If you want a toy that's safe for both, try something that can be sterilized safely, such as silicone or metal - the pure wand from Njoy would give you that same nice firm feeling and shape as this toy with a fully sterilizable material. Even condoms, while better than nothing, are not as good as a good soak in boiling water or a wipedown with Essin Em's suggested bleach solution. It's not worth the yeast infections or worse...play it safe!