Biggest age difference between you and your current/ex partner in a long term relationship?

DreamWolf DreamWolf
What a fascinating topic!

The age difference between my Master and me is 32 years, W/we have known E/each O/other for about 6 years already if not more, in L/love with E/each O/other more and more over the years, now living together for over a year already (before it was an online relationship), and my God, it is like the mostwonderful fuckin dream ever...!!!

What about it with you guys?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
0-5 years
46  (42%)
5-10 years
24  (22%)
10-15 years
14  (13%)
15-20 years
16  (15%)
20-25 years
7  (6%)
25-30 years
3  (3%)
30 years or above
Total votes: 110
Poll is closed
12/19/2011
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Peggi Peggi
I've never had a huge age difference in a relationship, no more than a couple of years, though I hold nothing against dating older men (younger would mean not legal lol) I just so happened to meet my forever man who happened to be 1 year older than me.
12/19/2011
Chilipepper Chilipepper
I'm trying to figure out the random capitalization and slashes in your post. *shrug*

Twelve years difference between Master and myself. We're at the right time in our lives in which he's finished all the work and stuff to be established and now wants to enjoy life, and I'm ready to have some fun in mine for a change.
12/19/2011
Coralbell Coralbell
I haven't had a large age difference, the most is 2 years.
12/19/2011
Ms. N Ms. N
15 years, 9 months. I'm closer in age to his mother
12/19/2011
GonetoLovehoney GonetoLovehoney
There's only a 6 year age difference between me and my boyfriend. I've been with people ~10 years older than me though. It all depends on the maturity level.
12/19/2011
Drakoni Drakoni
I once dated a guy who was 5 years younger than me. Fun at first, but I quickly became annoyed at his immaturity. I've been on a few first dates with older guys, but they all creeped me out and didn't get a yes to a second date.
12/19/2011
Beck Beck
19 years, I am roughly the same age as his kids and he is the age of my parents.
12/19/2011
Pixel Pixel
My Owner is 24 years older than me.
12/19/2011
Nazaress Nazaress
My last boyfriend was about seven years older than me, I think, and we dated for a little over a year.
12/19/2011
DreamWolf DreamWolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Chilipepper
I'm trying to figure out the random capitalization and slashes in your post. *shrug*

Twelve years difference between Master and myself. We're at the right time in our lives in which he's finished all the work and stuff to be ... More
Same is about to happen here too... ^^

The capitalization and slashes are a fairly commonly used way to address the dominant ones and the submissive ones, capital letters go for the dominant ones...

When they are mentioned together the same capitalization is used, but with a slash it is shown that you mean both of them, and you keep the rule in that way too...

Like if you mentioned your Master as "He", but used "we" to mean you and him - well, in that case you "lower" your Master's caps, which can be disrespectful if someone takes it seriously...

My Master doesn't, but He loves it that I always pay attention to title Him in such an expressive fancy way...

It has gone so far in my case that, because of relating His Stuff to Him as something "as sacred", I started to use caps like "His Eyes", "His Chair"...

So if I wanna keep it as accurate then when I name something W/we both have, it has the same caps too - "O/our L/life", "O/our H/home"...
To state that it is His, but as much mine too, but as my Master is the "MightyMighty", so a lil slave is the little one, mighty things go for Him, and lil things represent this one...
In a playful theory, of course W/we are just simple, easygoing people too... ^^
12/20/2011
DreamWolf DreamWolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Ms. N
15 years, 9 months. I'm closer in age to his mother
He is 3 years older than my dad... ~lol
12/20/2011
DreamWolf DreamWolf
Quote:
Originally posted by GonetoLovehoney
There's only a 6 year age difference between me and my boyfriend. I've been with people ~10 years older than me though. It all depends on the maturity level.
That is funny btw that some females tend to do so...

It is said that it is because the female looks for a father figure she didn't have because of lacking a dad to be around, or having a dad but not such a great one...

I often wonder how true it is in practice...

Have had 3 serious, long term relationships before, all 3 of them were min. 10 years older, the first one actually 20...

The funniest part is that I never gave a heck about it, and never knew their age before feeling anything deeper, so I always got to know their age only AFTER I decided to be with them already...

