What would you do if your spouse/significant other discovered your toy(s)?

kendra30752 kendra30752
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Originally posted by Kiss
Hello!
I am starting to collect (I guess! ) sex toys...MOST my fiancé has never even SEEN! While I wouldn't mind him discovering my toys, I DO have one or two that I would like to keep my "little secret"!
So, my question ... More
Firstly, he knows about all of them, and it's probably not the healthiest choice to "hide" things like this from a spouse. I don't think I'd personally be comfortable hiding my toys, and I really wonder what would make one feel the need to be secretive in the first place if the partner hasn't shown any sign of diapproval. I mean, you should be able to share everything with the person you're married to, in a rel. with.

I personally don't like secrecy in the least, and I don't know how nicely I'd feel if I found out he had some toy he felt the need to hide from me. I'd worry about a lot of things then. Like why he thought he had to hide it and all. So I can't give you advice on how to keep secrets from a spouse.

However, you could always just communicate with him about it. I mean, if he's a fiance, it might be a bad idea to be hiding things when the relationship is that serious, and you shouldn't feel you have to keep secrets from someone you plan to marry. I'd have a good, healthy discussion about the toy thing before the big day. Better now than for him to come across a hidden stash, and when something is hidden and if found, it's obvious that a person meant to hide it, and that could raise some issues if he prefers honesty entirely.

If it was a simple new boyfriend, I wouldn't see much wrong with hiding them. But my partner and I have been together for 7 years and it's never been something I've hidden. So I would not care if he came across them.

Hope it goes over well.
01/17/2013
LoooveMonkey LoooveMonkey
I always have to introduce my boyfriend to my new toys. I'm a little embarrassed about it at first. XD
01/17/2013
RonLee RonLee
My GF knows about them all and we play together of course.
01/17/2013
woodsdragon woodsdragon
When we first stated dating, I was the one that previously had toys, but we openly talked about it and then he found Eden and we stated collecting together. We will go to stores too and buy things. WE enjoy it and even get gifts for each other. We have storage for our toys in his closet.
01/17/2013
Girly Juice Girly Juice
My partner knows about my toy collection and doesn't care. Sometimes we even use them together.
01/17/2013
Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
I don't have a partner, but if I did, I'd share all my toys.
01/17/2013
Silverdrop Silverdrop
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Originally posted by chantalgiardina
my hubby has open access to all my toys.. while I am sure there are a few that he still doesn't know about- that is because my collection is HUGE though
This, pretty much. Every so often he comes across something he hasn't seen before, but it's usually not a toy I care much about. The ones I like best are in regular use, and he's seen them, used them with me, and helped clean them up afterwards.
01/17/2013
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
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Originally posted by indiglo
No secrets here either. The only secret I keep is if I get a new piece of lingerie and if he tells me he wants it to be a surprise.

Toys are an important part of our sex life, I wouldn't want any of them to be a secret from him! ... More
That's how it is here too. I keep the lingerie from him in hopes to surprise him with it! But the toys, he knows about them all!
01/17/2013
shorejen9 shorejen9
We don't hide things from each other. In fact, we place orders together! I just don't see a reason to hide toys from him.
01/17/2013
KissTheSkyBaby KissTheSkyBaby
yeah, he knows it all already
01/17/2013
Kitt Katt Kitt Katt
Nothing to hide here. We play together.
01/17/2013
Arlinnae Arlinnae
we both know, we share the fun.
01/17/2013
deltalima deltalima
Quote:
Originally posted by Kiss
Hello!
I am starting to collect (I guess! ) sex toys...MOST my fiancé has never even SEEN! While I wouldn't mind him discovering my toys, I DO have one or two that I would like to keep my "little secret"!
So, my question ... More
I'd be a little embarrassed but I'd get over it after a while.
01/17/2013
Nurse Katie Nurse Katie
Quote:
Originally posted by Kiss
Hello!
I am starting to collect (I guess! ) sex toys...MOST my fiancé has never even SEEN! While I wouldn't mind him discovering my toys, I DO have one or two that I would like to keep my "little secret"!
So, my question ... More
Yeah...when people are going to come over the house, my husbands always all over me telling me to collect all my sex toys and put them away in the bedroom LOL
01/17/2013
FemmeFlo FemmeFlo
I think for a lot of Edenites, the sheer number of toys makes them impossible to hide!
01/17/2013
joiedejouets joiedejouets
Not good to hide things like that
01/17/2013
Claire-Bear Claire-Bear
My partner knows and there's no way I'd hide it.
01/17/2013
RedKyuubi RedKyuubi
He actually introduced me to toys...so yeah. We both know about all of them
01/17/2013
roskat roskat
I think it would be weird to hide toys from your partner.
01/17/2013
charmedtomeetyou charmedtomeetyou
We use them together, and I see no reason to hide toys from someone I'm intimate with.
01/17/2013
Septimus Septimus
Not only does my fiance know about my toys, he's helped me pick out almost every single one of them.
Whenever I have enough saved up for a toy we spend hours debating which one I should get, the merits of each items and the cost, etc.
Did I mention he's an engineer?
If he didn't know about them, I wouldn't see any reason to hide them. It's a big part of my recreational time and a fun hobby for me. Plus, he loves to use them on me when we have sex! If he didn't know about them, he wouldn't use them, and that would make me sad.
01/17/2013
toy review man toy review man
Since we shop together, there are no secret toys.
01/17/2013
KinkyNicki92 KinkyNicki92
He knows about all my toys and we always shop for my toys together :p
01/17/2013
jr2012 jr2012
He knows about them! I like it when he rummages in my box o fun for the both of us occasionally.

I do understand wanting to keep one secret though! There is a very loud rabbit in my stash that he's never seen (though that's more because I don't love it!)
01/17/2013
Robespierrethecat Robespierrethecat
I share all my toys with my boyfriend and even talk to him when I'm excited about getting new one. Besides that, a lot of the toys I have are for us to use together!
01/18/2013
mjtheprincess mjtheprincess
I always leave mine out. You never know when you might need to grab one!
01/18/2013
Lady Smile Lady Smile
they are no secret.
01/18/2013
brevado brevado
We share them all
01/18/2013
apple4me apple4me
We've actually bought toy for each other as gifts.
01/19/2013
Kiss Kiss
Quote:
Originally posted by kendra30752
Firstly, he knows about all of them, and it's probably not the healthiest choice to "hide" things like this from a spouse. I don't think I'd personally be comfortable hiding my toys, and I really wonder what would make one feel ... More
Oh, no, he definitely wouldn't have a problem is he saw all that I have!
I just meant that he might kinda give a funny look to the one with a suction cup on it!

But I think he'd be interested in seeing all the ones I have!
We really don't keep things from each other, I just meant that I might have to go over what each one is for, since they all have their own uses, and, again, I'm sure he'd be interested in learning!

I'm lucky to have someone who understands all this, because, as I've said before, he actually bought me my first toys for us to use, so he doesn't have a problem with it.

Unfortunately, he's outta town a lot of the time, so we don't have too much "alone time" to have fun

BUT, hopefully SOON, we can have MORE TIME!!
01/19/2013
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