Hi, my lover is unable to have an orgasm due to him being on anti-depressants. Is there anything at all that I can do to help him? Is he still getting pleasure by me going down on him/playing with him/intercourse or is it just frustrating for him? Our relationship is new and we've only fooled around a few times but I want him to enjoy our time together and not feel frustrated and stressed. Thanks for any info you can provide.
My man is unable to orgasm
My man is unable to orgasm
I've been there before.
My suggestion is to let him be the active one. If he feels pressured to perform and literally can't, that just makes him feel bad. Put yourself in his position and think what might make you feel better about it.
I'd encourage him to resolve his issues or come to grips with them, anything to get off the anti-d's. Those things are horrid!
My suggestion is to let him be the active one. If he feels pressured to perform and literally can't, that just makes him feel bad. Put yourself in his position and think what might make you feel better about it.
I'd encourage him to resolve his issues or come to grips with them, anything to get off the anti-d's. Those things are horrid!
11/10/2011
ConiMarie
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Thank you JR. I will take your advice and let him be the active one. He does have a lot of issues he needs to overcome and he is slowly working on that.....he needs to get off those anti-d's...
Originally posted by
JR
I've been there before.
My suggestion is to let him be the active one. If he feels pressured to perform and literally can't, that just makes him feel bad. Put yourself in his position and think what might make you feel better about it. ...
My suggestion is to let him be the active one. If he feels pressured to perform and literally can't, that just makes him feel bad. Put yourself in his position and think what might make you feel better about it. ...
I've been there before.
My suggestion is to let him be the active one. If he feels pressured to perform and literally can't, that just makes him feel bad. Put yourself in his position and think what might make you feel better about it.
I'd encourage him to resolve his issues or come to grips with them, anything to get off the anti-d's. Those things are horrid!
My suggestion is to let him be the active one. If he feels pressured to perform and literally can't, that just makes him feel bad. Put yourself in his position and think what might make you feel better about it.
I'd encourage him to resolve his issues or come to grips with them, anything to get off the anti-d's. Those things are horrid!
11/12/2011
Have a conversation with him and see if he is enjoying what is going on or if it is frustrating, that's going to be the only way you can know. See what things will please him, and in the meantime maybe have him talk to his psychiatrist about other alternatives. There are numerous anti-depressents, and some definitely hinder sexual function but others do not (or do not in the same ways).
11/12/2011
ConiMarie
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This sucks! I had this happen when I was on Prozac years ago, I could come, but it took a lot and a long time. Not being able to orgasm is about the farthest thing from pleasure I have ever experienced! I get so frustrated I can't even have a healthy conversation with people. This is not a side effect he should have to live with.
Originally posted by
ConiMarie
Hi, my lover is unable to have an orgasm due to him being on anti-depressants. Is there anything at all that I can do to help him? Is he still getting pleasure by me going down on him/playing with him/intercourse or is it just frustrating for him?
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Hi, my lover is unable to have an orgasm due to him being on anti-depressants. Is there anything at all that I can do to help him? Is he still getting pleasure by me going down on him/playing with him/intercourse or is it just frustrating for him? Our relationship is new and we've only fooled around a few times but I want him to enjoy our time together and not feel frustrated and stressed. Thanks for any info you can provide.
When I had this problem, I decided that there were other antidepressants out there, but I only had one sex life. I called my doctor and made it clear as politely as I could, that this side effect was not acceptable.
I was placed on an other antidepressant which didn't cause the problem.
He needs to call his doctor and have his meds changed. This can be a problem that only makes itself worse. The best solution is to eliminate the thing that caused the problem and substitute and other antidepressant.
It's done all the time as this is a common side effect with some antidepressants and not with others. Also, it varies with the person, one person will do fine on one antidepressant and some other person may need to change.
11/12/2011
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He may well need antidepressants, depression is a serious, life threatening disease!