The slutting away was different in those years, any age groups, youngest about 7 years younger, but probably rather 5, I never asked... ^^

And yep, I care only about the maturity level, males even above 40-50 can be sooo dumb and rude and immature and and and... One would think that with age you grow wiser too...
(Same goes about some young ones, I have met a few very young males far wiser than many adults... ^^)
12/20/2011
DreamWolf DreamWolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Drakoni
I once dated a guy who was 5 years younger than me. Fun at first, but I quickly became annoyed at his immaturity. I've been on a few first dates with older guys, but they all creeped me out and didn't get a yes to a second date.
Awwwwwwwww!
12/20/2011
DreamWolf DreamWolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
19 years, I am roughly the same age as his kids and he is the age of my parents.
Exactly the same here!!!
12/20/2011
DreamWolf DreamWolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Pixel
My Owner is 24 years older than me.
(How lovely, I rarely hear that someone calls her Master her Owner, so far the only I know about other than me... )
12/20/2011
Chilipepper Chilipepper
Quote:
Originally posted by DreamWolf
Same is about to happen here too... ^^

The capitalization and slashes are a fairly commonly used way to address the dominant ones and the submissive ones, capital letters go for the dominant ones...

When they are mentioned together the ... More
Okay, I see what you mean. Thanks for explaining.
12/20/2011
JessCee JessCee
17 years
12/20/2011
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by DreamWolf
What a fascinating topic!

The age difference between my Master and me is 32 years, W/we have known E/each O/other for about 6 years already if not more, in L/love with E/each O/other more and more over the years, now living together for over a ... More
She is one year younger. We thus have common references to all things from music to movies, TV to culture. Makes us a TEAM. Works for us. We BOTH get the same jokes, and references.

Happy, happy.

However, we are glad your situation works for you! We each have a powerful partner, an equal, who has our back. There are no "masters" here, and certainly none wanted...not even to our dog, who is our family and FRIEND.

We totally don't get this "slave/master" thing. Seems a few million years of human history have been bloodied to remove shackles and that whole concept. Honestly, we BOTH are sitting here cringing at the term. No kidding. Brings up visions of someone kidnapped and kept in a basement closet! Why someone wants to adopt such a "lifestyle" of submission??? ....sorry, not OUR cup of tea and we TOTALLY don't get it!

We hope YOU stay happy, however.
12/20/2011
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by DreamWolf
(How lovely, I rarely hear that someone calls her Master her Owner, so far the only I know about other than me... )
Lovely? Oh my...we SO don't get it. Seems that human history has had millenia where that was a bad thing..the worst thing, to ANY human.

Now people care to do it to themselves?

We both hear that term and, as I mentioned here in another post, honestly cringe. It would be the same as saying "I'm the victim in this relationship"! It carries that same negative vibe to those of us out here NOT doing that "lifestyle".
12/20/2011
Chilipepper Chilipepper
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Lovely? Oh my...we SO don't get it. Seems that human history has had millenia where that was a bad thing..the worst thing, to ANY human.

Now people care to do it to themselves?

We both hear that term and, as I mentioned here in ... More
It's not negative to us. It's an expression of extreme trust and love that we give them our hearts and bodies, and know that they won't hurt us. It's an open covenant of respect. There is no one being held against their will, and the sub/slave has the ability to walk away if they feel they're not being treated right. Most all of us subs actually have very high self-worth, and we willingly surrender our sexuality (or more) to another in love and trust. Most all dom/mes are very respectful of our feelings and treat us lovingly in all ways.

Plus it adds a dimension of excitement in rough play.
12/20/2011
kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
Quote:
Originally posted by DreamWolf
What a fascinating topic!

The age difference between my Master and me is 32 years, W/we have known E/each O/other for about 6 years already if not more, in L/love with E/each O/other more and more over the years, now living together for over a ... More
other how about less than a month?
12/20/2011
(Re)tired Stripper (Re)tired Stripper
Biggest difference was 18 years. He was old enough to be my father. He has a daughter around my age. He was handsome, taller than me (tough because I'm tall), strong, lean, charismatic, experienced, naturally dominant without all the bells & whistles & protocol stuff, brilliant.

BUT also a wicked awful psychological and physical abuser.

Still he was my best in bed, bar none. Had an enormous cock.

