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When I was young I would get really pissed and I said so, like a spoiled prima donna (not an indictment on anyone else, I WAS a nasty shrew about it!) and he quit doing it. He didn't roll over and try to enguage me he would simply leave the room
When I was young I would get really pissed and I said so, like a spoiled prima donna (not an indictment on anyone else, I WAS a nasty shrew about it!) and he quit doing it. He didn't roll over and try to enguage me he would simply leave the room and do the deed. It was a nasty thing of me to do because it said that I didn't accept him as he was and I wouldn't allow him the freedom to own his own sexuality or body.
You see, night masturbation isn't about not being attracted to a guy's mate it's a relief that is quick and easy...especially after a particularly spicy dream.
I would urge ladies to not think of it as a time they missed out on something but see it as their partner being COMFORTABLE enough to do such a private act in their presence. In a sense he IS having sex with you...most likely it's you he is thinking about when he is stroking his cock!
Sexualize the act instead of making it a brush off and you might find him turning over and trying to enguage you more often...it worked for us and it's amazing.
Also that seems to be a young man's act...generally after about age 35 the guy doesn't wake up frantic to orgasm as often. Enjoy it while it lasts and if he's amenable roll over and play with him. When I started doing that we began to repair lots of the damage my insecurity caused our relationship. If he's not amenable just give him a few mintues and let him drift back off to sleep, so long as he's not ignoring you all the time a few jack sessions doesn't really mean anything except he wants to cum.
My Man does it a lot less than he did years ago. (He's even older than Sigel, and much older than Arch, Airel
) But, if it happens, I agree with what you said, it's simply allowing him access to his own sexuality for a quick release.
Only if it's interfering with your sex life together ("No, I don't wanna. I just jerked off and I'm drained.") and it happens more often than not, it's a problem. The occasional "Night Jerk" isn't a problem.
As I told a friend of mine, shortly after she got married, "Honey, guys DO this. Don't you?" (Turns out, she didn't. But, she understood that a lot of people do. She was getting enough sex, so it wasn't really an issue for them.)