First time use? Yeah, lotus would probably be a good introduction if you don't want him becoming addicted to using male masurbators! lol. Best Fleshlight I've ever used was the O'Doyle's Stout, Sex in a Can, but if you have qualms about anal, then it might not be the one for him. There's a lady lager that has a mini-lotus that is quite a bit tighter than the regular lotus, but provides less suction! If he's a big Jenna Haze fan, then you couldn't go wrong with that purchase! I would recommend one of the Tenga Flip Holes, but honestly for someone who has never used one, it might be too much! The things those toys do to a man... They should have anti-seizure warnings on the box! lol Good luck to you both!