I was with an older man who was getting a divorce from his wife--they were MISERABLE and I kind of moved the divorce along. I know it sounds rotten. But both knew me and were on good terms. She was better with his lover being someone she knew and somewhat liked rather than someone random. This guy was 16 years older at the time.

Both the top two lovers ever, man or woman or anyone in between.
12/20/2011
SexyStuff SexyStuff
We're just a year apart with my current relationship.
12/21/2011
DreamWolf DreamWolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Chilipepper
Okay, I see what you mean. Thanks for explaining.
You're most welcome dear...
12/22/2011
DreamWolf DreamWolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
She is one year younger. We thus have common references to all things from music to movies, TV to culture. Makes us a TEAM. Works for us. We BOTH get the same jokes, and references.

Happy, happy.

However, we are glad your situation ... More
Awwwwwwwwwww, thank you Bignuf (and yer precious one if the name covers only one of you), aaaaaand am happy to hear that you love your puppy as a family member, W/we also do, he is O/our lil babymutt, W/we don't plan to have kids (my Baby has two wonderful children already), so I enjoy my "motherly enthusiasm" with O/our lovemutt babydoooooooooog...

I do understand why it freaks you and other people out to imagine that some have the desire to live a life where there are a dominant and submissive one, because personal freedom is the most important thing one can have, it is just the way of life and most basic right that you can decide for yourself what you find best to do, you often fuck up but you learn by it, I do think we are more than a mortal body, and that we are all here on this world to learn, otherwise it wouldn't make any sense... ^^

I could try to collect all the reasons why people choose to live a life where they dominate someone or are dominated, but I guess it is most official if I tell my reason...

Like the casual "vanilla" relationships too, this kind of lifestyle evidently includes (at least it is supposed to, there are many fuckheads out there who don't care), that all the people involved are into only what they accept and agree with...
Safe, Sane and Consensual, the submissive one tells what (s)he is willing to handle, and to experiment with, the dominant one has to accept it, (s)he has to be fully understanding, patient, caring, loving, and his/her main purpose is to do his best to "raise" his/her submissive to become herself/himself fully, like a flower to bloom, it is for the submissive's greatest good...

The submissive willingly puts her/his life into the dominant one's hand, with total trust, but still cautious that even the best Masters/Mistresses can make mistakes sometimes, so you must have a sense of security, physical, mental and emotional, and speak up always, and tell when to stop...
A safety word is the best way to do that, because when you are spanked or punished for example, you yell and whimper "please, stop", but that doesn't always mean you do it cause you want him/her to stop...

Total honesty is most important, and total care, though such a life can cause true pain to the submissive one, I am blessed with a Master Who loves it that I tell my opinion about everything, so things, like hurting me then being too late to realize it would ruin something and cause a trauma hard to get through, don't happen here...
Some Masters let you speak up only after they are done with stuff with you, if you don't mind to handle it it's ok, and almost any mistake is alright if it happens only once...
Some Masters simply don't let you do certain things, so you can accept it or leave, I had a Sir (would hardly call him a Master, as he was kinda wise but not as much in my opinion) who was like that, we didn't last long cause I didn't get what I felt I needed in return for everything I did for him...
Well, nobody is perfect anyway...

My personal reason to live like this is simply because:

- I love giving love, pleasure, expressing my love towards my Master, and do things to please Him and make Him happy, it is natural for me and I feel totally comfortable with it, it makes me happy to make Him happy...

- I love feeling that a REAL MAN is with me, and how much I feel His Power and Might upon myself, and it makes me feel even more that I am a woman

- when I have to obey and I can't argue even if I think that I am right and He isn't (as a real Master has to be open for that and accept it), or when am just a little tired but have to do my best to please Him, I feel sooooooooo tiny and so unimportant, that He decides stuff instead of me, that it makes me feel free, I just do what I am told to do, even if it's fuckin hard I exist in the pain, and I just float with the stream, like something what doesn't have to care about anything in life...

