I hate super girly or floral scents, so I have a collection of things that I think are pretty neutral...
I was about to recommend the JimmyJane Beyond Euphoric lotion - it has a warm spicy fragrance with sweet top notes, but it's been discontinued
There is another scent that's close though, and I really like the product (it's a little thicker than normal massage oil). It's the Swede Flower Power Teasing Massage Oil. It's billed as vanilla/chilli/ylang ylang. To me it's very warm, a little spicy, and very sexy.
The Afterglow Special edition in Absinthe and Sugar Water is fairly neutral - it's lightly sweet with kind of a sparkling spicy addition.
And the Shunga exotic massage oil in orange smells very much like true orange oil, more like the rind than super sweet.
The Kama Sutra oil of love fragrance original fragrance is kind of like a chocolate and warm vanilla with a hint of cinnamon, which I think is pretty neutral, but that might just be me. The product is a little sticky for a long massage though.
And if you don't mind something a little stronger, the Intimate Organics products in the goji berry & cocoa bean fragrance are nice as well. The cocoa is warm and the berry is a very deep tangy fragrance.
Hope that helps!