is it okay for an 18 year old girl to date a 32 year old guy?

Oxygen99 Oxygen99
I guess I don't see the problem. If they're both happy it really isn't anybody's concern. Also, I have to laugh at the people saying "I wouldn't let my child do that." One; At 18 they aren't children. They are quite capable of making adult decisions. That includes who they want to associate with. Two; good luck trying to tell your 18 year-old daughter (or son) who they can and can't date. Let me know how that works out for you. I know if my parents tried to tell me I couldn't date somebody when I was 18 I would probably have continued to date that person just out of rebellion.
04/03/2011
horngry horngry
If it's consensual, I think it's ok.
04/12/2011
Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
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Originally posted by TumorCrunch
my best friend.....ugh...i don't think i'd mind quite as much as i do if he wasn't a dick to me...but still what do you think?
your both of consenting age, so why not?
04/17/2011
lick123 lick123
definitely could work and is not wrong, but both need to make sacrifices in life to make it work.
04/17/2011
lick123 lick123
definitely could work and is not wrong, but both need to make sacrifices in life to make it work.
04/17/2011
nicole07 nicole07
If its what makes her happy!
04/17/2011
Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by lick123
definitely could work and is not wrong, but both need to make sacrifices in life to make it work.
What relationship doesn't require sacrifice? Or at least a hell of a lot of compromise.
04/17/2011
~Brittany~ ~Brittany~
As long as it is for the right reasons
04/17/2011
CarmenGore262 CarmenGore262
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Originally posted by TumorCrunch
my best friend.....ugh...i don't think i'd mind quite as much as i do if he wasn't a dick to me...but still what do you think?
its fine with me
04/18/2011
Mlee Mlee
i dont think that there is anything wrong with it. If you truly care about a person then age should not matter.
05/04/2011
Lady Marmelade Lady Marmelade
I think it's just fine.
05/05/2011
Wondermom Wondermom
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Originally posted by Ansley
I believe that is an assumption.

I was hellbent on landing my guy, come hell or high water. I was 18 and he was in his 30's. He resisted based on the age difference and society's view on the matter.

Well, I got the guy. Our ... More
Thank you for this post, My husband is 15yrs older than me, and we got married when I was 19, this year will be our 8th wedding anniversary and 11 years of being together. I pursued him, not the other way around, I think there are people who are mature enough to make those decisions and not be on two different life paths. Age doesn't guarantee any relationship, there are plenty of immature 40yr old men and mature 20yr old women.

As for your friend, its her choice and you will just have to live with it.
05/08/2011
Wondermom Wondermom
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Originally posted by Amy Snookum
What do you think about another case? 18 year old man to date a 32 year old woman?
both my grandmother and mother were the older one in their marriages and it works/ed great. My parents have been married for 28yrs now and together longer, this is my mums second marriage.
05/08/2011
Wondermom Wondermom
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Originally posted by Ansley
I'm going to be honest, guys my age piss me the fuck off. It was worse when I was in my early 20's. I lived with someone for two years who was six months younger than me. He grew up wealthy compared to how I grew up. He went to the best ... More
I still haven't met a single man my age who is mature enough for me to stand being around longer than a minute. The good ones are taken already

BTW, who said you could steal my life? lol I grew up the same way, My dad is in the army and my childhood he was frequently on assignment somewhere, my mum had to work and the smallest gap between me and my brothers is 6yrs. They didn't live with us until I was 7, then because the two oldest were old enough to move out alone they did. Within 4 years (of which my brother was mostly at boarding school) the last one was off beginning his own family.

My parents raised me to be very independent, they let me have my own "apt" within our house when I was 12 on the ground floor, and at 15 I had my own mother in law type apartment in the backyard. I paid them rent, had a job along with going to school and cooked my own meals along with helping my mum out when my dad was away.

Age doesn't define a person, its just a number.

P.S ... yes, I know my age was under 18 when me and my husband started dating, but it was legal in my country and I didn't move to the US until I was 19. My parent's fully approved of our relationship.

PPS... The job and rent was my choice, not enforced by my parents
05/08/2011
Petite Valentine Petite Valentine
As long as it's legal, I don't care much about age differences, it's not for me to judge.
05/08/2011
Red Vinyl Kitty Red Vinyl Kitty
I was 18 and my husband was 32 when we started dating. Now, we're happily married. Just sayin'.
05/10/2011
ToyGurl ToyGurl
I have a couple different opinions.

