Here's the four I've tried already:
the free bullet from signing up for the newsletter was . . well, it was okay. I ended up inserting it (after powering past some painful tightness) and the vibrations were nice and all, but . . it just didn't rock my boat, internally or externally;
the Butterfly Kiss was the other toy I was able to insert, again after pushing through a little pain. I really didn't expect to have so much trouble with this one. Unfortunately the shaft was too short for the thrusting I wanted and the butterfly didn't really reach my clit, so I didn't get a whole lot out of this one either;
the Flexi Ribbed Lover was the one I was most looking forward to trying, but it was just too wide to insert (curses!) I did really enjoy squeezing it between my thighs, and the vibrations were nice, but mostly I ended up really really frustrated that I couldn't put such a yummy-looking toy to its full use;
the Opis was the one I was expecting to dislike, but one of its vibration settings is just exactly the right frequency to resonate with some of my tissues. It felt like my perianum was trying to explode! <3 Unfortunately this, too was just too wide to insert despite all my determination. I got some nice rubbing and squeezing out of it, but in the end I tossed it aside and tried to let my poor vagina recover.
- - So! From all this I've figured out that I need something in the 1" - 1 1/4" diameter range; that I like a little bit of squashiness (but not too much; an old girlfriend had a super-bendy jelly doubleheader that just did not appeal); and that while I like a little bit of vibration, the thrusting seems most important to me at the moment.
Oh, and I'd prefer not to go over $30.
The four that appeal to me so far:
the Mini Rabbit Vibro Wand might be good. It's got a pronounced head, but shouldn't be too wide for me to take, and the rabbit ears might work better than the butterfly did;
the Bendi G could be nice, I am fond of silicone for its cleanness (not sure how soft this one would be, though);
the Elements Theta is pretty unintimidating, and frankly I'd probably fiddle with it even when I'm not 'playing' just because it's such a neat shape;
Icicles #4 is absolutely beautiful, and I've been really really wanting to get into cold temperature play. Plus, that loop looks like it'd come in really handy for clumsy old me.
- - So, any comments? advice? Did I miss some super-awesome skinny toy that I just HAVE to have? Would I be better off getting a plain dildo instead of a vibe? Is one of the ones I found really horrible and should be crossed off my list? Help a gal out here :3