How do you feel about using vibrators during intercourse?

Im'DLytFull Im'DLytFull
Do you believe using a clitoral vib during intercourse makes the sex better or does it take away from the intimateness?....That was just a question brought up at a toy party I attended.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I love it
254  (63%)
I like it
107  (27%)
I never thought about it but I am intrigued
12  (3%)
I would like it but I am afraid to bring it up
16  (4%)
I don't care for this kind of experience
8  (2%)
I dislike it
2  (0%)
I hate it
3  (1%)
I think it's ridiculous
1  (0%)
Total votes: 403
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Kayla Kayla
I find nothing wrong with using a toy during intercourse - I put "like it" instead of "love it" because it can just be a pain in the butt to attempt to use the vibrator during intercourse. I don't think it would effect how close we feel to one another though; in fact, I'd hope that he'd feel even closer to me because I'm comfortable enough with him to take my own pleasure into account.
11/28/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
I always think when people say "intercourse" they mean "sex" which is any sex play. We don't often use them during PIV sex, because when we get to PIV, we've been having sex play for a long time, I've usually started having orgasms, so I can come without them. But, we use them every time during "sex" if I want to orgasm.

So, I put "I love it." Although we rarely use them during PIV intercourse, unless it's anal (which is "PIA" I'm guessing,) which is a LOT of fun to have a vibe running during.
11/28/2010
Jobthingy Jobthingy
The man always enjoys the different sensations and I love my toys so yes.
11/28/2010
Anne Ardeur Anne Ardeur
Pretty much what P'Gell said - if you're talking about sex in general, then always during foreplay/non-PIV acts. If you're talking specifically about the PIV part, we don't use them then.

Using a vibrator is part of sex for us, and pleasuring each other increases the intimacy, not diminishes it.
11/28/2010
Alura Une Alura Une
I like it, but it is not something I like to do a lot. Which is funny because I want to buy a bunch of vibrators--that I won't use to masturbate with, either. I just want eye candy. When we do use vibrators, it's for clitoral stimulation briefly during foreplay or after I have come and he is working on his turn.
11/28/2010
Emily! Emily!
I try to always use my toys during sex not only on me but on my boyfriend as well. It's better that way because sometimes he gets insecure about not being able to please me. If I use it on both of us he feels like it's for him too.
11/28/2010
Hallmar82 Hallmar82
We bought a We-vibe and like it, but don't love it. It's hard to keep straight and often falls out or gets sideways. Usually we just end up using a cockring with an attached vibe.
11/29/2010
tigerkate tigerkate
Similar to what P'Gell said. I use it quite a bit during anal sex, because it is a speedy way for me to get relaxed and revved up for it. (Though, I think it's funny you said PIA 'cause I associate that with the abbreviation for "pain in the ass" lol)

I've tried it only a few times during PIV, but I find I have to REMIND myself to do grab the vibrator (a bullet).
I also have trouble orgasming with a partner at all, because I think I get too distracted. I think having a vibrator with me distracts me even more and I get sensory overload, miss my orgasm, and just go into a constant pleasure mode... like, not able to build any more. It's weird.
Anyway. I chose "I like it" because I do enjoy it and orgasm with one very often with "PIA" lol
With PIV, though, it's trickier for me.
11/29/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by tigerkate
Similar to what P'Gell said. I use it quite a bit during anal sex, because it is a speedy way for me to get relaxed and revved up for it. (Though, I think it's funny you said PIA 'cause I associate that with the abbreviation for ... More
PIA is "Pain in the Ass?" (I usually use "PITA." ) I guess we'd better stick with the term "Anal Sex." (But, then, I was trying to describe penis/anal intercourse, and there are other forms of anal sex.) It's never a "pain" though.

That "constant pleasure mode" could be what Tantric Sex practitioners call a "Streaming Orgasm." It's hard to explain, and I usually only have them after a good round of orgasms, although they have happened with no discernible orgasm. Streaming Orgasms are not as intense as "regular" clitoral, G Spot or various and sundry orgasms, but a state of bliss and a feeling that one is "sort of" having an orgasm, lightly, but it usually goes on for a LONG time. One often goes into an altered state, in my mind, similar to "Sub Space."

