Very good friend's baby shower is next weekend. Everything on her list that has to do with the baby has been covered... So I got her a custom-made baby blanket and a gift card to Babies R' Us. But I thought, why not get something for the lovers. I know they wont have much time at all to themselves after the baby gets here, but when they do get the time, it wouldn't hurt to have one of these kits around.
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Shunga Erotic Art has always had awesome products. I've tried a few and they really never let you down. The only thing I could ever complain about is stickiness with their flavored products - but that is with almost every flavored oil, powder, etc.
Now, KamaSutra has been an absolutely favorite of mine forever. I love their oils, I love their creams, I love it all. Plus, this kit has chocolates...
Shunga is more expensive, but I'm willing to pay. Which kit is more appropriate for this occasion, though? Now this is a good friend. We talk openly about sex. I just want to know what you all would give a new mother.
Which kit do you think looks better as a gift for a baby shower?
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Which one would you pick?
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Thank you! I was just thinking about my mum when she was having the kids. I remember her crying one night because she felt like my dad didn't "Want" her anymore. And I thought to myself, "Is anyone getting the LOVERS anything?". A massage is a great way to keep that sensual part of your love life going. I'm having problems like that even in the engagement stage from time to time, so I could imagine it would be a wonderful gift.
Originally posted by
indiglo
I agree with the majority here. And I wanted to say that is such a thoughtful gift idea!
Plus, a woman who just had a baby NEEDS a massage. No questions asked. Thanks for the votes!
05/06/2011
To be honest with you, it depends on the person you are giving it to. If it is for someone with a significant other than either would go good, but if it is just for relaxation purposes I would have to say the Shunga would do better. Either way they are both sensual but both great products so either way you should do fine!
edit- Just noticed this was made 6 months ago... my bad.
edit- Just noticed this was made 6 months ago... my bad.
11/07/2011
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I haven't heard the best thoughts on the strawberry box, but I really like the look and products of the tenderness and passions kit. I am actually going to be doing a comparison review of the Tenderness and Passions and the Treasure Trove sets. I like both of them and I couldn't decide so Im getting both LOL.
Originally posted by
ToyGurl
Want to pick a little something for the lovers as a combination to a gift for a baby shower. I don't know which would be better for the occasion. Please pick the one you would be most likely to get.
Honestly, after a baby (and I have had four, so Im pretty sure this may true for your friend too...) The last thing I would want to use is choc. body paints or anything being licked off/eaten off my body lol. I think the massage items would be much better suitable for after baby
Mar 6, 5:37 am
May I make a suggestion? As a mother of three children, I have to say, one of the last things I thought about after my babies were born was sex. Really. I would have felt even more pressure to have sex, when I was trying to get more than 45 minutes of sleep a night, trying to master breastfeeding, having a lot of pain from my C Section (or other women have pain from afterpains and vaginal stretching and tearing, or their episiotomy, not to mention the exhaustion of new motherhood.)
I have a HIGH sex drive and it took me months to have a healthy drive with my first two kids (the drive came back sooner with my last one, but I still was told, as nearly all women are, to wait 4 to 6 weeks after the birth to engage in sex.) A lot of new moms get a lot of pressure from their partners, especially with the first baby, as he doesn't realize that her ENTIRE brain and body are involved in nothing but taking care of that baby and keeping that baby alive.
A nice bath set, some lotion and maybe some candles would be nice, if you want to get a gift for her something which says "Sex" may not be what she needs post partum. But, she may be getting enough pressure to be sexually active before she is totally healed, and a "sex kit" may make things even more difficult. Not to mention that there is virtually NO "baby free time" for quite a while, save stolen moments in the middle of the night, after a feeding, when you can sneak a quickie in and pray the baby doesn't wake up in the middle.
As for having chocolate eaten off your body, nothing would have been more of a turn off for me post partum. I had a person eating from me 24/7, and I was simply "touched out" by the end of the day. I didn't want my husband licking food from me. I even used to leave my bra on during sex, because the idea of him getting the milk in his mouth turned me off so much. Mornings? Babies get up early, they have to get a jump on all that colic.
