haven't fantasized about it - not sure I'd like being tied up. but, hmmm, after reading that Oh&w thinks that someone should tie me up to keep me around, hahaha, welllll, might be interesting. who knows, maybe it might be fun to see who's up for the challenge. hahahahaha
I freaked out sitting in the back of a police car for a ride home when I found the back door had no way out and no window controls either! (I panicked deep inside, I kept my cool outwardly, but barely!)Sure, my mom was in the front seat and we four kids in the back. NO! Not what it seems, LOL!! At the end of a Memorial Day parade, a cop gave us a free ride which I thought would be cool. WRONG! Apparently, I don't do well confined; lack of control upsets me. I'm the jerk who'd be testing my safe word like the boy who cried wolf!! I trust no one! People lie and are MEAN. No way I'm giving up my escape options!!! And don't get me started on ball gags and such! What if my nose plugs up and I have to vomit? It could happen. I need peace of mind, okay? Unfortunately, I have been completely under medical professional's control and had them do things I said not to, so that nearly killed me (several times, they don't LISTEN, or learn). If this is just for fun, I doubt I could get past the life and death situations where I was NOT listened to. Yeah, I have issues.
That said, I've seen some amazingly cool couture ropework clothes someone shared with me on another forum. Would I like tying someone up? Considering my preference for self-control, maybe it would extend to liking controlling others? I don't know. But, part of the fun for me is the interactivity with a person. Maybe that's because I've been stuck with just the minimally interactive toys for so long. Fucking an immobile object is only so interesting after a while, at least it is that way for me with the toys. Maybe the sentience of the immobilized is the key? I may not want to participate, but it also has never been brought up for me with sex, so I've never tried.
I love the thought of being tied up and helpless, It is so sexy.
I don't just think about it, I do it! I really enjoy being tied up and restrained and I've done some tying up of partners in the past as well. Chains were a bit scary at first, but... oh man! What a thrill! I haven't quite been able to re-capture the rush of being chained to the bed that first time, but it's still fun and I think there's room to tweak the experience to find that sweet exhiliration all over again.
I'm excited to try the restraints that are coming in my next EF order. It'll mark the first time I've used dedicated restraints as opposed to make-shift ones from belts, scarves, rope, chain, or whatever else seems convenient and appropriate. Don't get me wrong, the spontaneity of the make-shift materials has an appeal all of its own, but the dedicated restraints will be a new experience and one that I'm quite looking forward to! Now I just need to decide who gets tied up first!