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I believe you need to stop and have a instructional session to "get acquainted" with how to use the toys on each other before you can (reliably) use them successfully. My recommendation: get a toy, play with it yourself for a while to
I believe you need to stop and have a instructional session to "get acquainted" with how to use the toys on each other before you can (reliably) use them successfully. My recommendation: get a toy, play with it yourself for a while to figure out how you like it used, and then have a "training session" with lots of talking and working with each other. Don't expect it to be sexy or give you phenomenal orgasms, this is for your partner to learn how to use the toys on you (and how not to use the toys on you). Once that's done things get better.
This works really well, Scott. Especially with toys you have picked out for yourself.
My Man, however, likes to pick out toys for me and bring them home. Then it's up to the two of us to figure out the best way to use it as a couple.
We've been struggling with a few new cock rings, it's different than the ones we've used in the past (mostly the 'disposable' stretchy ones with the little vibrator on them) These are solid silicone rings, and we're learning. We also just got a leather one that snaps, and haven't even gotten around to using it yet. Sometimes, it's best to learn to use one toy at a time. (Not that you can't use multiple toys in a session, we usually do, but usually only one NEW toy at one time.)
But, sometimes it's fun to have him just attack me with a toy. My only rule is "No hard thrusting with hard toys!" We have a hard plastic G Spotter (the Marble G) and I always have to remind him it's best used only a few inches in. It's NOT a dildo or a phallic vibe (those I like much harder, but the ones we have are mostly silicone, so they don't hurt if you get rough with them, at least they don't hurt me) but you're right, playing with a partner with toys, as when you are alone, takes a few learning sessions.
It's all fun....until somebody gets poked in the cervix.