How do you feel about using vibrators during intercourse?

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How do you feel about using vibrators during intercourse?

lesbianlesbian lesbianlesbian
It's not the bread and butter of our sex, but I think in lesbian relationships it's much more accepted. This makes me sad, hetero couples should be getting in on the great vibrator action (together) too!!
03/27/2011
tickle me pink tickle me pink
I've done it before. Sometimes it's fun to add a little something extra, and my husband really enjoyed it too.
03/28/2011
tammyandy69 tammyandy69
vibs and dildos can be very fun during sex...anyone think dp
03/31/2011
tigerkate tigerkate
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Originally posted by P'Gell
PIA is "Pain in the Ass?" (I usually use "PITA." ) I guess we'd better stick with the term "Anal Sex." (But, then, I was trying to describe penis/anal intercourse, and there are other forms of anal sex.) It's ...
P'Gell, I somehow missed your response a few months ago! I just randomly stumbled upon it just now...

And that's so cool- I really do think that's what my body is doing when I go into that state of just constant light-orgasm pleasure without the huuuge release I get from clitoral orgasms.
It happens a lot during PIV sex, to the point where my eyes flutter back and I feel like I'm just gone into a state of, exactly as you put it, streaming orgasm.
Thanks for that info!!
04/01/2011
moonch1ld moonch1ld
I think it can be a fun way to warm up and for the first few minutes but after that I like it to be just me pleasing her.
04/01/2011
Anjulie Anjulie
Love it and I dont think it affects intimacy at all
04/01/2011
Jul!a Jul!a
I have a hard time finishing without clitoral stimulation, so there's almost always a vibe for us. We opted for a corded bullet, but that's just what works best for us.
04/01/2011
extrafun extrafun
We use one almost all the time, I use it on my wife after I have cum the first time until im hard again. I can ussually get her to cum several times this way.
04/01/2011
KrystalFayeO KrystalFayeO
We have them and use them, but not every time. Just when it's more about being horny than intimate!
04/16/2011
The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
All for it!
04/17/2011
~Brittany~ ~Brittany~
I love it!
04/17/2011
Antipova Antipova
It's pretty easy for clit stim to be too much for me when I'm having penetrative sex (vaginal or anal), so I'm answering "I don't care for this kind of experience." It's true I've never tried, but when even finger clit stim can jolt me out of my enjoyment, I just don't think I want to try overdoing it with a vibrator.
04/17/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by lesbianlesbian
It's not the bread and butter of our sex, but I think in lesbian relationships it's much more accepted. This makes me sad, hetero couples should be getting in on the great vibrator action (together) too!!
Oh, a lot of us do!

My Man introduced me to vibrators, when I first started having problems with the orgasm situation. I had a hair trigger orgasm when I was younger, then peri-menopause killed that.

I HAVE TO use a vibe in order to have my first orgasm of the session. We usually play with oral for a while, maybe a little PIV, and more oral, while usually using either a phallic vibe or dildo. Then we get the Wahl (occasionally the Hitachi) and he plays with me, breasts, body, anus, moves the dildo around whatever it takes, while I use the Wahl until I come. Then he goes back down (OMG, what a combination) when I throw the Wahl on the floor and we go at it. I usually have more than one orgasm. After the first one, they are not difficult to have.

He only said something about it once. We were fighting about something else (he had fallen asleep during sex, and I wasn't happy) and he said, "Well, my dick doesn't vibrate at 30,000 RPMs." It hurt my feelings and he felt bad immediately. He understands that I need the vibe and is now always happy to use them. He wants me to feel good, and it does turn him on to see me have a good time.

