Vibrator Dilemma- help!

Rawhide Rawhide
Let's say a close friend comes to you for help. Her daughter is at that age and experimenting with masturbation and penetration, but she's doing it with inappropriate household objects. They've had the sex talk and her mom just wants her to be safe, but knows that a vibrator wouldn't be well recieved coming from a parent. So she asks you, a trusted family friend who is closer to her daughter's age, to accept cash and buy her kid something safe to use.

First off, would you do it?

Second, if so, which toy would you buy?

Third, how would you get it to her? Leave it as a gift with a note? Talk to her about it and let her pick it out online?
09/14/2011
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Jul!a Jul!a
I might talk to her and let her pick something. Do a "we want you to know that masturbation is healthy and normal, we just want you to do it safely, here's your price range, pick anything you want" or something like that. I think that it would be a much better idea to give a teenager a sex toy than to let them accidentally get hurt masturbating with something that isn't safe.
09/14/2011
Yaoi Pervette (deleted) Yaoi Pervette (deleted)
I would definitely talk to the girl and offer to help her find something more appropriate. That way she has some input in the process, and you're just dropping a toy with a note attached. Whatever you help her get, I would aim for the safest material available in that price range, and I would talk about the importance of keeping toys clean. It might be good to get her some lube too, so she doesn't use something inappropriate for that purpose either.
09/14/2011
Rawhide Rawhide
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Originally posted by Yaoi Pervette (deleted)
I would definitely talk to the girl and offer to help her find something more appropriate. That way she has some input in the process, and you're just dropping a toy with a note attached. Whatever you help her get, I would aim for the safest ... More
Good point on the lube- didn't even think of that!
09/14/2011
Sunshine14343 Sunshine14343
depending on your relationship with the daughter, either leaving a note or discussing it with her may feel awkward so use discretion in whichever you choose. you don't want to make her first toy experience weird because her mom's friend gave it to her. maybe get her one of those dicrete ones that don't look like vibrators. that way you can just leave it on her bed and let her experiment with something safer.
09/14/2011
Rawhide Rawhide
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Originally posted by Sunshine14343
depending on your relationship with the daughter, either leaving a note or discussing it with her may feel awkward so use discretion in whichever you choose. you don't want to make her first toy experience weird because her mom's friend gave ... More
Yeah, avoiding weirdness is key here.

I know the daughter a bit better than I know the mother, and I've spent lots of time with their entire family. But, if possible, I would just like to get her something that will be easy to use, drop off a package in their mailbox, and avoid risking a talk that might embarass her.

I don't personally use vibrators for penetration, which is why I was wondering if anyone had some product recommendations?
09/15/2011
Sunshine14343 Sunshine14343
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Originally posted by Rawhide
Yeah, avoiding weirdness is key here.

I know the daughter a bit better than I know the mother, and I've spent lots of time with their entire family. But, if possible, I would just like to get her something that will be easy to use, drop ... More
I would suggest doing a search on eden under the small and discrete category. then narrow it down to something that you think would be suitable for her. if it doesn't look like a sex toy, and someone else opens her mail or sees it in her room, they don't think twice about it.
or
perhaps send her a gift card for eden. she can look at all the products and reviews (and forums) to get the info and help she needs
09/16/2011
Love Perpetua Love Perpetua
If she's experimenting with penetration, I'd probably get her a dildo rather than a vibrator, so she can keep doing what comes naturally, but with something safe that is designed for that purpose. I'd probably get her a small silicone dildo in a fun color. A gift card and some product suggestions would probably be nice also.
09/16/2011
Rawhide Rawhide
Well, she's been experimenting with other electric stuff, so getting her something that vibrates and is safe to insert is top priority.

I'm not that worried about someone confiscating it or opening a package with her name on it. Her folks know what's up, they're not going to take it from her- they just don't want to give it to her themselves.
09/16/2011
lacybutton lacybutton
I think it's awesome that she has someone like you who can help her out. My first "vibrator" was one of those twirly pens and then one I got at Spencers. It would've been great to have someone older to talk to.
09/16/2011
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