It's hard to explain, but once you can name it, you know when it's happening. It's a lovely feeling.
11/29/2010
Liz2 Liz2
I also said, "i like it" but every time during PIV sex; NO. As others have said, I use vibes during foreplay as I need an orgasm prior to penetration by my b/f.
At times if I think he will come too soon, I grab a vibe so we can kinda finish together. I will usually use a vibe on my clit during anal penetration either by my partner or using butt toys.
11/29/2010
Illusional Illusional
Quote:
Originally posted by Im'DLytFull
Do you believe using a clitoral vib during intercourse makes the sex better or does it take away from the intimateness?....That was just a question brought up at a toy party I attended.
It doesn't dimmish, in fact he loves it when he can try out my different toys on me
12/01/2010
Beaners Beaners
Quote:
Originally posted by Im'DLytFull
Do you believe using a clitoral vib during intercourse makes the sex better or does it take away from the intimateness?....That was just a question brought up at a toy party I attended.
I also only put like. It's definitely the only way to give me a clitoral orgasm during sex, unless the guy REALLY knows what he's doing with his hands (like my boyfriend does, SCORE!) But I do see your point that it could take away from the intimateness. But during anal sex is a whole nother ballgame, I practically need one to get, and keep, me relaxed, otherwise my muscles just tense up by reflex.
12/02/2010
lamira lamira
I do that every once in a while, depending on my mood. But, it does definitely add to the intensity of the sensation.
12/02/2010
Vally Vally
Well, I didn't vote because I have never done it, but I certainly would love to try!

I was sad to read about the problems with WeVibe, that is one toy I have been looking at very closely.
12/02/2010
Sammi Sammi
I love it during sex. I don't think it takes anything away from the intimacy, I think for us it enhances it.
12/02/2010
UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
I love it. I use my vibe whenever he fucks me from behind (with is pretty much every time we have sex). It's also especially good during anal.
12/02/2010
Bunnycups Bunnycups
Never tried it.
12/03/2010
C4ss C4ss
I like it.
I think it can make eveything even better without compromising the intimacy.
12/03/2010
TheSexista TheSexista
We use them about 75% of the time. I like the clit stimulation during sex so I try to always have one near!
12/04/2010
TexasBrat TexasBrat
Quote:
Originally posted by Im'DLytFull
Do you believe using a clitoral vib during intercourse makes the sex better or does it take away from the intimateness?....That was just a question brought up at a toy party I attended.
Hey, what's wrong with having more pleasure? I think that if both partners are willing to do this, then there's nothing wrong with it. Sex toys are enhancers, not replacers!
12/19/2010
Airekah Airekah
Sometimes I think my boyfriend doesn't like it too much but he has often said he enjoys the light vibrations he can feel when I am using a bullet.
12/19/2010
mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
if the mood calls for it
12/19/2010
iceman681 iceman681
i love it when my wife uses it. because i love to use it to see how well im doing. if am doing a good enough job she will have to let go and brace herself.
12/19/2010
Yoda Yoda
We use one almost every time.
12/20/2010
dugasnic dugasnic
enjoy to use them on my partner
12/22/2010
her pleasure her pleasure
Quote:
Originally posted by Im'DLytFull
Do you believe using a clitoral vib during intercourse makes the sex better or does it take away from the intimateness?....That was just a question brought up at a toy party I attended.
I love it when my DW uses ours. It just seems to push her over the top & sometimes she will slide it back against me as I enter her! I like it a lot!!
12/30/2010
Lucidity Lucidity
They help get me off, since I can only climax with clitoral stimulation, but I do feel that they sometimes ruin the mood a little; though that's really more of a personal problem.
12/31/2010
Vaccinium Vaccinium
We use one nearly every time. Anything that helps her have a better orgasm is good with me. Granted, using one limits the positions we use a bit, but we're inventive.
01/08/2011
Sweet-Justice Sweet-Justice
Quote:
Originally posted by Im'DLytFull
Do you believe using a clitoral vib during intercourse makes the sex better or does it take away from the intimateness?....That was just a question brought up at a toy party I attended.
I'm totally for it
01/08/2011
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