear it with something.

My feelings are kinda hurt right now about the other one - ... More
Ohh yeah that is a HOT corset! You could totally do that out somewhere!

Don't feel bad about the other corset, oddly it seems to be more appealing to women than men. I showed a picture of it to my hubby thinking he would like to see me in it and he was like "what the hell is that and why are there so many ruffles around the butt?" Even funnier the one you are going to request was his idea of hot lingerie.

A thought hit me, lace shirts seem to be all the rage right now try one of those. I would take the corset shopping and try it on over some shirts and see what works. For me I always pair my corsets with soft scoop necks that don't fall more than about 2 inches below my collar bone
01/26/2012
Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
First of all, the corset I wanted to get for my free assignment is not available as I guess they already have it out for 3 reviews.

I will wait until later next week when I have more gift cards and some refunds and do some buyout assignments and get that one.

My 7 Till Midnight order came in - I LOVE LOVE LOVE the Basic Instinct corset although I'm not sure if it is too big. I need to take pictures and show y'all. I actually was wearing it with brown pants when the UPS man arrived earlier today with another package and I wasn't totally embarrassed to go out on the porch and get the package (the dogs were on the porch so I was meeting the guy at the gate).

I hope to take pictures of some corsets tomorrow and get some feedback from y'all about if they're too big or not. The thing is - the bust is almost too big but the hip is "just about there"...so I don't know if I could wear a smaller size.

Oh - and the Basic instinct one ZIPS UP the front....so easy to put on.
01/27/2012
Crystal1 Crystal1
I would go with either a light cardigan or a cropped, bolero-style shrug.

This one is really simple and would go with almost anything. (I'd keep whatever you wear over/under it really simple, since most corsets are pretty heavy on the pattern/detail.)

Actually, if Amazon will let me link to search results, here are a whole lot of options!

I'd probably avoid the lace ones, to keep it from looking *too* bedroomy, but I really like the one with the sequin trim.
01/29/2012
Crystal1 Crystal1
An open cardigan like this could be really cute, too!

And uh oh, now I've started browsing for myself. Time to step awaaaaay from the shopping...
01/29/2012
Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
Oh Crystal...what HAVE you done to me? I'm in love with the last one in particular but that search you linked to...WOW.

I broke down and ordered two t-shirts from Old Navy today. They're supposedly somewhat tight/dressy and they have cap sleeves and a scooped (but not too low) neck. I'm hoping they might work under something.

Good thing I'm halfway falling asleep right now or I'd be wanting to order all this stuff you linked to...and I'm BROKE.

Wonder if Amazon would take Eden Gift cards?
01/30/2012
Crystal1 Crystal1
I had to resist buying some from myself- I need something for over corsets, too! But alas, poverty.
01/30/2012
NurseKitty NurseKitty
I have plenty of things to wear over the corset, just need a corset now. All mine don't fit anymore boo!
02/05/2012
Enchantedkitty Enchantedkitty
I like wearing white shirts under black corsets or just wearing a light sweater over.
02/10/2012
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