Men & Anal Sex

Contributor: SubmissiveFeminist SubmissiveFeminist
I've been with a lot of men who absolutely hate the thought of receiving anal stimulation of any kind. I mostly want a male-opinion on this: what's your view? Do you enjoy anal sex? Were you really against it at some point? What changed that?
03/11/2012
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03/11/2012
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I'd say a lot of this is age related. With the homosexual agenda so in-your face and all over the media, there seems to be a reaction from some young heterosexual men who have to resist anything the suggests homosexual tendencies.

Personally I didn't get into anal play until I was in my 50s. As a young man I was never exposed to it - didn't know anything about it. However after raising a family and being married for 20+ years, I began investigating new forms of sexual pleasure - and learned about p-spot play and other anal activities.

Better late than never.
03/11/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
My Man doesn't care for his this type of play to be performed on him. I think he might actually like it, if he gave it a chance. But, I respect if he doesn't want to do something.
03/11/2012
Contributor: Falsepast Falsepast
Im a guy and i love it. I was never against it and always curious. i started by myself with fingers, i think there are guys who honestly dont like anal, but i think most just believe it makes them gay (which is completely untrue).
03/12/2012
Contributor: robertk2380 robertk2380
I discovered anal pleasure fairly early in my teen years and once married, convinced my wife that it was very erotic for me. Many years later it still is, as evidenced by the assortment of plugs, lubes and strapon toys in our toy chest. Anal stimulation (external or internal) is a regular part of our play together and I wouldn't have it any other way. I think many men reject it out of fear that it will be perceived as a homosexual act. Nothing could be further from the truth. Lots of nerve endings down there and they all feel good when stimulated the right way.
03/15/2012
Contributor: garylangworthy420 garylangworthy420
ive been very interested in trying this for a while now
03/15/2012
Contributor: allinonekid allinonekid
I love it
03/15/2012
Contributor: Innocent Mathias Innocent Mathias
i wish my wife fucked my ass more often to be honest
10/30/2012
Contributor: MrWood MrWood
I love anal play, but have only been comfortable about asking for it with two different girl friends. I'm not gay or bi, and I'm afraid they will think I am. With both of the partners that did this, it just started out with them touching me there, and I just kept acting like I liked it, and it just went that direction. I'm not comfortable asking my current g/f forit. She is kind of vanilla, lol.
01/10/2013
Contributor: Fluffy Snuggles Fluffy Snuggles
I really enjoy the feeling of having an anal plug inside, but thrusting isn't really my thing.
01/17/2013
Contributor: Jennifer87 Jennifer87
On my husband's behalf he does not life receiving any anal stimulation what so ever. He has tried stuff but never in the anal area...
01/19/2013
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
About 15 yrs ago I went to emergency rm for bad stomach pain. Doctor did a search for stuff in my rectum to get a specimen. She gave me a erection on the exam table. Since then curious about anal. Few months back tried a butt plug and found out enjoyed it a lot. Now have a few and favorite it the 2.0 NJ Pure plug. ( After trying a few others)

Now would like my wife to do anal on me but she refuses and does not like me to bring it up. Refer her to links on EF, but at this time she still doesn't want to. I guess I will have to wait.
03/18/2013
Contributor: Eugler Eugler
I was very curious about anal play from the beginning of my sexual career.

Usually the women I talked to where thinking that I was gay.
Maybe many men would love to try but they think that their women might not like it.
03/19/2013
Contributor: spiced spiced
I'm bi (much more hetero). I discovered anal when the one guy I was ever with told me he wanted to top me. It had been all blowjobs up till then. I resisted, thinking anal would be all pain and no pleasure (for me), but I was amazed how good it felt when I "taught" myself with toys in preparation for being topped (which was also amazing when it happened).

