Desensitizing lubes for anal sex

My friend told me I should use a numbing solution to enjoy anal.Is that true that I will feel no pain at all? Reply

I'd not advice you any of numbing lubes cause there's the simple matter of not knowing when something painful is occurring. When a sexual act is painful, it's not being done properly. The pain is your body's way of saying "no, bad idea". When you numb a body part, you could be doing irreversible harm to it and not even know. But sex is supposed to FEEL GOOD! If it doesn't, then something isn't right and you need to adjust what you're doing, not numb the pain in order to keep doing something improperly. Reply

I never choose lubes and creams that have any numbing agent in them cause the pain is your body's way of protecting you from injury and if you dull the pain, you'll end up hurt! Reply

Remember that numbing the pain TONIGHT just makes it worse tomorrow! That is if you ignore the pain, you will have MORE pain after the numbing wears off. Reply

I HIGHLY HIGHLY HIGHLY advise against ANY lube/cream/etc (for anal, oral, etc) that had desensitizing ingredients. Pain is your body's way of telling you that something is wrong. While anal sex may feel odd/different/even slightly uncomfortable, it should NEVER EVER be painful. If it is something you're interested it for yourself (and not just because your partner wants it), then work up to it. Always use a ton of water based or silicone based lube, start with a few fingers, maybe a small dildo or plug (always with a flanged base!) and work your way up from there. It may take quite a few tries, but if anything HURTS, stop right away. That's your body saying "NO!" Reply

While I agree with Essin' Em, pain is the bodies way of saying something's wrong... I actually love tthe Trojan Extended Pleasures. We've tried all sorts of lubes/condoms/etc. but these work the best for us. The Durex version was a joke and the Anal-eze wore off too easily. What we use the numbing for is the INITIAL insertion for her. Once she is stretched out enough the lube with either wear off or we just use Astroglide.

I will say that the first few times we tried anal, we used just regular lube. If you are feeling any extreme pain or notice blood or anything else that would be cause for concern, something's wrong. Stop immediately and see a doctor, especially if seeing blood. However, if you notice that it's just that initial stretch that is your real need to be numbed, maybe give the numbing lube a try, or just spend more time getting used to your fingers/toy/partner.

-Em t Reply

Throw out all the desensitizing creams and lotions! You should NOT use anything that can numb you! The pain is your friend...it will tell you when to slow down and when to stop. Reply

Anal sex should not hurt period! If it hurts during initial insertion, that’s a huge red flag that the body is not ready for it yet. Massage helps loosen up the muscles, so it is a great idea to gently massage the anus using a lubed and gloved hand BEFORE any penetrating is done. After the outer sphincter muscle is relaxed you can work on gently massaging the inner sphincter muscle until it gets used to the idea and loosens up some. You can't control the inner muscle; it will open up when it's good and ready. That's where a lot of the pain comes from; people are too impatient to let their body decide when it's ready. After that point a finger works good to get the body used to some penetration so that a toy or penis can be slowly and gently inserted when the person on the RECEIVING end is COMPLETELY ready for it. Reply