How to decide on a vibrator?

Raexx21 Raexx21
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I have a friend who recently told me that just about every girl she knows own at least one vibrator and swears by em. Also my boyfriend is always telling me I should get a toy because he thinks it would be fun to use in the bedroom for foreplay...I'm just not sure. I'm not a prude or anything I'm just worried we might become relient on it? I don't know...I would appreciate some oppinions
11/06/2012
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Originally posted by Raexx21
I have a friend who recently told me that just about every girl she knows own at least one vibrator and swears by em. Also my boyfriend is always telling me I should get a toy because he thinks it would be fun to use in the bedroom for ... More
Follow ur gut. only you can tell if you want to or not. dont let other pressure you.
11/06/2012
darkr darkr
A toy in the bedroom can be fun but, letting it in should be on your own terms. Talk to your boyfriend about and share your worries with him maybe you'll have nothing to worry about at all.
11/06/2012
Bofen Bofen
reliant? it is just for fun. Me and my partner have a lot of toys and sometimes we do not use them at all, because it is just the mood thing
11/06/2012
charletnarouh charletnarouh
There's really no such thing as vibrator "addiction" as such. i love my vibes and my Partner and i have plenty of toys and, like Bofen, sometimes we use them but, honestly, most of the time Wwe don't. i'd say that about 80% of my solo masturbation sessions involve a toy of some kind but certainly not all. i'd estimate that maybe 50% of Oour partnered sex sessions involve a toy. The worst that can happen from frequent, powerful vibe usage is that your clit may become somewhat less sensitive but this is a totally temporary effect. Stop using the vibe and your sensitivity will come right back. Toys in partner sex can be a lot of fun, even just a little vibe to use on your clit during PIV sex, or something to tease you during foreplay. In my opinion, if you're having satisfying, enjoyable toyless sex now, you won't have any problem having satisfying, enjoyable toyless sex once you own a toy, you'll just have the option to alternate toyless sex with toy-assisted sex and have more variety in your sex life. But, that said, toys aren't for everyone and, even for those that do use them, how and when to incorporate them into sex life and/or masturbation routines will vary widely from person to person and couple to couple and is totally your choice. Personally, i see little to no downside in giving it a try. Like darkr says, communication with your boyfriend is key. That and, if you do decide to look into buying a toy, do your research, read reviews, learn about materials, safety, lube compatibility, lube ingredient safety, etc. I recommend the guides posted by a reviewer here on the forums called Kira. She posted a Guide to Buying Your First Sex Toy on her blog which is an excellent resource, and her reviews are also stellar. Good luck!
11/06/2012
kendra30752 kendra30752
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Originally posted by Raexx21
I have a friend who recently told me that just about every girl she knows own at least one vibrator and swears by em. Also my boyfriend is always telling me I should get a toy because he thinks it would be fun to use in the bedroom for ... More
Your worry is understandable, but that's not at all how toys happen for most people, if anybody. You'll be perfectly fine to get a vibrator (even the one you linked to above would be a good first couple's toy!) and not become dependant on it.

My partner and I have been together for 6 years, and I began using my toys during our foreplay after almost one year of being together, he enjoys using them on me too. To be honest though, even with my pretty big collection, and long-time use of the toys (not at all regular use though) we don't even use them half the time! They're just there for when I/we want to add something extra. Tonight for instance, I used the new Sqweel 2 on him just for fun, but only for a few minutes and then we do our own thing.

It's really, really unlikely you'll become dependant on toys. In fact, you'll probably enjoy the thrill a whole lot more than anything, and then you'll probably like incorporating them into play every once in a while, but it's not likely you'll even like them as much as your activities (foreplay/intercourse) with your partner.

I don't think any couple uses toys every single time. We only do during foreplay.