Previous girlfriends have used their fingers and tongues on me; I was thrilled when my wife agreed to peg me — and even more thrilled when she actually did it!
03/19/2013
Contributor: never shy never shy
My man would not ever do this but he does let me lick his ass
03/19/2013
Contributor: meitman meitman
I've always loved it. It feels amazing to me personally. It can be a little intimidating though to bring it up to your partner if it wasn't their idea and the first time you try it with them. Even if you both want it, it can still be intimidating.
03/19/2013
Contributor: Howley Howley
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Originally posted by SubmissiveFeminist
I've been with a lot of men who absolutely hate the thought of receiving anal stimulation of any kind. I mostly want a male-opinion on this: what's your view? Do you enjoy anal sex? Were you really against it at some point? What changed that?
i wouldnt want my girl to put her finger or mouth anywhere near my butt but im sort of okay with the idea of her using toys
03/21/2013
Contributor: Lurr Lurr
rim jobs are the best and if your not getting them you are missing out big time
03/25/2013
Contributor: dancingduo dancingduo
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Originally posted by Howley
i wouldnt want my girl to put her finger or mouth anywhere near my butt but im sort of okay with the idea of her using toys
If she is gloved its not an issue IMHO.
04/03/2013
Contributor: dancingduo dancingduo
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Originally posted by Howley
i wouldnt want my girl to put her finger or mouth anywhere near my butt but im sort of okay with the idea of her using toys
If she is gloved its not an issue IMHO.
04/03/2013
Contributor: Jarhead1341 Jarhead1341
I love it! Fingers, rimming, strap on/pegging. I am fortunate that my current GF has really gotten into pegging me and we do it about once a week. The orgasms are quite intense. Unfortunately she does not rim me or finger me. Maybe one day.
03/11/2016
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
Update from my previous post from 3/2013. We started late 2014 and must say we both enjoy it. We've quite an arsenal now and still adding to it. As previously mentioned, got introduced to it by the Dr in the er few yrs back. And think having a stranger digging back there was part of the allurement.
03/11/2016
Contributor: Peg Peg
Was against it in my 20's even though I had a girlfriend who wanted me to try it. I eventually let her use a finger and I guess her technique was not very good because it did not really do anything for me. Looking back I think she was disappointed. Fast forward 20 years and I am definitely now pretty much a fan of anything anal. Recently discovered the pleasure of being on the receiving end of impact play which usually winds up being foreplay for anal play.
03/11/2016
Contributor: Andykh Andykh
I was against it for the longest time but then I heard an old friend of mine say that his now 2nd ex wife would use anal beads on him and he loved it. I never really thought about it again til 1 day back towards end of last year my wife and i were texting back and forth and I brought up a butt plug and strap on now we have both
03/11/2016
Contributor: Inquisitor Inquisitor
Quote:
Originally posted by SubmissiveFeminist
I've been with a lot of men who absolutely hate the thought of receiving anal stimulation of any kind. I mostly want a male-opinion on this: what's your view? Do you enjoy anal sex? Were you really against it at some point? What changed that?
I was once one of "those guys". I honestly picked up the stigma about anal play for guys. Thanks organized religion . That is sarcasm if you couldn't tell. You might know what it is so I don't need to repeat this incorrect and highly in accurate misinformation. At the time, I also had no desire to penetrate my partner in a similar fashion.

What changed my mind? In school, I took a human sexuality class and that got me thinking about it. It was at that point I became seemingly possessed by the facts. I couldn't get it out of my head. I began thinking that if both men AND women had in this case the same parts then I should try it out first to see if and how it could be done.

