Why Am I Broke?!

Contributor: Lilith Bealove Lilith Bealove
It's no secret. I'm a toy whore. I fucking love toys. I gladly buy toys, when affordable, just to tell people what I thought of them! When I found out about getting toys for free or at a discount in exchange for a review, I nearly had an O just thinking about it. Kidding. Mostly.

A little back story, I had quiet the collection of toys building up and my husbands ferret found and ate $300 worth. He's lucky to be alive.

Anyway, I'm waiting to hear back about a free assignment for lingerie and I decided that I would look into the buyout section to see if I could talk my husband into getting a cheap toy, too.

And what is on the first page?! The fucking We Vibe 4 App Only!! That makes it 104.30 with the buyout discount. So, I'm trying not to sob over how I am unable to afford that at this moment when Eden sends me a pop up "Hey! You can use 5.20 worth of points on this item!"

That makes the entire total $99.10. Ninety Nine Dollars and Ten Cent!! Why, oh, why am I a poor, broke toy whore who only wants top quality stuff?!?

-end rant and goes to cry in a corner-
03/17/2015
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Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Lilith Bealove
It's no secret. I'm a toy whore. I fucking love toys. I gladly buy toys, when affordable, just to tell people what I thought of them! When I found out about getting toys for free or at a discount in exchange for a review, I nearly had an O ... more
Very often in life, the problem is not on the spending end, but on the earning end. If you enjoy eating steak, but have a hamburger income, there are two solutions. Either stop craving steak or change your income to be able to afford steak. The fact is, the price of steak won't come down because we cannot afford it.
If you really, really enjoy these high end toys, then work some extra hours, get a second job, return to school to increase your income potential....whatever it takes, you can, honestly, afford pretty much anything you want in life, but you have to change your earning potential to do it. Unlike some places on earth, where there is little upward mobility, here in the USA, and most of the Western world, there is no one, and nothing keeping you from earning, legally, as much as you want. You know darn well, someone is not only earning enough for high end toys, but for high end houses, cars, and at the top end, jets, and yachts too. They are made of the same flesh and blood as all of us, and while some were born with a "silver spoon", most were really not.
Ask yourself how big a motivator your desire for those toys are, and then see how you can earn the cash to pay for them. Believe me, it IS possible.
Honest.
My parents couldn't afford a car for me when I was sixteen, not even an old, used beater, but I earn one. I mowed lawns, dog sat, baby sat, picked up trash at our local movie theater, even picked up dog poop in neighbors yards for a couple bucks a week. When it was time to go to college, I got two summer jobs to help pay my way, and have not stopped working since. I was born pretty darned poor, and my knowledge of "high finance" is sure not the best, but I am betting that "ranting" and "crying in the corner" don't pay much, so you can....I promise, change your own financial destiny. I hope you end up with every high priced toy you ever want someday....and you CAN make that happen.
03/17/2015
Contributor: Vnessa Vnessa
Ahhh... The age old financial debate. Often, an unpleasant one. Chin up, luv. As Bignuf stated above, you are in charge of your destiny & Where there's a will there's a way I also have a Fine Champagne palate when it comes to pretty much all things purchasable.

The WeVibe 4 is also a toy I lust after and haven't purchased yet lol
03/17/2015
Contributor: Lilith Bealove Lilith Bealove
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Originally posted by Bignuf
Very often in life, the problem is not on the spending end, but on the earning end. If you enjoy eating steak, but have a hamburger income, there are two solutions. Either stop craving steak or change your income to be able to afford steak. The fact ... more
It's not that we have a beer budget with wine tastes, well, not all the time. I recently got laid off (I don't think that's the right term, my work closed), and my husbands hours got cut temporarily. I believe hard work will get you anywhere in this world, but for now, I'm sad. It's been a LONG time since I've bought a new toy cause I lost my sex drive. But now it's back, and our work is restricting us or closing. -_-

Thank you so much for your encouragement tho.
03/17/2015
Contributor: Vnessa Vnessa
So sorry to hear you are going through such a difficult time. That is not a fun position to be in. I will be sending g you positive vibes for a fast turnaround. You need a new
03/17/2015
Contributor: Inquisitor Inquisitor
Buck up Missy May! It will get better.
03/17/2015
Contributor: Lilith Bealove Lilith Bealove
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Originally posted by Vnessa
So sorry to hear you are going through such a difficult time. That is not a fun position to be in. I will be sending g you positive vibes for a fast turnaround. You need a new
Agree. I'm probably going to talk the husband into a cheaper one this pay period.
03/17/2015
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
PERHAPS you should avoid the Shop pages so as to not get tempted. If we look at stuff, we want to buy them.

