Ok, so we purchased one of the cock ring/mini bullet combo toys few weeks back. hubby and I tried it this past week and found that we need something MUCH tighter for him. Hes not extremely thin by any means, but for some reason, he can't "hold off". Not sure if Im just "that good" or he needs some kind of numbing gel or something lol. Any suggestions?
Cock Ring Size issues..
I have several suggestions:
First, he should make sure that you orgasm a time or 2 before he is in a position to orgasm. For us that means bringing my wife to orgasm with a variety of toys before penetration. The big payoff here is that after her first orgasm - having an additional orgasm during intercourse is much easier - and that's a true win-win.
Second, exercising his Kegal muscles helps provide additional strength to stop ejaculation. But he has to get the timing right, if he waits too long, no amount of Kegal power work.
Third, he can use 'mind games' to distract himself as a delay tactic. I'll briefly think of something less than pleasant until the urge subsides - then re-engage.
Fourth, slowing down thrusting - even withdrawing briefly can be combined with the other techniques to help delay things.
I don't find that rings are very effective for helping delay orgasm. They do help me stay hard longer after orgasm - so use them a lot. I do not use penis rings - the rings I use are cock-and-ball rings like the Omega link. These rings press on the urethra close to the prostate - which some people find helps them delay.
I don't use any 'prolong' sprays or creams because they can sometimes make orgasm near impossible - and can cause numbness in my partner. Neither of these are worth it for me.
Good luck!
First, he should make sure that you orgasm a time or 2 before he is in a position to orgasm. For us that means bringing my wife to orgasm with a variety of toys before penetration. The big payoff here is that after her first orgasm - having an additional orgasm during intercourse is much easier - and that's a true win-win.
Second, exercising his Kegal muscles helps provide additional strength to stop ejaculation. But he has to get the timing right, if he waits too long, no amount of Kegal power work.
Third, he can use 'mind games' to distract himself as a delay tactic. I'll briefly think of something less than pleasant until the urge subsides - then re-engage.
Fourth, slowing down thrusting - even withdrawing briefly can be combined with the other techniques to help delay things.
I don't find that rings are very effective for helping delay orgasm. They do help me stay hard longer after orgasm - so use them a lot. I do not use penis rings - the rings I use are cock-and-ball rings like the Omega link. These rings press on the urethra close to the prostate - which some people find helps them delay.
I don't use any 'prolong' sprays or creams because they can sometimes make orgasm near impossible - and can cause numbness in my partner. Neither of these are worth it for me.
Good luck!
Jan 15, 5:54 pm
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Thanks so much for your help! Ill be sure to mention some of these ideas to the hubby!
Originally posted by
Gunsmoke
I have several suggestions:
First, he should make sure that you orgasm a time or 2 before he is in a position to orgasm. For us that means bringing my wife to orgasm with a variety of toys before penetration. The big payoff here is that after ...
First, he should make sure that you orgasm a time or 2 before he is in a position to orgasm. For us that means bringing my wife to orgasm with a variety of toys before penetration. The big payoff here is that after ...
I have several suggestions:
First, he should make sure that you orgasm a time or 2 before he is in a position to orgasm. For us that means bringing my wife to orgasm with a variety of toys before penetration. The big payoff here is that after her first orgasm - having an additional orgasm during intercourse is much easier - and that's a true win-win.
Second, exercising his Kegal muscles helps provide additional strength to stop ejaculation. But he has to get the timing right, if he waits too long, no amount of Kegal power work.
Third, he can use 'mind games' to distract himself as a delay tactic. I'll briefly think of something less than pleasant until the urge subsides - then re-engage.
Fourth, slowing down thrusting - even withdrawing briefly can be combined with the other techniques to help delay things.
I don't find that rings are very effective for helping delay orgasm. They do help me stay hard longer after orgasm - so use them a lot. I do not use penis rings - the rings I use are cock-and-ball rings like the Omega link. These rings press on the urethra close to the prostate - which some people find helps them delay.
I don't use any 'prolong' sprays or creams because they can sometimes make orgasm near impossible - and can cause numbness in my partner. Neither of these are worth it for me.
Good luck!
First, he should make sure that you orgasm a time or 2 before he is in a position to orgasm. For us that means bringing my wife to orgasm with a variety of toys before penetration. The big payoff here is that after her first orgasm - having an additional orgasm during intercourse is much easier - and that's a true win-win.
Second, exercising his Kegal muscles helps provide additional strength to stop ejaculation. But he has to get the timing right, if he waits too long, no amount of Kegal power work.
Third, he can use 'mind games' to distract himself as a delay tactic. I'll briefly think of something less than pleasant until the urge subsides - then re-engage.