Originally posted by
ConiMarie
Thank you JR. I will take your advice and let him be the active one. He does have a lot of issues he needs to overcome and he is slowly working on that.....he needs to get off those anti-d's...
However, this problem with his not being able to come is not the same as a garden variety psychological reason for not being able to orgasm. It is rooted in the neurotransmitters that the antidepressant is fixing. It's actually a PHYSICAL reason that prevents orgasm. "Giving him more time" isn't really going to solve a neurotransmitter caused side effect.
He's probably terribly frustrated, but if he suffers from depression, he still needs to be treated. Again talking to the doctor and getting a new med is best. NO ONE should ever go off antidepressants with out their doctor's knowledge and a weaning schedule! IF the doctor thinks he no longer needs them. Really bad thing can happen and the original symptoms can return with a vengeance.
If the doctor thinks he still needs to be on the meds, then he needs to change the meds. Saying someone doesn't need antidepressants if they have been depressed is like saying a diabetic doesn't need insulin simply because you don't need it. People with depression and related disorders (OCD etc) have neurotransmitter and even brain differences that non-depressed people do not have. The meds actually bring them closer to normal.
Being supportive of his psychological and sexual health is the best thing you can do!
11/12/2011
ConiMarie
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Thanks everyone for your input. He does have a depression problem so he cannot stop the meds right now and he realizes that. He has an appt with his therapist next month and said he will ask about other options. I am definitely being very supportive and I am hoping a change and new relationship will help him. I talked to him earlier today and we're going out tonight and he wants to be together. So it seems like he does enjoy what we've done but I will talk to him tonight too, see what he likes etc.
Originally posted by
P'Gell
He may well need antidepressants, depression is a serious, life threatening disease!
However, this problem with his not being able to come is not the same as a garden variety psychological reason for not being able to orgasm. It is rooted ...
However, this problem with his not being able to come is not the same as a garden variety psychological reason for not being able to orgasm. It is rooted ...
He may well need antidepressants, depression is a serious, life threatening disease!
However, this problem with his not being able to come is not the same as a garden variety psychological reason for not being able to orgasm. It is rooted in the neurotransmitters that the antidepressant is fixing. It's actually a PHYSICAL reason that prevents orgasm. "Giving him more time" isn't really going to solve a neurotransmitter caused side effect.
He's probably terribly frustrated, but if he suffers from depression, he still needs to be treated. Again talking to the doctor and getting a new med is best. NO ONE should ever go off antidepressants with out their doctor's knowledge and a weaning schedule! IF the doctor thinks he no longer needs them. Really bad thing can happen and the original symptoms can return with a vengeance.
If the doctor thinks he still needs to be on the meds, then he needs to change the meds. Saying someone doesn't need antidepressants if they have been depressed is like saying a diabetic doesn't need insulin simply because you don't need it. People with depression and related disorders (OCD etc) have neurotransmitter and even brain differences that non-depressed people do not have. The meds actually bring them closer to normal.
Being supportive of his psychological and sexual health is the best thing you can do!
However, this problem with his not being able to come is not the same as a garden variety psychological reason for not being able to orgasm. It is rooted in the neurotransmitters that the antidepressant is fixing. It's actually a PHYSICAL reason that prevents orgasm. "Giving him more time" isn't really going to solve a neurotransmitter caused side effect.
He's probably terribly frustrated, but if he suffers from depression, he still needs to be treated. Again talking to the doctor and getting a new med is best. NO ONE should ever go off antidepressants with out their doctor's knowledge and a weaning schedule! IF the doctor thinks he no longer needs them. Really bad thing can happen and the original symptoms can return with a vengeance.
If the doctor thinks he still needs to be on the meds, then he needs to change the meds. Saying someone doesn't need antidepressants if they have been depressed is like saying a diabetic doesn't need insulin simply because you don't need it. People with depression and related disorders (OCD etc) have neurotransmitter and even brain differences that non-depressed people do not have. The meds actually bring them closer to normal.
