I just don't understand why my husband doesn't want sex toys of his own.

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I just don't understand why my husband doesn't want sex toys of his own.

CS2012 CS2012
I keep asking my husband if he would want me to get him a sex toy for me to review for free and he says he is not interested in toys. I just don't understand why he is not interested in having sex toys of his own.
01/28/2011
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Sammi Sammi
Some guys just aren't. I've been offering to get one for my husband for the past 3 years, and other than a few cock rings that are for both of us, he says he doesn't want or need one. He's starting to contemplate it now a little bit, but I'm still not sure if I got him one if he'd actually use it.
01/28/2011
RonLee RonLee
Some of us have that kind of sense of adventure... and some don't.
If the money doesn't really matter get it anyway then see if he'll go for it.
01/28/2011
~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
The biggest reason would be that he doesn't know the wonders that are out there. Educate him
01/28/2011
Illusional Illusional
My boyfriend isn't super into them. Like if I show him cock rings and such, he'll click on it and he's seen a few fleshlights.

I've suggested them because of us being long distance, but he says he's really interested in using toys on me, with me.

So he's kind of in the middle, I guess.
01/28/2011
CS2012 CS2012
I've tried telling my husband he doesn't know what he is missing out on. That it will make getting a hard on easier. I also tell him that toys make it so much more fun. He says he doesn't like the idea of putting his penis inside a toy and he likes using his hand and that's all he needs for masturbating.
01/29/2011
CS2012 CS2012
He says because of the cock ring he tried when we had sex one time he doesn't like sex toys for himself due to the bad cock ring. I told him just because you had one bad toy doesn't mean they are all bad. I reminded him of the first sex toy I had that it was too big for me. But, the next toy I bought I ended up loving it. I would have missed out on all of the great sex toys I own and all of the ones I will get in the future. He says he is glad I like using toys and he is happy for me that I enjoy using toys to masturbate but he is not interested in trying any.
01/29/2011
Shellz31 Shellz31
A lot of guys aren't into toys. I have asked many just why they aren't but they just can't or wont give an exact reason. I'm so curious as to why - I want to understand.
Guess it's just one of those questions I may never get a straight answer on!
01/29/2011
Yoda Yoda
Some people are just happy to keep things simple. It doesn't necessarily mean that he is closed-minded. I have a lot of respect for that.
01/30/2011
ScottA ScottA
Sometimes it's simplicity, sometimes it might be the social idea that masturbation is somewhat shameful. Don't worry about it right now, see how your sex life develops. You might be able to introduce it at some point, or not.
01/30/2011
UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
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Originally posted by Yoda
Some people are just happy to keep things simple. It doesn't necessarily mean that he is closed-minded. I have a lot of respect for that.
Well said. My husband feels that way. He just doesn't really have any interest in toys for himself. Doesn't feel the need for them, I guess. Which is totally fine. He loves me having toys, though.
01/31/2011
markeagleone markeagleone
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Originally posted by CS2012
I keep asking my husband if he would want me to get him a sex toy for me to review for free and he says he is not interested in toys. I just don't understand why he is not interested in having sex toys of his own.
I am a man that is married and I am in the same position. My wife fulfills all of my needs and I would rather see her pleasured as that brings me pleasure.
01/31/2011
Mr.RightNow Mr.RightNow
maybe he is embarrassed or he feels uneasy with you knowing he has a male toy
01/31/2011
Mr. E Mr. E
I used to think masturbators were a joke...based on the crap available at the local shops. They just looked hideous.

So, after reading so many positive reviews my wife was finally able to persuade me to try one for review. I figured what the hell, it wasn't going to cost me anything, right?

Well, it was O.K., not great, but good enough that I jumped at the opportunity to review a second one, the Stoya Fleshlight.

All that I can say is... wow, I wish I had tried a fleshlight years ago.
01/31/2011
CSEA CSEA
Quote:
Originally posted by Illusional
My boyfriend isn't super into them. Like if I show him cock rings and such, he'll click on it and he's seen a few fleshlights.

I've suggested them because of us being long distance, but he says he's really interested in ...
Thanks for that advice!
02/02/2011
CSEA CSEA
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Originally posted by markeagleone
I am a man that is married and I am in the same position. My wife fulfills all of my needs and I would rather see her pleasured as that brings me pleasure.
Very true and I highly respect that. I am a fan of toys and have my toy collection but I definitely do not take them out all the time with him. I use them when mostly solo or for mutual masturbation or even times when I am in the mood and hes trying to please me. Overall, I appreciate the intimacy of sex and the nature behind it. The idea of sex with your loved one should be sweet and sexy which doesn't mean we can't make our own fun
02/02/2011
Naughty Student Naughty Student
My boyfriend doesn't enjoy toys either.

They actually turn him off. He finds it weird to thrust a squishy fleshy plastic pussy onto his penis. It makes him lose his hard on. He doesn't mind me using toys on my own or occasionally using toys during sex but he will rarely offer to use toys on me.

I have been with him long enough to accept his choice and the one pocket pussy we have is used for me to lick to imitate a threesome. It turns me on to lick the little toy and that turns my partner on. As if licking a plastic pussy is less weird than thrusting it on his penis...urgh! I have a hard time understanding too but I have learned to accept over time and stopped nagging him about it.
02/02/2011
ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by Naughty Student
My boyfriend doesn't enjoy toys either.

They actually turn him off. He finds it weird to thrust a squishy fleshy plastic pussy onto his penis. It makes him lose his hard on. He doesn't mind me using toys on my own or occasionally using ...
He might feel that the way you use the toy isn't "shorting" you, but if he uses the toy it is, especially if he can't get an erection for a while after ejaculating.
02/02/2011
ZenaidaMacroura ZenaidaMacroura
My boyfriend doesn't have any interest in having his own toys, but he's never tried one, either. I'll probably end up getting him one anyway. But if he doesn't like it, that's fine. Some people do just prefer to keep it simple.
02/02/2011
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