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Ansley
I'm going to be honest, guys my age piss me the fuck off. It was worse when I was in my early 20's. I lived with someone for two years who was six months younger than me. He grew up wealthy compared to how I grew up. He went to the best
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I'm going to be honest, guys my age piss me the fuck off. It was worse when I was in my early 20's. I lived with someone for two years who was six months younger than me. He grew up wealthy compared to how I grew up. He went to the best schools and had a shot at a nice career, if only he could keep his mouth shut. He blew it. All. Got into drugs. Got out of drugs. Then met me.
I had a nice two bedroom apartment, a good job, a nice car. I lost it all because that guy wouldn't get up and go to work every day. He refused to try to better himself at all. I had to teach him everything about how a household runs. It was freaking exhausting.
I don't want to train someone in the basic ways of life. I don't want to be with someone who doesn't understand that mistakes made now affect the entire future of both people involved.
And no matter where I turned my head, they were all the same. Guys my age, that is. Jobless. Druggies. Immature. Mama's boys. Still telling fart jokes in mixed company. That kind of crap. It quite literally infuriated me.
It's really really nice when a problem comes up in my household and I can turn to my man and say 'baby, I think we're screwed, yadda yadda yadda' and he comes back and says 'no, we just have to do this this and this'. Simple.
Relationship experts state that one person is always going to be more 'this' or less 'that' and that's what it takes to work. If you have two people on the same level or there is a vast difference in levels (a genius with a bona-fide idiot) it won't work for long. There's no challenge or the disparity is too great to overcome.
When it comes to a large age difference between a man and a woman I think you have to dig a little deeper and understand what it is both of those people value. For instance, the main reason my husband and I get along so well is because I am absolutely fascinated by music from the 60's, 70's and 80's. I enjoy listening to the stories of his youth and understand those are things that shaped him into who he is today. We share the same political, religious and family values.
I was never really given a childhood. Latch key kid by the age of 7, cooking and doing all house chores by age 10, and all of my siblings are a decade or more older than me. My earliest memory is being told I had an old soul at the age of 6 because I just didn't think like the other kids my age did. I wasn't interested in anything they were. I watched nature shows, not cartoons. I was practically groomed by my upbringing to fall for an older man.
Yes, there are some really lecherous men and really dumb girls that just go for the ass or the money, respectively. I really don't think any one can argue that being used for your body or your wallet is applicable only to relationships where there is a vast difference in age.
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I still haven't met a single man my age who is mature enough for me to stand being around longer than a minute. The good ones are taken already
BTW, who said you could steal my life? lol I grew up the same way, My dad is in the army and my childhood he was frequently on assignment somewhere, my mum had to work and the smallest gap between me and my brothers is 6yrs. They didn't live with us until I was 7, then because the two oldest were old enough to move out alone they did. Within 4 years (of which my brother was mostly at boarding school) the last one was off beginning his own family.
My parents raised me to be very independent, they let me have my own "apt" within our house when I was 12 on the ground floor, and at 15 I had my own mother in law type apartment in the backyard. I paid them rent, had a job along with going to school and cooked my own meals along with helping my mum out when my dad was away.
Age doesn't define a person, its just a number.
P.S ... yes, I know my age was under 18 when me and my husband started dating, but it was legal in my country and I didn't move to the US until I was 19. My parent's fully approved of our relationship.
PPS... The job and rent was my choice, not enforced by my parents
