Have you ever recommended toys to your parents?

Missmarc Missmarc
The last time I visited my parents was 2 years ago. I live in Chicago, while they live on the west coast. Last time I went back, mom called me at work to get something for her off her bedroom night stand. I some generic KY lube and the trojan vibrating ring on there (neither were well made products).
I am Asian, my parents are first generation immigrants. They are not all very open-minded. I was very excited to see them buying adult products at all. I know they only bought those from a drug store. From that day on though, I been really wanting to recommend better toys and lubes for them. I know there are so many that exist out there, and I want them to use better products.
I really don't know how to, or where to start. Anyone have done this before? Any advice on how I can bring this up?
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Yes
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21  (22%)
No
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66  (69%)
Other, please explain
LQ , MelSC , Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama , daniel and frances , NarcissisticLust , Rossie , Gone (LD29) , Beautiful-Disaster , SP
9  (9%)
Total votes: 96
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10/28/2011
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El-Jaro El-Jaro
I've never done this, bringing up toys to my parents. I've thought about giving my mom a gift card for present, but never actually did it.

My girlfriend's parents were born in China and she's told me about her mother's frugality. If that applies, maybe it's a way to go with your mom/parents? Give them a gift card discreetly and they wouldn't want to waste it.

She recommends leaving a catalog where your mom will find it.
10/28/2011
- Kira - - Kira -
I recommend stuff to my mom, but we have an eerily open relationship. If we never talked about those things I might not be the one to bring it up.

Maybe just buy lube and put it in the night stand? LOL I have no clue. I like the catalog idea.
10/28/2011
badk1tty badk1tty
I love my mom and stuff, but I can't really see myself having a conversation with her about toys while being sober. Awkwardddd
10/28/2011
AndromedaJane AndromedaJane
Quote:
Originally posted by Missmarc
The last time I visited my parents was 2 years ago. I live in Chicago, while they live on the west coast. Last time I went back, mom called me at work to get something for her off her bedroom night stand. I some generic KY lube and the trojan ... More
That's really sweet of you, but I wouldn't dare.
10/28/2011
Eva Schwaltz Eva Schwaltz
A gift card is a really nice idea. As far as recommending better products, that would personally make me feel very awkward.
10/28/2011
Shellz31 Shellz31
Yes I have to mum and bro. Also to bros friends.
We're all open here so it's no big deal. No shame!
10/28/2011
Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by El-Jaro
I've never done this, bringing up toys to my parents. I've thought about giving my mom a gift card for present, but never actually did it.

My girlfriend's parents were born in China and she's told me about her mother's ... More
Ty for the catalog idea. I might actually try that next time I am home.
10/29/2011
T E S K I ℉ T E S K I ℉
Sorta. A couple weeks ago my mom and I had gone into a smoke shop and they sold sex toys and what not there, and she was going to ask about one, but I told her not to and that she could get better ones cheaper online. She had me go through clitoral vibrators with her on a website and order one for her. We don't talk about this kind of stuff, simply cause it doesn't really come up, but she's open about a lot of things, and we don't feel uncomfortable when sex toys, sex come up. She once told me something along the lines of ''You haven't lived until you've had an orgasm'', this was after offering me a bullet when I was around 15 or so. Anyways, I think you should say something, and if that doesn't work, or you just can't do it, I like the ideas mentioned above about a catalog and gift card. But maybe this will become something you guys can talk about openly, you never know.
10/29/2011
Toys in Love Toys in Love
Often. My mom's pretty cool, and though closing in on fifty is still a sexual being. - I dig that. She knows we enjoy toys and review them, so she will ask. - And if there's a toy I feel she would enjoy, I'll recommend it. My inlaws on the other hand... No, I don't think so!
10/29/2011
Beck Beck
Yes, I try to tell my mother to get into it and find herself all the time. Even gave her, her first bullet!
10/29/2011
G.L. Morrison G.L. Morrison
I recommended vibrators to my grandmother and mother by bringing up research on orgasms for migraines. I think that a gift card is discreet but might be overwhelming for someone inexperienced with toys.

