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I need some suggestions, I have a hard time arousing, I mean I just do not feel like doing it, I think that a lubricant woould be helpful but I just do not know what to use.
There are some decent arousal lubes. I like the link
and the link
. Granted they are lotions and not lubes. I use them by putting a pea sized amount on my finger and massaging it into the clit, then I use a separate lube to aid initial insertion of the penis (or dildo). Silicone lubes are a good option for intercourse if you still want some friction, and the good quality ones (I like link
will not irritate your skin or cause UTI's or Yeast Infections. If you want a slicker feeling with less friction (my personal preference) I would suggest a good water based lube. I have experience with link
and I really love it. It is a thicker and works great for everything besides oral.
I am usually very horny, but as my cycle changes there are instances where I have a really difficult time becoming aroused. What I do is make it a point to have enough time to get myself warmed up before sex is expected. I use a little bit of the Pure Passion or the Tasty Twist then just play with a vibrating bullet for awhile. With some nice music on and the vibrations, it usually only takes me a couple minutes to get good and ready. If a low libido is really persistent though, I would suggest talking to your doctor as it could be a hormone imbalance. There are libido pills available for women (not just for men anymore!). Your doctor might also be able to give you some more tips as well. I have found that just wearing something sexy helps. Nothing increases my sex drive like a sexy new bra!
Hope that was some help