When I am having a bad day or things just are not going right I want it rough. I want my guy to take charge and just push all my limits. then on the other hand if we are just having a nice dinner and movie night I want it soft and slow.
Definitely depends on both of our moods, but then again, we like it either way. It's good for rough and hard and then slow and steady with a gentle hand to it. Both feel wonderful.