If you are looking for a way to open a discussion with your mother, it depends on whether your relationship is more playful or more formal. If formal then a book on health and sexuality or an article (either as a part of "care package") or as a discussion opener. If playful, then a more adventurous care package with a card or a conversation that includes some gossipy news or joke that leads into a light but frank discussion.
10/29/2011
LQ LQ
I keep trying, but the subject keeps getting changed. Mom's open-minded & fine with the general idea, just doesn't wanna discuss it a bunch I guess. *shrug*

She may end up with a gift card at some point, though, just because I'm a brat.
10/29/2011
indiglo indiglo
No, I don't have that kind of relationship with my mom. I like the catalog idea, or maybe leave an affiliate flyer laying around somewhere, or something like that.
10/29/2011
MelSC MelSC
Other- I have not recommended any toys to my mom but there have been a few times when she has asked me to recommend good lubes that don't dry up.
10/29/2011
Rawhide Rawhide
Noooooooooooooooo never have, never will
10/29/2011
Missmarc Missmarc
I SAW some generic KY lube and the trojan vibrating ring on there (neither were well made products).*
Sorry, missed the verb in the sentence if it was confusing to read.
10/29/2011
TameTemptress TameTemptress
Nope... I most definitely did not get my sex drive from my mother. She wouldn't be appreciative of that type of gift...and I'm not at all comfortable talking about sex with any of my other parents (dad, step parents, inlaws...no thank you).
10/29/2011
l'amour l'amour
I try to give my mother ideas for toys, even showing her a few of mine - I think she feels awkward about her daughter showing her toys, though, and she won't let me buy her anything. It sucks! She totally deserves something nice.
10/29/2011
~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
Yes, once. I recommended the amigi to my mom.
10/29/2011
Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
My mom and I have the kind of relationship where if the topic comes up, or if I have a question, we can be frank about it. But those instances are pretty rare, and we both tend to get a little embarrassed by them (though I think she'd more uneasy about it than I am). She did take me to get my first vibrator, though, so if it ever came up somehow I might go ahead and make some recommendations.
10/29/2011
Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
My 27 year old daughter lives here at home with us and introduced me to EF - she has her own account too. We're very open about discussing sex toys and she loves to open the new packages with me and put batteries in and feel the vibes, etc.

My mom however is 82 (I'm 51) and I would never ever suggest a sex toy to her. She and dad only "did it" like twice a year the last few years of their marriage - wow - sometimes we do it twice a day now!
10/29/2011
Avant-garde Avant-garde
NO way would I do this, lol.
10/29/2011
Vanille Vanille
Nope. My mom is too much of a prude. (She admits this!) She only recently got into buying a bottle of lube from the drug store...
10/29/2011
kendra30752 kendra30752
No. It just seems disrespectful to me. Idk why, but getting into my parents sex life would seem rude and disrespectful. Of course my parents and I've always been able to talk freely about sex (not our personal sex lives really) but I think they're old enough to buy their own and they've had years more experience than I have so who am I to tell them what they need to buy? Also, everybody likes different things and I just don't think it's polite to go there with parents. You'd hve to know what they like and I couldn't imagine saying "mom, dad, I'm going to dive into your sex life so tell me, what kind of toys do you guys like?" I might as well just ask to watch! Lol

My mom and I are close and talk about personal things, but there's a line. Sex is fine to discuss but I ain't going to sit around and talk about what gives me orgasms and what does it for her! She's capable of knowing her own taste and finding her own toys.

I'd buy her lingerie and I've even bought her dresses from EF and massage oils and stuff, but toys? Hell no!
10/30/2011
kendra30752 kendra30752
Quote:
Originally posted by Missmarc
I SAW some generic KY lube and the trojan vibrating ring on there (neither were well made products).*
Sorry, missed the verb in the sentence if it was confusing to read.
LOVE your pic! Is that your baby? He/she is so darn cute! Looks similar to my Hubert Hamster!
10/30/2011
Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by kendra30752
LOVE your pic! Is that your baby? He/she is so darn cute! Looks similar to my Hubert Hamster!
Yes Kendra that's my baby she's 8 months old and her name is Poopsie
10/30/2011
Lucky21 Lucky21
No, nor would I. I just don't feel comfortable to talk to them about such matters.
10/30/2011
Jul!a Jul!a
I've recommended the Yooo to my mom as a massager, although I'm sure she knows what else it could be used for. I may also get her a MiMi since I love mine so damn much, and it can also be used for general pinpoint massaging.
10/30/2011
Talena Talena
Since they left stuff out where you could see it and she told you to go in there to get something for her, she must know you saw it which to me would open up the door for the convo..be like Mom I noticed you had ____ but if you bought ____ it might be more fun for you.
10/30/2011
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