Fourth, slowing down thrusting - even withdrawing briefly can be combined with the other techniques to help delay things.
I don't find that rings are very effective for helping delay orgasm. They do help me stay hard longer after orgasm - so use them a lot. I do not use penis rings - the rings I use are cock-and-ball rings like the Omega link. These rings press on the urethra close to the prostate - which some people find helps them delay.
I don't use any 'prolong' sprays or creams because they can sometimes make orgasm near impossible - and can cause numbness in my partner. Neither of these are worth it for me.
Good luck!
Jan 16, 3:55 am
I'd echo a lot of Gunsmoke's comments, but add that I would buy cheaper cock and ball rings to start so you can really experiment with size and not waste a lot of money. After having only one other ring (a metal one), I bought an expensive Omega metal ring only to realize (after some more practice and building my confidence) that I can handle something smaller and that this smaller size is MUCH more effective.
Also, while a tight fitting (non-vibrating) cock ring helps a bit in delaying orgasm and otherwise makes the experience better, by far (and I mean "by far") the best thing I've done to help my control is something I've never really heard people talk about: I have numerous sessions in a row (often over a week or two) of sex / masturbating where I enjoy the session (coming close to orgasm many times) but I do not let myself actually orgasm.
When you start the session with the proposition that you can't orgasm, it really helps you focus on the varied pace and depth of thrusts / changes in position that you need to maintain from the start and throughout to engage in intercourse without going beyond the point of control yet giving her the constant stimulation she needs for it to be enjoyable. After awhile, you are able to bring yourself time-and-time-again close to the brink and then pull back without a huge interruption (i.e., a slower, shallower thrust or change in position vs. pulling out completely and abruptly). In addition to learning this control, this process will boost his confidence, which is part of it.
And while everyone would prefer to end their session with an orgasm, it's still very rewarding to have your partner orgasm several times during a session (although we usually need help from the Hitachi Magic Wand on her clit while I'm in her to make this happen though) and it makes that orgasm you finally get to have even more heightened.
Something else on this point that I think is important but rarely discussed is the woman's role in learning the more leisurely, varied but constant pace and stimulation that is needed to make sex last longer. Very often, the women who are complaining that their man doesn't last long enough are the same women who rush through foreplay (b/c they have to get up early in the morning, want to get it over, are worked up in a frenzy already and want to get to the main act, etc.) and are then on top riding him non-stop at a frenetic and deep pace till he finishes or on the bottom allowing him to do this without switching positions periodically or using their hands to slow him up and guide him in a way that increases the likelihood that the sex will last longer yet be enjoyable throughout. You can really help the process by helping set the pace and being in tune to how close he is to orgasm and doing things in position, pace, depth, etc. that slows him back up if he is getting too close to orgasm too fast.
Good luck.
Also, while a tight fitting (non-vibrating) cock ring helps a bit in delaying orgasm and otherwise makes the experience better, by far (and I mean "by far") the best thing I've done to help my control is something I've never really heard people talk about: I have numerous sessions in a row (often over a week or two) of sex / masturbating where I enjoy the session (coming close to orgasm many times) but I do not let myself actually orgasm.
When you start the session with the proposition that you can't orgasm, it really helps you focus on the varied pace and depth of thrusts / changes in position that you need to maintain from the start and throughout to engage in intercourse without going beyond the point of control yet giving her the constant stimulation she needs for it to be enjoyable. After awhile, you are able to bring yourself time-and-time-again close to the brink and then pull back without a huge interruption (i.e., a slower, shallower thrust or change in position vs. pulling out completely and abruptly). In addition to learning this control, this process will boost his confidence, which is part of it.
And while everyone would prefer to end their session with an orgasm, it's still very rewarding to have your partner orgasm several times during a session (although we usually need help from the Hitachi Magic Wand on her clit while I'm in her to make this happen though) and it makes that orgasm you finally get to have even more heightened.
Something else on this point that I think is important but rarely discussed is the woman's role in learning the more leisurely, varied but constant pace and stimulation that is needed to make sex last longer. Very often, the women who are complaining that their man doesn't last long enough are the same women who rush through foreplay (b/c they have to get up early in the morning, want to get it over, are worked up in a frenzy already and want to get to the main act, etc.) and are then on top riding him non-stop at a frenetic and deep pace till he finishes or on the bottom allowing him to do this without switching positions periodically or using their hands to slow him up and guide him in a way that increases the likelihood that the sex will last longer yet be enjoyable throughout. You can really help the process by helping set the pace and being in tune to how close he is to orgasm and doing things in position, pace, depth, etc. that slows him back up if he is getting too close to orgasm too fast.
Good luck.
Jan 17, 10:43 am
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