Why should some say no to sex?

hotcoktail hotcoktail
Hey guys let me know what is in your mind. what I think You should welcome sex.
05/03/2011
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hotcoktail hotcoktail
And we should never say not to sex. I cant even think my life without sex
05/03/2011
Jul!a Jul!a
I think there are times where caving and having sex when you're not in the mood for it can lead to being angry and bitter and viewing sex as more of a chore than a pleasurable act. We should always be able to say no to sex if we're not comfortable with something or not in the mood.
05/03/2011
Chilipepper Chilipepper
Talk to my ex-husband. He didn't want sex. With ANYone. He lied about his libido long enough to get me to marry him and he pushed me into being his Mommy.

Hence the reason he is an 'ex'.
05/03/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by hotcoktail
And we should never say not to sex. I cant even think my life without sex
Never? How about the first few weeks after giving birth? How about when you have the stomach flu? How about when someone you don't like wants to have sex with you?

My Man and I certainly have sex a lot. We "welcome" sex. About once a day. But either of us are free to say, "I really don't want to today." At any time, with no grief and no pressure.

Also, the article the OP referenced was a HUMOR article. By the Blogess. One of her reasons for not having sex is “I totally would but there’s a chipmunk in my vagina. I’m really into deforestation issues so I let forest animals live in my vagina as a living protest to them losing their homes.”

Um....it's the Bloggess. She isn't serious.
05/03/2011
starsNairguitars starsNairguitars
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Originally posted by P'Gell
Never? How about the first few weeks after giving birth? How about when you have the stomach flu? How about when someone you don't like wants to have sex with you?



My Man and I certainly have sex a lot. We "welcome" sex. ... More
I was totally thinking the same thing
05/03/2011
liilii080 liilii080
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Originally posted by P'Gell
Never? How about the first few weeks after giving birth? How about when you have the stomach flu? How about when someone you don't like wants to have sex with you?



My Man and I certainly have sex a lot. We "welcome" sex. ... More
You said it P'Gell. There are plenty of reasons to have sex and not have sex but it is my personal choice and any partner I would choose has to respect that as I respect them and their decisions.
05/03/2011
BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
I say no to sex about 3 times a week. Being tired, having a headache, just not in the mood in general are usually reasons... It's not that I don't enjoy sex, I like it quite a LOT; but it doesn't mean I want to do it every day.

Also, as P'Gell aptly put it, Jenny (the Bloggess) is a satirist. Unless she warns you before the article that it's a serious matter, she's being funny. It's a given.

I mean, "Deforestation" "Spaghetti. Rhinoceros." "1/4" diameter dicks"??? Not a serious reason, which is fitting because Jenny's writing isn't serious.
05/03/2011
daniel and frances daniel and frances
We try never to say no. There are so many reasons why sex is good AND good for you.
05/03/2011
PiratePrincess PiratePrincess
I say no when I'm stressed or for other reasons.
05/03/2011
ToyGurl ToyGurl
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Originally posted by Jul!a
I think there are times where caving and having sex when you're not in the mood for it can lead to being angry and bitter and viewing sex as more of a chore than a pleasurable act. We should always be able to say no to sex if we're not ... More
I agree with Jul!a. If your partner isn't in the mood, I wouldn't try to talk him into sex at that time. He would do the same for me. It can turn into me just lying there underneath him pretending to like it, and then once it's over I'm in the mood and he's tired already. That leaves a happy male, and an unhappy female who hasn't had an orgasm = HELL on earth.

Also, I think if you lack proper protection, you should definitely say no. Or maybe if you aren't comfortable with having sex with someone. Maybe your religion prohibits it also.

I was just thinking about this last night, oddly enough.
05/03/2011
Wondermom Wondermom
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Originally posted by Jul!a
I think there are times where caving and having sex when you're not in the mood for it can lead to being angry and bitter and viewing sex as more of a chore than a pleasurable act. We should always be able to say no to sex if we're not ... More
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05/03/2011
Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
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Originally posted by hotcoktail
Hey guys let me know what is in your mind. what I think You should welcome sex.
if you're not comfortable with the person or the situation, i think it is appropriate. to each his own
05/04/2011
R72485 R72485
Both of my girlfriends have said no, at times, and I have complied nicely. I have, though, never said no. It is that male thing, I guess.
06/17/2011
Teacholddofnewtricks Teacholddofnewtricks
Not looking forward to sex until I die. Was reasonably good partner for 35 years and now feel my dues are paid. On average guys get the over the top sex drive.....then when the hardware isn't working as well they have Viagra and penile erection implantable pumps. Why does something have to be wrong with you if you are ready to retire at some point? I recently learned I'm not alone in this desire. Why make us feel like freaks if we are no longer interested?
08/02/2012
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