- I like the atmosphere of being totally extremely sad sometimes, it is so dark and gloomy, I am so tight in my own self, like being covered and nothing else comes through, only what I have in my very inside

- if you are a physical masochist it is because pain loads a whole flood of chemicals in your system, which cause the feeling of pleasure and extasy, here is a good article on the topic:

link

- my Master is sooooooooo extremely wise that I think and I trust Him that whatever He tells me to do is because He knows how to live best, do things best, be as perfect as a soul can be

- I can comply in a polite and loving way what I always do anyway, naturally, and if something is really off limit then He accepts it, if He finds it a silly idea then I know it is, and I do my best to listen to Him, sometimes making me fucking sad and it's fucking hard, but I know that He is right cause He is so damned impeccable, almost like a perfect human being in my eyes

- a Master can stretch your limits, boundaries, it is a duty of his/hers anyway, to make you be better, able to handle more, whether it is physical pain to be tougher, or emotional hardship to be able to deal with in your life

- also, people who live in such relationships are more open for other things in the bed and in life in general too

If it's only roleplaying then it is ok as long as you don't harm anyone AND yourself, and 24/7, it's a big journey, for your pleasure and his/her pleasure, mutually, as souls (could say people but that wouldn't include our animal and plant siblings) are all equal, this is rather a playful and loving way of life, where you enjoy pleasing your love, and (s)he enjoys dealing with all the crap to put up with while trying to make you become a masterpiece of human...

Here is maybe the best little quick "story" to make folks understand what to imagine about the concept:

link

As I see it anyway...
12/26/2011
DreamWolf DreamWolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Lovely? Oh my...we SO don't get it. Seems that human history has had millenia where that was a bad thing..the worst thing, to ANY human.

Now people care to do it to themselves?

We both hear that term and, as I mentioned here in ... More
It's understandable of course, I would NEVER let anyone do anything to me I don't agree with!

Even as a "slave" you gotta be independent enough to say no whatever one wants to do to you what you don't want...

Like explained below to answer the previous comment, this is a loving and playful, safe, sane and caring way to love each other, doing it otherwise is a crime, not only by the law but against human life and basic human rights we all deserve - nobody owns anyone, it is rather that two free partners agree to do this kind of lifestyle like a 24/7 roleplaying, if my Master isn't right am gonna tell Him hell yeah, politely and lovingly, if he doesn't accept something like that, better to say if he doesn't care to listen and try to understand your point then he isn't a real Master, better to get the hell out of such a relationship then!

It is to name the one you find the smarter one being sexxxy as hell in his manly aura (same goes for the dominant ladies, mentioning males here only cause it's a little shorter and less timeconsuming... ) as your Master, and name the one you love who puts her heart into giving the world to you as your slave, love is service, a Master loves and serves too, he has to be the wise one anyway, always knowing what is best to do, so he deserves to be called the Master, who can lead you on a leash if it pleases you too, or if it doesn't then if you are rewarded wonderfully enough for your service...

I rather see the word "Master" as a multiple concept anyway, as a Sensei, respected teacher, a wise one, and as an Owner, who cherishes you as if you were his precious beloved little pet, and of course as a mighty mighty, glorious, majestic fully manly being, making you drool on his feet cause you are so fuckin much in love with him!!!!!!

In a (lenghty) nutshell...
12/26/2011
DreamWolf DreamWolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Chilipepper
It's not negative to us. It's an expression of extreme trust and love that we give them our hearts and bodies, and know that they won't hurt us. It's an open covenant of respect. There is no one being held against their will, and the ... More
Ahhh I wish I could have explained as good in such a short way like you have just done, my that I always end up rambling...! ~shakes her ears frowning and growling
12/26/2011
DreamWolf DreamWolf
Quote:
Originally posted by (Re)tired Stripper
Biggest difference was 18 years. He was old enough to be my father. He has a daughter around my age. He was handsome, taller than me (tough because I'm tall), strong, lean, charismatic, experienced, naturally dominant without all the bells ... More
Wow, sweet, what a story!!!

O/our thanksgiving and Xmas last year: Him, me, His ex wife, their kids, His ex lover, her husband, her lover, and aaaaaall loving each other as hell, looks like females get stuck around Him cause He is soooooo wonderful, I felt like my dream of being with other hippielike "lovechildren" came true in a family way! ~lol
12/26/2011
indiglo indiglo
You have a wonderful way of explaining and expressing what the Dom/sub or Master/slave relationship means to you. Thank you so much for taking the time to write that out! I really enjoyed reading it.

My biggest age gap is my current relationship. He's 14 years older than me. It does not cause us any issues at all. We just have normal life and relationship issues that all couples have, nothing extra from the age difference.
12/26/2011
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