I want to make my partner feel good, but I dislike oral because it hurts the back of my throat and makes me gag a little. Are there any toys that I can use to make him happy and me comfortable? Thanks!
I want to make my partner feel good, but I dislike oral because it hurts the back of my throat and makes me gag a little. Are there any toys that I can use to make him happy and me comfortable?Thanks!
I'd suggest you an open-ended masturbator that gives attention to the majority of your partner's shaft so you can focus just on the head, no having to try to take him all in your mouth. Plus you can take a break and just use the masturbator.
Regardless of toys, only participate because you WANT to. If you get to the point where you want to, you can use an open-ended toy (as mentioned above), or just use one or both of your hands as a buffer.
My husband has link and loves it. I also don't mind using it on him, although the "half a face" creeped me out a little when we first used it, lol. No matter how many toys I buy him he still always comes back to wanting me and is happiest with vaginal penetration than use with toys. I know he has the link and says it's pretty easy to use.
I only deep throat my husband once in a while, and although it doesn't really bother me it isn't my favorite thing to do. If I'm getting tired or just don't want his whole cock in my mouth I just use my hand also. So long as you keep your hand pressed next to your lips and create a kind of seal between them, the guy really won't notice much difference and it is much more comfortable. Plus you can do fun twisting motions with your hand at the same time, my man loves this.
And to echo Essin' Em, you should only do it if you want to. Oral sex is a gift that is given, not forced, even verbally. Forced oral sex is rape just as forced or coerced intercourse is rape.
If oral is hurting the back of your throat/making you gag, you're probably going deeper than you can handle. You don't even need toys to improve that--just use your hand, like Bulma suggested, to control how much of his penis is going in your mouth. When I have my hand on M's cock like that, he's able to thrust fairly hard into my mouth without gagging me because my hand stops him from getting all the way in.
I agree with the comments made about wanting to do it. I personally enjoy it myself, but all women have moods where some things are just too much for the moment. My problem is that after awhile I can't control my breathing and I actually get out of breath. You are allowed the chance to stop and use only your hands long enough to regain your senses and start again. Also, over time the gagging will be a little less. Just make sure he's willing to work with you and let you take your time. Start very slowly and if you gag once, slow down, don't go too deep and TRY to concentrate on breathing. Make sure you are in control. Some men love the feeling of the gagging because it tightens the muscles in the throat. Some men will TRY to make this happen. Just remain in control and you'll find a pace to practice with and as long as you are happy doing this to your man, you can master it like a martial art!
another girl's mouth! ha. so kidding. sorry about that. does he try to shove it down the back of your throat? really, it only takes the lips and tongue. make sure he understands that he's not in control of the motion at that time and then you can manipulate the depth. if he gets thrusty, give him a bite. also try 69, so that the curve goes the right way back. just some thoughts. if you just hate it anyway, play with his asshole. do that, and he may not even notice the missing bj. do you suck on balls? that could be a replacement. use your hand on the shaft with some fruity lube and lip and tounge the head. okay, i'm done. sorry if i was no help at all.