I have a best friend who is 18, and she met a 33 year old man at a club. They basically say they are dating, but it's mostly sex. I find this really nasty since she is a "new adult". Just turned 18. I've known her since we were little, so she's like my little sister.

I have a cousin who is almost 19, and is having an arranged Christian marriage next year (when she turns 20) with a 31 year old man. Less of a difference, but still a significant one. The family knows him well, and he treats her really good. I see this okay because a lot of thought has gone into this relationship.

I think that if an older men is going after a younger girl for nothing but sex, and that is obvious to you, it's not a great thing.

If it is a genuine relationship, filled with happiness and love - it's perfectly fine.

Very hard to differentiate sometimes. But I guess they are adults and we can't make the choices for them.
05/10/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by ToyGurl
I have a couple different opinions.

I have a best friend who is 18, and she met a 33 year old man at a club. They basically say they are dating, but it's mostly sex. I find this really nasty since she is a "new adult". Just ... More
Arranged marriage - I had no idea that was done in the US outside of recent ethic immigrants. Learn something new every day!
05/10/2011
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
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Originally posted by TumorCrunch
my best friend.....ugh...i don't think i'd mind quite as much as i do if he wasn't a dick to me...but still what do you think?
Absolutely. It depends on their compatibility.
05/10/2011
Rachel Nunez Rachel Nunez
That's too much of an age difference for me..
05/11/2011
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Amy Snookum
What do you think about another case? 18 year old man to date a 32 year old woman?
Ummmm I was 33 when I met Arch who was 18....he didn't choose to pursue me because I was married. When he learned that Sigel and I had an open relationship he pursued me with a vengence and no I am not creepy, a cradle robber or immature. He wanted to be with me and we've been together 7 years to date, have a son and are very happy.
Age is only a factor when the needs of the couple (or moresome) are imcompatible...then again that is a factor in ANY relationship regardless of the age disparity.
Would I stop my girls from being with someone with a 14 year age difference? No not if the person was good to them and they were happy. I would support them and share some of my experiences to help them over rough spots but generally mind my own business.
05/11/2011
Daniel & Brittany Daniel & Brittany
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Originally posted by TumorCrunch
my best friend.....ugh...i don't think i'd mind quite as much as i do if he wasn't a dick to me...but still what do you think?
as long as shes of age its cool
05/11/2011
Collodion Collodion
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Originally posted by Ansley
I'm going to be honest, guys my age piss me the fuck off. It was worse when I was in my early 20's. I lived with someone for two years who was six months younger than me. He grew up wealthy compared to how I grew up. He went to the best ... More
*blinks*

Ansly, I think you might be me. This sounds almost creepily like my situation growing up, even including the lazy-ass boyfriend that couldn't function as an adult.

You've so perfectly illustrated all the reasons that I (at 20) fell for an older man (who was 47)...while I might argue that 18 is a little young for that sort of relationship, that's just my opinion (based on my relative immaturity at that age) - I have no doubts that it's possible for an 18 year old to have a good relationship with someone older.

As long as it's a healthy relationship and they're both consenting...then it's all good.
05/11/2011
Lady Marmelade Lady Marmelade
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Originally posted by horngry
If it's consensual, I think it's ok.
Yes.
05/11/2011
CarmenGore262 CarmenGore262
Quote:
Originally posted by TumorCrunch
my best friend.....ugh...i don't think i'd mind quite as much as i do if he wasn't a dick to me...but still what do you think?
sure
05/12/2011
clp clp
Age doesn't much matter, just the stage in life that you are in (if you are looking to build a relationship on it). You can be close or far in age and still be completely wrong for each other, with different ideas of morals or family or friends or future and if you don't have common ground to stand on, you probably won't be standing there for too much longer.
05/24/2011
CAKES CAKES
It's not really a bad thing, and I'm sure that for some people it turns out great. From my own experience, I can say that it is not really a good idea.
05/24/2011
ToyGurl ToyGurl
I have a cousin who is dating a 33 year old right now and she is 18. It's a bad relationship because she feels like she doesn't have enough experience, and she feels like he has too much. They argue a lot over maturity.

I suppose if they were both equally mature, it would work out just fine.
05/24/2011
big b big b
i bet its ok with 32 year old guy.
05/25/2011
Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
Technically if that's where your maturity level is at then it would be fine. I would personally look twice though. It just seems creepy and makes me think "daddy issues"
05/25/2011
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