I asked him later what the problem was (since using vibrators was his idea and I didn't even want to to start out with) and he said, "I was just mad that you called me on the carpet due to dozing off. I was angry and just grabbed at the first thing I could that I thought would hit home. I feel really bad about it. I'm sorry. Really. Grab those toys, baby. I love to see you have a great time!"
04/28/2011
Checkmate Checkmate
I would guess we use a vibe while having sex about 75% of the time. My wife needs clitoral stimulation to orgasm, but also wants PIV, so a vibe plus cock meets all her needs. As for me, I enjoy when she uses one as I get off on the pleasure she recieves.
04/28/2011
newfoundlust newfoundlust
Quote:
Originally posted by Im'DLytFull
Do you believe using a clitoral vib during intercourse makes the sex better or does it take away from the intimateness?....That was just a question brought up at a toy party I attended.
I am fine with my wife using a vib if she wants, whether she wants to apply it or asks me to do so. Its her happiness that counts.
04/28/2011
Howells Howells
I like the idea. Especially with a we-vibe. But I somehow think it would be weird to share the pussy with another thing even if it vibrates. Maybe i'll try it but we-vibe is too espensive just to "try". Regular ones for clit stimulation is ok by all means but I don't like to handle that.
04/28/2011
Dizzykakes Dizzykakes
I think my husband would feel as if I were trying to take away from our special time together.
04/30/2011
Rightya Rightya
Hawt
05/05/2011
Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
LOVE it!
05/21/2011
Ivy Wilde Ivy Wilde
I like playing with vibrating toys, but I have never tried combining vibrations with sex with my husband. I usually don't need any extra stimulation. But who knows, maybe it would make things even more fun. I'll have to think about it.
05/26/2011
kendra30752 kendra30752
I can see how it can take away from the intimateness for people. I don't love it and I really wouldn't even say that I liked it. It's ok, but I'd much rather prefer feeling my partners hand there while we're doing it. I don't need to have the vibe going at the same time. The sex is mind blowing as it is. It can add a little extra, but it's never been something I actually care to do. Also, vibes kind of numb my crotch and I like to be able to feel his hands on me in the middle of sex. I guess I prefer no vibe during intercourse. Before is nice though.
05/27/2011
salaciousrex salaciousrex
I like it but we don't use them during sex often. Foreplay semi often lately though
06/04/2011
VioletMoonstone VioletMoonstone
I'm totally open to it but I don't think my boyfriend would be.
06/05/2011
That Man from Mars That Man from Mars
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Originally posted by Emily!
I try to always use my toys during sex not only on me but on my boyfriend as well. It's better that way because sometimes he gets insecure about not being able to please me. If I use it on both of us he feels like it's for him too.
I was thinking about this. I think if my lover required using a toy during sex to get off, I'd feel pretty damn ashamed. I want to know I can satisfy her without aid.

I love toys of course, but I don't like the idea of having to rely on them.
06/05/2011
[Red] [Red]
I like the idea of using toys-- vibrators included-- during sex, but I can sympathize with a lover feeling inadequate if their partner -required- the use of toys to feel satisfied. To me, the moment a toy is required in order for the sex to be fulfilling, the entire point of the sexual intimacy is ruined. It's not about getting off, to me-- it's about the intimacy with my lover. Getting off is great and all, but I'd be very ashamed if I developed a dependency on a toy just to orgasm and I'd feel bad for my lover, because it's easy to see how that would make him feel inadequate.

I wouldn't want to have this regimen of toys and various stimulations/sexual acts established with the goal of getting off. That would make sex a chore, and that's the last thing sex should be.
06/05/2011
big b big b
what ever she wants.its all good
06/06/2011
*Huxley* *Huxley*
Almost always!
We switch it up often. Start with glass, and end with a bullet of some sort.
It usually helps prolong the experience and makes it fun.

If someone is threatned by a toy, they need to work on insecurties. I never understood being jealous over something that is tangible.
It seems like you should be able to talk with your partner to prevent toy jealousy. I supposed it's never that easy though, huh?
06/06/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by That Man from Mars
I was thinking about this. I think if my lover required using a toy during sex to get off, I'd feel pretty damn ashamed. I want to know I can satisfy her without aid.

I love toys of course, but I don't like the idea of having to rely on them.
Some women don't have a choice. Even a person who is a VERY good lover could run into a situation where his or her lover developed or already had an orgasmic issue.

As long as the partner is doing everything they can, it doesn't matter if their partner needs a toy to "get there." If toys are used well, they only increase intimacy, not discourage it at all. There's no reason to "feel ashamed" for wanting or needing a sex toy (My God, do I need to say this on THIS site?) and I think the partners of women who actually wouldn't be having orgasms if they didn't have the little extra help from a toy would be a bit insulted to hear some of your comments.

You have no idea what kind of sexual response you or your partner may have in 5, 10 or 20 years. Shame has nothing to do with it. That's like a 19 year old guy saying, "I'd be ashamed if I ever had to take Viagra to help me get it up. But, I know I'll never have to." Then 20 year later realizes he NEEDS it in order to have sex. Sometimes, there is a lot of hubris in Youth and Inexperience.

You have no idea what the future may bring. And if sexual dysfunction in in the cards for you or your partner, SHAME is the LAST emotion either of you should have. Shit happens. I'm just glad my partner and I are mature enough to be able to adapt and deal with changing bodies and changing lives and not assume what might or might not not happen about things we have not experienced ourselves.

And, I did assume we were ON a sex toy site. Lemme check.......yep, Eden is a SEX TOY site. So, most here really do use sex toys to our advantage and have partners who are mature enough to appreciate the need or desire for added pleasure or for sexual fulfillment with or without a partner.

L
06/06/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
We use a dildo and vibe for her first 1-2 orgasms. When we get to intercourse we'll use a vibe maybe 15% of the time.
06/06/2011
SiNn SiNn
Quote:
Originally posted by Im'DLytFull
Do you believe using a clitoral vib during intercourse makes the sex better or does it take away from the intimateness?....That was just a question brought up at a toy party I attended.
its pretty awesome but only when done right
06/09/2011
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