I think it depends upon how you want to use it. I don't have the Bon Bon, but it looks to me that straddling is the only way to use it. With the Wing, which I do have, you can straddle, you can lay on it, you can use it for DP with a partner, and I like to use it as a support pillow for doggie style. However, the width on the Wing seemed a little wide for us to straddle. It's doable, but slightly narrower would have been our preference.