I am just being honest. If I had gotten something like either of these for my baby shower, I would have gotten rid of it before my husband saw it. And, normally, I LOVE sex and have it daily. Post Partum women are different.
Something for her that doesn't say "sex" might be more appreciated. Eden has some nice bath salts and lotions and body butters that would be more appreciated by a new mom.
I hope I didn't offend, but I've been a post partum mom, and I know what I didn't want.
I think your mom was crying (and I am guessing it wasn't in the first 8 weeks post partum) because she was only being seen as "a mother" and wasn't getting the attention she needed. Not necessarily sex, but attention and love. Unfortunately, for post partum moms, most men see "a massage" as a prelude to sex. Maybe a gift like one of these for the weaning party (I had my last weaning party for my last baby when she was in nursery school) but not for the baby shower.
I hope I was honest and helpful and not hurtful in any way. Hurtfulness was certainly not my intent. I'm just thinking that this poor woman has no idea what she is in for those first weeks, and sex doesn't usually play a huge role post partum.
I have a HIGH sex drive and it took me months to have a healthy drive with my first two kids (the drive came back sooner with my last one, but I still was told, as nearly all women are, to wait 4 to 6 weeks after the birth to engage in sex.) A lot of new moms get a lot of pressure from their partners, especially with the first baby, as he doesn't realize that her ENTIRE brain and body are involved in nothing but taking care of that baby and keeping that baby alive.
A nice bath set, some lotion and maybe some candles would be nice, if you want to get a gift for her something which says "Sex" may not be what she needs post partum. But, she may be getting enough pressure to be sexually active before she is totally healed, and a "sex kit" may make things even more difficult. Not to mention that there is virtually NO "baby free time" for quite a while, save stolen moments in the middle of the night, after a feeding, when you can sneak a quickie in and pray the baby doesn't wake up in the middle.
As for having chocolate eaten off your body, nothing would have been more of a turn off for me post partum. I had a person eating from me 24/7, and I was simply "touched out" by the end of the day. I didn't want my husband licking food from me. I even used to leave my bra on during sex, because the idea of him getting the milk in his mouth turned me off so much. Mornings? Babies get up early, they have to get a jump on all that colic.
I am just being honest. If I had gotten something like either of these for my baby shower, I would have gotten rid of it before my husband saw it. And, normally, I LOVE sex and have it daily. Post Partum women are different.
Something for her that doesn't say "sex" might be more appreciated. Eden has some nice bath salts and lotions and body butters that would be more appreciated by a new mom.
I hope I didn't offend, but I've been a post partum mom, and I know what I didn't want.
I think your mom was crying (and I am guessing it wasn't in the first 8 weeks post partum) because she was only being seen as "a mother" and wasn't getting the attention she needed. Not necessarily sex, but attention and love. Unfortunately, for post partum moms, most men see "a massage" as a prelude to sex. Maybe a gift like one of these for the weaning party (I had my last weaning party for my last baby when she was in nursery school) but not for the baby shower.
I hope I was honest and helpful and not hurtful in any way. Hurtfulness was certainly not my intent. I'm just thinking that this poor woman has no idea what she is in for those first weeks, and sex doesn't usually play a huge role post partum.
Mar 6, 2:59 pm
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I'd choose the Shunga package, it looks nicer and has more stuff
Originally posted by
ToyGurl
Want to pick a little something for the lovers as a combination to a gift for a baby shower. I don't know which would be better for the occasion. Please pick the one you would be most likely to get.
Apr 15, 10:49 pm
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I'd try the Shunga tenderness and passion collection.
Originally posted by
ToyGurl
Want to pick a little something for the lovers as a combination to a gift for a baby shower. I don't know which would be better for the occasion. Please pick the one you would be most likely to get.
Apr 17, 4:03 pm
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