I still haven't penetrated my partner anally with the natural hardware, however, we have both indulged on rare occasion and with verbal consent before hand.
03/14/2016
Contributor: merc41 merc41
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Originally posted by SubmissiveFeminist
I've been with a lot of men who absolutely hate the thought of receiving anal stimulation of any kind. I mostly want a male-opinion on this: what's your view? Do you enjoy anal sex? Were you really against it at some point? What changed that?
I love it. Years ago a friend and I would go to a massage parlor. You could pick your massuse and I picked an older gal (mid 30's) I was 20. She was stunning and very seductive looking. If you paid a little extra you could get a happy ending so I did. That's the point right! She started me off on my back and slowly worked her way down my body. When she got to my butt she asked if I was interested in something diffrent. I asked what is it and she refused to answer only to say that she promised it would feel terrific and once she started I could'nt stop her until finished. By that time she was stark naked and encouraged me to touch,feel and squeeze any part of her body I wanted. Wow! what a thing to say to a 20 year old. She started to rub oil on my ass and knead my buns and backs of my legs. I had reached around and was doing the same to her.That must have been the clue for her to part my butt cheeks and oil up the flesh in my crack and lightly run her fingers up and down the length of my butt. Then I remember hearing a buzzing sound and she touched the top of my crack with a vibrating dildo. I emmidiatley clenched up and froze. She reminded me of the promise and helped me relax again. Once relaxed she inserted that dildo and I was in HEAVEN! After several minutes of anal play I was instucted to roll over and bend my knees with my feet flat on the table.She commented on the size and girth of my now rageing erection and inserted the dildo again while strokeing my manhood.It did'nt take long to climax much to her distain.She kept working and sometime later I came again.Now she was satisfied and asked if I would like a tour of the back room. I said sure , we clasped hands and walked stark naked to the back room. It was a DUNGON and she was a dominatrix! After looking at the various toys,stimulators and other slaves I politely declined. She encouraged me to try it saying that nothing would be done if I did'nt request it and if I did and didn't like it she would stop. I spent the rest of the summer and fall as a psuedo sex slave. Never had a better time in my life.
04/03/2017
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by merc41
I love it. Years ago a friend and I would go to a massage parlor. You could pick your massuse and I picked an older gal (mid 30's) I was 20. She was stunning and very seductive looking. If you paid a little extra you could get a happy ending so I ... more
Wow, sounds like a fantasy come true. I bet men and women both would love an adventure like this.
04/04/2017
Contributor: MrClark MrClark
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Originally posted by Inquisitor
I was once one of "those guys". I honestly picked up the stigma about anal play for guys. Thanks organized religion . That is sarcasm if you couldn't tell. You might know what it is so I don't need to repeat this incorrect and ... more
I kind of feel like my entry into anal play was similar... a lacking sex education course lead to me seeking information from sources in the library and online. Exposed me to a lot of things in hindsight I was not ready for and lead to some regrets and an addiction to porn that continues even today.

It was this porn addiction and exposure to anal in porn that had me curious about it. I also found that more often the scenes from big studios that the anal scenes seemed to elicit more of a reaction from the actresses. I think many of the conventional sex scenes seem to result in the stars having a more "dead"/fake reaction but likely due to discomfort it was harder to hide some form of reaction to anal. In curiosity and as Inquisitor indicated, it's not a part or action limited to only women... So began sticking things up my own ass to see what it felt like, have since gotten significant enjoyment out of prostate massagers/play though do not enjoy thrusting action as much, which is one of the reasons I haven't sought out pegging.

I've had anal sex with both of my long term SOs, and much prefer it to regular sex in part due to I am turned on by it in porn and the part of a woman I'm most attracted to is the butt... but also and I think this is true for many men, the sphincter muscle combined w/ the tighter feel of anal sex is closer to that of masturbation in terms of pressure but more enjoyable than our hands. This tends to lead to quicker orgasm and higher levels of pleasure, at least on my part. I'm torn on how much of it is getting to live out my porn fetish in real life or the actual feeling that leads to it being so enjoyable. Thankfully, when my girlfriend is in the mood she also finds it as good if not better than vaginal sex
04/04/2017
Contributor: Gr8pumpkin Gr8pumpkin
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Originally posted by SubmissiveFeminist
I've been with a lot of men who absolutely hate the thought of receiving anal stimulation of any kind. I mostly want a male-opinion on this: what's your view? Do you enjoy anal sex? Were you really against it at some point? What changed that?
As a heterosexual man I have never received any anal sex, however there have been times when my wife has stimulated my anal area during foreplay or while giving me oral. I do enjoy the stimulation and sometimes it seems to intensify the overall arrousal. There have been times when I stimulated her rear during sex and she has responded positively so I suppose she figured it would work the same for me. Anal isn't something we talk about but seems to be just there, like the elephant in the room. We both know it's there, but don't speak about it. Maybe we need to branch out and delve into it a little more. Can you really teach an old dog new tricks?
04/14/2017