If I look at new cars or commercials, I want to buy one. If we go to the nursery, we end up buying all kinds of plants etc. One yr we saw this stone sculpture of a turtle. Weighs a ton, we of course bought it !

And pls don't ask me how many cars I have boughten.

Stop looking !

Just just what God gave you for now. Hands, fingers, tongue, the almighty mind and whatnot. When the time comes look at the nice stuff.

Boy, sound like a parent huh ?
03/17/2015
Contributor: Inquisitor Inquisitor
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Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
PERHAPS you should avoid the Shop pages so as to not get tempted. If we look at stuff, we want to buy them.

If I look at new cars or commercials, I want to buy one. If we go to the nursery, we end up buying all kinds of plants etc. One yr ... more
I'm sorry, but, I have to play the devils advocate on this one. Being an informed consumer can stretch your dollars. Now, let's just pretend that Eden wasn't a one stop shop. Let's also pretend that Eden's prices aren't the lowest. You might find the same item somewhere else by comparison shopping different sites. Get creative with it! Look in unusual places and use search engines to find whatever you are looking for. Don't be afraid to bargain with people.
03/17/2015
Contributor: Lilith Bealove Lilith Bealove
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Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
PERHAPS you should avoid the Shop pages so as to not get tempted. If we look at stuff, we want to buy them.

If I look at new cars or commercials, I want to buy one. If we go to the nursery, we end up buying all kinds of plants etc. One yr ... more
I am a parent, and I have to tell my boys all the time "no we are not buying that, you have xyz at home that is just as good as abc." I guess I should be the same way on myself.

So.... how many cars have you bought? LOL!

And after an amazing find on another site, I have to agree with the devil's advocate. I can totes save money and get my precious toys.
03/17/2015
Contributor: Inquisitor Inquisitor
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Originally posted by Lilith Bealove
I am a parent, and I have to tell my boys all the time "no we are not buying that, you have xyz at home that is just as good as abc." I guess I should be the same way on myself.

So.... how many cars have you bought? LOL!

And ... more
LOL, Devil +1, Angel 0. Sometimes you can have your cake And eat it too!
03/17/2015
Contributor: christina sanchez christina sanchez
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Originally posted by Lilith Bealove
It's no secret. I'm a toy whore. I fucking love toys. I gladly buy toys, when affordable, just to tell people what I thought of them! When I found out about getting toys for free or at a discount in exchange for a review, I nearly had an O ... more



03/17/2015
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by Lilith Bealove
I am a parent, and I have to tell my boys all the time "no we are not buying that, you have xyz at home that is just as good as abc." I guess I should be the same way on myself.

So.... how many cars have you bought? LOL!

And ... more
I stopped counting at 18. Last few have been high end so that helps alot. I do avoid looking at new cars in the showroom when I bring mine for service. Though just last wk I saw the new Corvette going down the street. Best looking one yet!

I'm currently driving a two seater hardtop convertible. Smokey Graphite. Had it for 8.5 yrs now. Our car ct is high because we normally keep 3 at a time.
03/18/2015
Contributor: Inquisitor Inquisitor
Quote:
Originally posted by Lilith Bealove
It's no secret. I'm a toy whore. I fucking love toys. I gladly buy toys, when affordable, just to tell people what I thought of them! When I found out about getting toys for free or at a discount in exchange for a review, I nearly had an O ... more
"toy whore." No Missy May, you are just a passionate adult toy enthusiast. You are not alone in this. Several EF members indulge in this behavior and I'm one of them. Stay passionate!
03/19/2015