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Bignuf
She is one year younger. We thus have common references to all things from music to movies, TV to culture. Makes us a TEAM. Works for us. We BOTH get the same jokes, and references.
Happy, happy.
However, we are glad your situation
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She is one year younger. We thus have common references to all things from music to movies, TV to culture. Makes us a TEAM. Works for us. We BOTH get the same jokes, and references.
Happy, happy.
However, we are glad your situation works for you! We each have a powerful partner, an equal, who has our back. There are no "masters" here, and certainly none wanted...not even to our dog, who is our family and FRIEND.
We totally don't get this "slave/master" thing. Seems a few million years of human history have been bloodied to remove shackles and that whole concept. Honestly, we BOTH are sitting here cringing at the term. No kidding. Brings up visions of someone kidnapped and kept in a basement closet! Why someone wants to adopt such a "lifestyle" of submission??? ....sorry, not OUR cup of tea and we TOTALLY don't get it!
We hope YOU stay happy, however.
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Awwwwwwwwwww, thank you Bignuf (and yer precious one if the name covers only one of you), aaaaaand am happy to hear that you love your puppy as a family member, W/we also do, he is O/our lil babymutt, W/we don't plan to have kids (my Baby has two wonderful children already), so I enjoy my "motherly enthusiasm" with O/our lovemutt babydoooooooooog...
I do understand why it freaks you and other people out to imagine that some have the desire to live a life where there are a dominant and submissive one, because personal freedom is the most important thing one can have, it is just the way of life and most basic right that you can decide for yourself what you find best to do, you often fuck up but you learn by it, I do think we are more than a mortal body, and that we are all here on this world to learn, otherwise it wouldn't make any sense...
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I could try to collect all the reasons why people choose to live a life where they dominate someone or are dominated, but I guess it is most official if I tell my reason...
Like the casual "vanilla" relationships too, this kind of lifestyle evidently includes (at least it is supposed to, there are many fuckheads out there who don't care), that all the people involved are into only what they accept and agree with...
Safe, Sane and Consensual, the submissive one tells what (s)he is willing to handle, and to experiment with, the dominant one has to accept it, (s)he has to be fully understanding, patient, caring, loving, and his/her main purpose is to do his best to "raise" his/her submissive to become herself/himself fully, like a flower to bloom, it is for the submissive's greatest good...
The submissive willingly puts her/his life into the dominant one's hand, with total trust, but still cautious that even the best Masters/Mistresses can make mistakes sometimes, so you must have a sense of security, physical, mental and emotional, and speak up always, and tell when to stop...
A safety word is the best way to do that, because when you are spanked or punished for example, you yell and whimper "please, stop", but that doesn't always mean you do it cause you want him/her to stop...
Total honesty is most important, and total care, though such a life can cause true pain to the submissive one, I am blessed with a Master Who loves it that I tell my opinion about everything, so things, like hurting me then being too late to realize it would ruin something and cause a trauma hard to get through, don't happen here...
Some Masters let you speak up only after they are done with stuff with you, if you don't mind to handle it it's ok, and almost any mistake is alright if it happens only once...
Some Masters simply don't let you do certain things, so you can accept it or leave, I had a Sir (would hardly call him a Master, as he was kinda wise but not as much in my opinion) who was like that, we didn't last long cause I didn't get what I felt I needed in return for everything I did for him...
Well, nobody is perfect anyway...
My personal reason to live like this is simply because:
- I love giving love, pleasure, expressing my love towards my Master, and do things to please Him and make Him happy, it is natural for me and I feel totally comfortable with it, it makes me happy to make Him happy...
- I love feeling that a REAL MAN is with me, and how much I feel His Power and Might upon myself, and it makes me feel even more that I am a woman
- when I have to obey and I can't argue even if I think that I am right and He isn't (as a real Master has to be open for that and accept it), or when am just a little tired but have to do my best to please Him, I feel sooooooooo tiny and so unimportant, that He decides stuff instead of me, that it makes me feel free, I just do what I am told to do, even if it's fuckin hard I exist in the pain, and I just float with the stream, like something what doesn't have to care about anything in life...
- I like the atmosphere of being totally extremely sad sometimes, it is so dark and gloomy, I am so tight in my own self, like being covered and nothing else comes through, only what I have in my very inside
- if you are a physical masochist it is because pain loads a whole flood of chemicals in your system, which cause the feeling of pleasure and extasy, here is a good article on the topic:
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- my Master is sooooooooo extremely wise that I think and I trust Him that whatever He tells me to do is because He knows how to live best, do things best, be as perfect as a soul can be
- I can comply in a polite and loving way what I always do anyway, naturally, and if something is really off limit then He accepts it, if He finds it a silly idea then I know it is, and I do my best to listen to Him, sometimes making me fucking sad and it's fucking hard, but I know that He is right cause He is so damned impeccable, almost like a perfect human being in my eyes
- a Master can stretch your limits, boundaries, it is a duty of his/hers anyway, to make you be better, able to handle more, whether it is physical pain to be tougher, or emotional hardship to be able to deal with in your life
- also, people who live in such relationships are more open for other things in the bed and in life in general too
If it's only roleplaying then it is ok as long as you don't harm anyone AND yourself, and 24/7, it's a big journey, for your pleasure and his/her pleasure, mutually, as souls (could say people but that wouldn't include our animal and plant siblings) are all equal, this is rather a playful and loving way of life, where you enjoy pleasing your love, and (s)he enjoys dealing with all the crap to put up with while trying to make you become a masterpiece of human...
Here is maybe the best little quick "story" to make folks understand what to imagine about the concept:
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As I see it anyway...
