I think my Wife is Cheating am I wrong

Innocent Mathias Innocent Mathias
ok my wife is 27 and im 21 been married for 3 year over the last year ive notice a few odd thing like one night she got mad and went to my friends house and was there for four house she swears they just talked then a he started calling her at night after i got to sleep and she goes to his house when im at work could I be wrong please tell me I am
11/21/2012
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Apirka Apirka
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Originally posted by Innocent Mathias
ok my wife is 27 and im 21 been married for 3 year over the last year ive notice a few odd thing like one night she got mad and went to my friends house and was there for four house she swears they just talked then a he started calling her at night ... More
It's possible there's something going on, and it's also possible that nothing is going on. Is anything else going on other than them just hanging out/him calling her? Is she acting distant from you, not wanting to have sex, being secretive about what they do while you're at work or what they talk about on the phone when you go to sleep? Did she tell you that she goes over there and that he calls, or was she keeping it from you? Are they acting weird when the three of you are all together (are they flirty and more affectionate, or do they completely avoid each other)?

Honestly, if there are a lot of signs that something is going on, you're just going to have to find a way to talk to both of them (separately) without yelling or anger. Maybe it's a phsycial affair, maybe emotional, maybe nothing's going on at all...either way, you need to calmly talk to her/them about it.
11/21/2012
Ryuson Ryuson
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Originally posted by Apirka
It's possible there's something going on, and it's also possible that nothing is going on. Is anything else going on other than them just hanging out/him calling her? Is she acting distant from you, not wanting to have sex, being ... More
This. You can second guess yourself and get your knickers into a twist for eternity, but you'll never know unless you ask them. Have you mentioned that it makes you uncomfortable, them always hanging out alone and talking after you go to sleep? Especially if there's nothing going on she should be receptive to the idea of cutting it back a bit. Relationships are about compromise. I know that my boyfriend wouldn't like it if I acted like that!

I think that you should talk to her alone, and not in the bedroom. Be calm about the situation and don't accuse her of anything!
11/21/2012
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Innocent Mathias
ok my wife is 27 and im 21 been married for 3 year over the last year ive notice a few odd thing like one night she got mad and went to my friends house and was there for four house she swears they just talked then a he started calling her at night ... More
You have a choice as was mentioned by other posters. You can torture yourself or you can mend the rift between you. No fight is worth the pain you are in. Now if you confront the two you are probably going to get lied to or your heart broken. I would suggest you sit down and calmly apologize for letting things go on like they have been. Let her talk to you about what she's feeling and just listen....HEAR her without trying to defend yourself or refute her logic. You will learn something about yourself if you do!
Then ask for the same consideration. She may not be able to give you more than a few minutes before she defends herself. Thank her for however long she gives you and let her rant. Don't internalize what you hear if you can, just listen...you will learn something about her and her past if you do.

Keep working on talking with her and you may find she breaks off anything she is doing with someone else without you ever needing to face that heartache. It matters what happens in your future together not your past. Work through the problems and you will build something truly amazing.

Of course you could also let your heart rule your head and confront her with the possibility of wounding her if she isn't cheating and blowing away your relationship if she is.
11/21/2012
Innocent Mathias Innocent Mathias
thank you i just scared
11/22/2012
Martiniman Martiniman
You may be wrong, and you may be right, you need to have a calm and civilized conversation with your wife, and no matter what, you need to let her calmly know you are uncomfortable with the current situation.

Now, for the hard part...something is definitely wrong! It would be one thing if she was going to her female best friends house or talking to her late at night after you are asleep, but its with your male best friend. Something is up! I may catch a lot a flack for this, and even though I don't know the whole story, I'm trying to answer your question honestly. If the situation were flipped and you were constantly alone for hours at her female best friends house and talking to her on the phone late at night after your wife was asleep, I'm sure your wife would be pretty upset, and she knows this. Is she doing this to irritate you in a form of revenge, is she cheating on you or is she on the verge of cheating and has just been laying the ground work with your friend? I don't know, but something is wrong and you need to act accordingly and quickly if you want to save your marriage.
11/22/2012
tami tami
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Originally posted by Innocent Mathias
ok my wife is 27 and im 21 been married for 3 year over the last year ive notice a few odd thing like one night she got mad and went to my friends house and was there for four house she swears they just talked then a he started calling her at night ... More
there is a possibility that something is going on, but there is also a possibility that nothing is going but some talking in any event if you are not comfortable with it then she needs to stop it immediately. Your friend is no friend if you have also told him and they still sneak and talk or whatever. I would start sneaking around and see what you can find out. Best of luck to you hope all ends up in your favor
11/22/2012
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