My husband wants to watch me masturbate but it makes me feel uncomfortable

CS2012 CS2012
My husband is always wanting to either watch me masturbate or us masturbate together. It makes me uncomfortable for him to watch me. I don't know why it does but the thought of him watching me masturbate makes me uncomfortable. I have told him this and he is like why we are married. That's just the problem I don't really know why I don't want him to watch me or masturbate with me.
01/29/2011
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Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
Quote:
Originally posted by CS2012
My husband is always wanting to either watch me masturbate or us masturbate together. It makes me uncomfortable for him to watch me. I don't know why it does but the thought of him watching me masturbate makes me uncomfortable. I have told him ... More
Try starting with mutual masturbation, keep doing that only begin to help him get you off. Once you are comfortable with that, you should be far less uncomfortable having him watch.

You can also try masturbating while his sleeps beside you, or if you have a webcam you can record yourself doing it and let him watch it while you aren't there. Then try having him watch them while you ARE. You just need to find a way to slowly raise your comfort level instead of going for it all at once.
01/29/2011
CS2012 CS2012
Quote:
Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
Try starting with mutual masturbation, keep doing that only begin to help him get you off. Once you are comfortable with that, you should be far less uncomfortable having him watch.

You can also try masturbating while his sleeps beside you, ... More
Thank you those are great ideas you gave me.
01/29/2011
Kitt Katt Kitt Katt
If you let him watch, he can learn what really does it for you and it can do some good things for your sex life. I agree with Girl With Fire, though, about your comfort level. Ease into it slowly.
01/29/2011
ScottA ScottA
Think about what you do for foreplay. You might be able to use foreplay as sort of a "springboard" if you want- but the "if you want" is important to keep in mind. For some reason you are uncomfortable now with him watching you masturbate, and this could be for a variety of reasons. Perhaps you are uncomfortable with your body, or you are uncomfortable with the idea of masturbation as an acceptable partner activity. Try to think about why, as that will help you understand your thoughts. Quick question- are you comfortable masturbating alone? Ask yourself what the difference is. Are you comfortable fully expressing yourself sexually with your spouse?

Until you are comfortable with the idea your husband should respect you and not pressure you.
01/30/2011
Illusional Illusional
I make my boyfriend sexy videos and masturbate. He isn't watching me directly but he can have the pleasure of watching it over and over again.
01/31/2011
indiglo indiglo
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Originally posted by Kitt Katt
If you let him watch, he can learn what really does it for you and it can do some good things for your sex life. I agree with Girl With Fire, though, about your comfort level. Ease into it slowly.
I agree with this. It can be a great learning experience!
01/31/2011
Naughty Student Naughty Student
I can understand, sort of feel the same way. I have a hard time if he is watching me the whole time. So what I do is I have him on standby so when I am baout to orgasm I call his name and he runs into the room to watch the grande finale.

Or, I get him to masturbate me or I masturbate with him. We do not usually mutually masturbate, I ususally do the first trick. We both feel a little shy about it. If my guy is masturbating he wont like it that I am watching unless I am taking part in the action. When we have sex we have no inhibitions though.

I like the idea about the video, but I would be afraid that someone would find the video...
01/31/2011
LoveBugged LoveBugged
You guys should try masturbating at the same.
01/31/2011
kendycane kendycane
Quote:
Originally posted by CS2012
My husband is always wanting to either watch me masturbate or us masturbate together. It makes me uncomfortable for him to watch me. I don't know why it does but the thought of him watching me masturbate makes me uncomfortable. I have told him ... More
If you don't like it you don't have to force yourself. I'm sure he'll understand
02/09/2011
Linga Linga
Quote:
Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
Try starting with mutual masturbation, keep doing that only begin to help him get you off. Once you are comfortable with that, you should be far less uncomfortable having him watch.

You can also try masturbating while his sleeps beside you, ... More
Mutual masturbation sounds like a great way to ease into it!

I think if you make the effort to at least explore it with him a little he will appreciate that, even if you still don't like it after. I think it's very important to try things that your partner likes, unless it’s a hard limit for you. Taking an interest in your partners kinks and fetishes even hobbies for that matter or at least trying to is a great way to show just how much you love someone.
For me, even if its not my thing, exciting my partner by doing what I know he likes excites me. Turning him on is my kink!
02/09/2011
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