My boyfriend and I have a Feeldoe, and it's probably our favorite toy! This fact is in spite of the fact that, using it on him turns me on so much that I just get too wet to hold it in properly. It's not that my Kegel muscles are weak. I just, you could say in the right conditions I'm a "squirter," and with G-spot stimulation I just get too slippery. We are in the process of selecting and buying some rope so I can make myself a harness (I am somewhat of a shibari fan, which is Japanese rope knots and bondage) so if you like that way that looks and feels, you can use that, too. No matter how you do it, enjoy yourself and don't get to frustrated!