I hope you'll check back here and begin to worry less. It's really not an addictive thing, the toy play. I don't know about "swearing" by a vibrator. I'm not THAT in love with my toys. I always much prefer my partner over them, but just like the fun and sensations of him using them on me during foreplay.
11/06/2012
Vmarie5 Vmarie5
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Originally posted by Raexx21
I have a friend who recently told me that just about every girl she knows own at least one vibrator and swears by em. Also my boyfriend is always telling me I should get a toy because he thinks it would be fun to use in the bedroom for ... More
My top choice is always the RABBIT!! I love clitoral stimulation.. It all depends on what and where you like to be played with most. CLITORAL STIMULATION is my fav!!! And yes it spices up things in the bedroom.. go for it girl!!
11/17/2012
SepZet SepZet
They are definately worth a try. Nothing to lose!
11/18/2012
Lucy Goosey Lucy Goosey
Vibrators are fun to use and I would definitely recommend buying one. For me, vibrators don't replace the experience of being with another person, which I favor. However, clitoral simulators would be a great toy to initially incorporate into foreplay. Most importantly, go at your own pace and do what you feel comfortable with.
12/26/2012
leilani leilani
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Originally posted by Raexx21
I have a friend who recently told me that just about every girl she knows own at least one vibrator and swears by em. Also my boyfriend is always telling me I should get a toy because he thinks it would be fun to use in the bedroom for ... More
sweet heart, sex will not be worse after not using it. i have been in a relationship where sex with and without toy was just amazing. the relationship i am in now, he wants to try a toy and sexy garments after our baby is born to keep our sex life alive, seeing how we wont be able to have sex every day like we used to. what you need to do is intervals! it worked for me. and my lover now only wants to try it out once in a while, same thing with back door sex, it isn't an every time thing. if you make it all the time, you can actually make your nerves need it, since it is a vibrator it can make you a lil... numb if used too long. my personal experience is no more that 30 mins and it is a great ride! not to mention, some women squirt by it and it makes a man want more. i know if i squirt from masturbation he is a lil too hot to trot and makes round two come a lil too soon (im sorry but when a man is known to last longer that 45 mins, it is too painful for round two.) the foreplay is one of the best things for a man and a woman. it can get a man to last longer and if he does one of of those hit and miss sessions, he made you pleased before hand. the toy is just as good as the hand, so if you are scaared or uncomfortable, you have a hand and tongue with him right? i know a bit too much right, but i promise it isn't as scary, and it isnt prudent to say no. took me years to even look at a vibe just imagine how long it too to buy one!
12/31/2012
OhBabyOh OhBabyOh
My honest opinion is that while yes you can desensitize your clitorus from vibrators and yes you can sensitize it again by not using a vibrator for a while (maybe a while means weeks but I think for most people it probably means several months - but again this is just my opinion based on my personal experience), the potential problem is that once that horse is out of the barn, you're going to find it really hard to put it back in the barn hahaha. It IS addictive - but not in any dangerous or permanent way. Just too tempting to pull it out for a quickie! I don't think most other toys - ones that aren't mainly for clitoral stimulation - will desensitize you - there's no problem there. I mean yeah it's fair to say some really big internal toy could stretch you out a little but I doubt enough to be a real concern. But it's so NICE to be able to get off so intensely and quickly when you want to...so it's a tough decision! I'd say go for some fun toys but don't use the clitoral ones all the time unless the trade-off or little losses are worth it for you. Also if you can get off from something your boyfriend does all on his own, like oral sex (a lot of people can't reach orgasm easily), you might not need any help! I'd kill to be able to reach orgasm quickly without toys, so I'm a little biased cause of my envy! Human contact is pretty awesome!!
12/31/2012
Inna89 Inna89
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Originally posted by Raexx21
I have a friend who recently told me that just about every girl she knows own at least one vibrator and swears by em. Also my boyfriend is always telling me I should get a toy because he thinks it would be fun to use in the bedroom for ... More
I think it's awesome that your boyfriend is open to introducing toys! I doubt that you'll become reliant on it though; in my opinion, toys are still pretty different from actually having sex. They're just different experiences, and theres no reason not to try both!
02/01/2013
Tibby Tibby
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Originally posted by Raexx21
I have a friend who recently told me that just about every girl she knows own at least one vibrator and swears by em. Also my boyfriend is always telling me I should get a toy because he thinks it would be fun to use in the bedroom for ... More
get a wand!! i love my fairy wand its good for play. also if you buy a wand and feel weird about using it in the bedroom you could alway use it as a back massager.
02/01/2013
Herzer Herzer
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Originally posted by Raexx21
I have a friend who recently told me that just about every girl she knows own at least one vibrator and swears by em. Also my boyfriend is always telling me I should get a toy because he thinks it would be fun to use in the bedroom for ... More
My wife and I have used one together for a long time and she's used it solo if I wasn't around. She's never become reliant on it if I'm there.
02/07/2013
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