Being supportive of his psychological and sexual health is the best thing you can do!
Thanks again.
11/12/2011
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Good answer, Boink!
Originally posted by
Boink
Have a conversation with him and see if he is enjoying what is going on or if it is frustrating, that's going to be the only way you can know. See what things will please him, and in the meantime maybe have him talk to his psychiatrist about other
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Have a conversation with him and see if he is enjoying what is going on or if it is frustrating, that's going to be the only way you can know. See what things will please him, and in the meantime maybe have him talk to his psychiatrist about other alternatives. There are numerous anti-depressents, and some definitely hinder sexual function but others do not (or do not in the same ways).
11/14/2011
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Another good...wait..no, another great answer from P'Gell.
Originally posted by
P'Gell
He may well need antidepressants, depression is a serious, life threatening disease!
However, this problem with his not being able to come is not the same as a garden variety psychological reason for not being able to orgasm. It is rooted ...
However, this problem with his not being able to come is not the same as a garden variety psychological reason for not being able to orgasm. It is rooted ...
He may well need antidepressants, depression is a serious, life threatening disease!
However, this problem with his not being able to come is not the same as a garden variety psychological reason for not being able to orgasm. It is rooted in the neurotransmitters that the antidepressant is fixing. It's actually a PHYSICAL reason that prevents orgasm. "Giving him more time" isn't really going to solve a neurotransmitter caused side effect.
He's probably terribly frustrated, but if he suffers from depression, he still needs to be treated. Again talking to the doctor and getting a new med is best. NO ONE should ever go off antidepressants with out their doctor's knowledge and a weaning schedule! IF the doctor thinks he no longer needs them. Really bad thing can happen and the original symptoms can return with a vengeance.
If the doctor thinks he still needs to be on the meds, then he needs to change the meds. Saying someone doesn't need antidepressants if they have been depressed is like saying a diabetic doesn't need insulin simply because you don't need it. People with depression and related disorders (OCD etc) have neurotransmitter and even brain differences that non-depressed people do not have. The meds actually bring them closer to normal.
Being supportive of his psychological and sexual health is the best thing you can do!
However, this problem with his not being able to come is not the same as a garden variety psychological reason for not being able to orgasm. It is rooted in the neurotransmitters that the antidepressant is fixing. It's actually a PHYSICAL reason that prevents orgasm. "Giving him more time" isn't really going to solve a neurotransmitter caused side effect.
He's probably terribly frustrated, but if he suffers from depression, he still needs to be treated. Again talking to the doctor and getting a new med is best. NO ONE should ever go off antidepressants with out their doctor's knowledge and a weaning schedule! IF the doctor thinks he no longer needs them. Really bad thing can happen and the original symptoms can return with a vengeance.
If the doctor thinks he still needs to be on the meds, then he needs to change the meds. Saying someone doesn't need antidepressants if they have been depressed is like saying a diabetic doesn't need insulin simply because you don't need it. People with depression and related disorders (OCD etc) have neurotransmitter and even brain differences that non-depressed people do not have. The meds actually bring them closer to normal.
Being supportive of his psychological and sexual health is the best thing you can do!
11/14/2011
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I hope everything works out well for both of you. Depression can be a hard road.
Originally posted by
ConiMarie
Thanks everyone for your input. He does have a depression problem so he cannot stop the meds right now and he realizes that. He has an appt with his therapist next month and said he will ask about other options. I am definitely being very supportive
...
Thanks everyone for your input. He does have a depression problem so he cannot stop the meds right now and he realizes that. He has an appt with his therapist next month and said he will ask about other options. I am definitely being very supportive and I am hoping a change and new relationship will help him. I talked to him earlier today and we're going out tonight and he wants to be together. So it seems like he does enjoy what we've done but I will talk to him tonight too, see what he likes etc.
Thanks again.
Thanks again.
11/14/2011
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