Best Position for clitoral stimulation?

LaLaLouise LaLaLouise
I'm the kinda girl who needs internal AND external stimulation to do the trick just right. So rabbits are obviously my favorite style lol. However, I've never had an orgasm during sex, and I REALLY want to do something about that. I have a bullet on its way for a buyout review. Problem is, my boyfriend can not have any vibration come into contact with his delicate bits because it makes him go numb. We have tried a couple of different positions to allow me to use a small vibe for clitoral stimulation, but do any of you have suggestions for something we can do to allow full access for me without forcing him to feel the vibes too?
08/15/2011
  • Weekly Special: Hot Vibes! Buy 1 Vibrator And Get 1 FREE
  • Better Price Sale - Save 50%
  • Better Price Sale - Save 70%
  • Better Price Sale - Save 60%
  • Better Price - Save 40%
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3
  • 4
  • 5
All promotions
Dawn (Lilac Distraction) Dawn (Lilac Distraction)
I'm in the same boat with you! I need external stimulation as well.

I've found that woman on top and doggy are the best positions for external stimulation with or without toys. Woman on top allows for you to use a bullet and not have it come in contact with his bits at all. In doggy style, he usually won't feel it unless the vibrator comes in contact with his boys. If it's small enough, or your cup it with your hand, it shouldn't be a problem. Spooning also works well for this, as it's basically a sideways doggy style. You could also try the edge of the bed where you're on your back and he's standing. That would also lessen the chance of him feeling any of the vibration

Really, any position where he isn't directly on top of you (like really close missionary) should work. I know doggy and woman on top usually work the best for me. As long as your bullet is small enough and there's enough space to get your hand down there, you should be good.
08/15/2011
LaLaLouise LaLaLouise
Yeah, that's what I was thinking. My problem is that when I'm on top, he and I bother prefer for me to be leaning over rather than sitting up. Another one we've tried that we actually kind of like that you may like is kind of a spin-off of spooning. Him laying on his side, you laying on your back perpendicular to him. Think of it like if you start off spooning, and your bottom leg goes between his legs and your top leg goes up over his hip and you scoot until you're practically on your back. This can be really comfortable and allows you access to your clitoris. And he can still reach your boobies which is always a plus in my opinion . The only problem really is that it may not be the best angle for g-spot stimulation unless he's curved in an odd direction lol. But you may wanna try it!
08/15/2011
Dawn (Lilac Distraction) Dawn (Lilac Distraction)
Actually, a great variation of woman on top is him sitting up straight, you on your back, and your legs over his. This allows for both of you to take turns thrusting. Meanwhile, you have full access to your clitoris and no contact with his bits. Because your hips are slightly raised, it makes for great g-spot stimulation!
08/15/2011
Mistress Mandy Mistress Mandy
Another position you might want to try is sort of a variation of spooning where you both turn so you're on your stomachs. It can be a little uncomfortable for some, but mostly just if he puts all of his weight on you, then you might feel a bit smothered! If he can hold himself up off of you a little then it gives you some wiggle room so you can reach your clit, but since he's behind you the vibe shouldn't touch him. He may feel some of the vibrations through your body but that will happen with just about any position when using a vibe. I don't know if that helps at all, but this is a favorite position of mine and my husbands. Your other variation on spooning is another fav.
08/15/2011
LaLaLouise LaLaLouise
These are both awesome ideas! I can't wait for my new bullet to come in!!
08/15/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
My wife us exactly the same way. Although she can orgasm when she's on top because she has near 100% control of pace and pressure, it's only because she has had an orgasm before getting on top.

It takes a fair amount of stimulation to give my wife the multiple orgasms that she has learned to love. There is simply no way an old guy like me (57) can deliver the goods.

For almost every encounter I will use a combination of vibes and dildos to give her an orgasm or 2 before progressing to intercourse. With her on top (cowgirl) she'll usually grind to 1-2 more orgasms before I let myself join her. About 20% of the time she'll also grab her Form 2 vibe - when she does this her orgasms are so strong that she practically falls off!

Although we like doggie as well she finds it difficult to use a clit vibe in the process. That requires her to support her weight on one arm - and with 32Gs to support - it's a bit of a challenge for her.

You should really try something like the Mimi or Form 2 - they are strong and small for intense clit stimulation. They have no impact on me.
08/15/2011
Minxy Minxy
I don't know if you can afford it, but, the new We Vibe Touch link is incredible used during intercourse and does not get in the way (doggie, missionary ect...). The vibrations range from mild to strong, VERY strong. I highly recommend it!
08/16/2011
LaLaLouise LaLaLouise
Quote:
Originally posted by Minxy
I don't know if you can afford it, but, the new We Vibe Touch link is incredible used during intercourse and does not get in the way (doggie, missionary ect...). The vibrations range from mild to strong, VERY strong. I highly recommend it! ... More
That actually looks amazing, and if I saved up (money and points) I could probably buy it within a month. So now we've tried a couple of different times and now the problem is that A)He's still hesitant to try most positions, thinking they'll be "awkward". B)When we do find one that works for both of us and it actually is getting me going, he finishes. I didn't used to care whether or not he lasted long because the sex part was just for him and I just wanted to please him. I got the WET Sample Pack as my free gift when I bought the bullet, and told him about the WET Together Ultimate, which is a stimulating lube for her and prolonging lube for him. He did not seem at all thrilled at trying anything that would make him last longer. I could cry. Guess I'm just destined not to have an orgasm during sex.
08/23/2011
Mistress Mandy Mistress Mandy
Quote:
Originally posted by LaLaLouise
That actually looks amazing, and if I saved up (money and points) I could probably buy it within a month. So now we've tried a couple of different times and now the problem is that A)He's still hesitant to try most positions, thinking ... More
Ouch. I have to be honest, that sounds awfully cold (of him) to me.
08/23/2011
Angewin Angewin
Quote:
Originally posted by Mistress Mandy
Ouch. I have to be honest, that sounds awfully cold (of him) to me.
Yeah, I agree. That's very insensitive. Your pleasure should be very important to him.
08/23/2011
Total posts: 11
Unique posters: 6