My husband doesn't care if I try the toy alone first. He tends to rush and not read instructions and I like to get to know the toy before I use it. So, often, I will try the toy alone and then we play with it together.
However, if your husband feels bad that you try the toy alone, why not include him in the trial run of the toy? In those ways he will feel included and you get to play with the new toy with the man you love.
It sounds like a good solution.