Weak erections during pegging or anal play

Chou Wang Chou Wang
I have noticed that my erections became weaker or tend to disappear during long anal sessions (receiving). Not that I mind though as the anal sensations are just hilarious giving me a good portion of non-ejaculatory orgasms. But to finally finish off (from anal only) I need some direct stimulation to get a full erection first.

All these erection issues started a few months after my divorce which wasn't really a big stress. I had some light problems during regular intercourse too and I need more stimulation these days to stay hard. Is it stress or is it me crossing the magic over 30 mark? Is it normal, as I used to be able to maintain my erection for over an hour just by being pegged? Any experiences?

Thanks.
08/02/2009
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Avery Dragon Avery Dragon
Quote:
Originally posted by Chou Wang
I have noticed that my erections became weaker or tend to disappear during long anal sessions (receiving). Not that I mind though as the anal sensations are just hilarious giving me a good portion of non-ejaculatory orgasms. But to finally finish off ... More
It's hard to say what the reason could be. I'm 20 and when I'm receiving anal stimulation I rarely get hard, but I still receive a lot of stimulation none the less. For me, I know it's because I'm not receiving direct stimulation to my penis. I definitely wouldn't worry about it in regards to when you're receiving anally.
08/02/2009
ScottA ScottA
As long as you're enjoying it don't worry. Loss of erection happens from time to time to many people, and many men don't get ejaculatory orgasms from anal stimulation. Don't worry about it - it might be any number of things.

It might come back, or it might not, but it sounds like you're enjoying it so don't worry.
08/02/2009
Chou Wang Chou Wang
Thanks for the feedback guys! I wasn't worrying a lot but felt kinda strange. Gonna keep enjoying
08/03/2009
NuMe NuMe
We just tried pegging for the first time. Even though my husband was enjoying it, he couldn't get hard at all. He said the anal sensations seemed to be interfering with penis sensations. He also said that pegging made him feel like he was getting filled with air?
08/03/2009
Chou Wang Chou Wang
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Originally posted by NuMe
We just tried pegging for the first time. Even though my husband was enjoying it, he couldn't get hard at all. He said the anal sensations seemed to be interfering with penis sensations. He also said that pegging made him feel like he was ... More
Interesting thought about the interference, sounds logical. The air might come from pumping it into the colon through friction movements or through reinsertion while gaping. I have it from time to time but just relax and take another position. Thanks for the comment.
08/03/2009
spicywife spicywife
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Originally posted by NuMe
We just tried pegging for the first time. Even though my husband was enjoying it, he couldn't get hard at all. He said the anal sensations seemed to be interfering with penis sensations. He also said that pegging made him feel like he was ... More
I'm sorry that it didn't work well for you. I'm not an expert at pegging, we just started doing it. Just a thought, has your husband had anal stimulation before? (butt plugs, etc).
08/03/2009
NuMe NuMe
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Originally posted by spicywife
I'm sorry that it didn't work well for you. I'm not an expert at pegging, we just started doing it. Just a thought, has your husband had anal stimulation before? (butt plugs, etc).
Yes, a few times. He's still trying to get used to the sensations though.

What didn't work well for me was that the Tango kept coming out. But it had it's moments. And I'm in no way ready to give it up yet. lol
08/03/2009
spicywife spicywife
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Originally posted by NuMe
Yes, a few times. He's still trying to get used to the sensations though.

What didn't work well for me was that the Tango kept coming out. But it had it's moments. And I'm in no way ready to give it up yet. lol
I wish I could offer more help/advice.. But I'm glad you will keep trying
08/03/2009
In Purrgatory In Purrgatory
Wow, that's the first time I've seen the word 'hilarious' used to describe anal sensations. Ticklish?
08/03/2009
Chou Wang Chou Wang
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Originally posted by In Purrgatory
Wow, that's the first time I've seen the word 'hilarious' used to describe anal sensations. Ticklish?
A bit of a wrong adjective here... I recognized when I posted, but there was no way back.
08/04/2009
namelesschaos namelesschaos
For me what you describe is one of thing that fascinates me about anal play. That I can have orgasm without ejaculation and without even being fully erect. It impresses me how independent the circuitry for ejaculation really is from that for orgasm. I personally do not usually need to finish myself off with an ejaculation after one or more anal orgasm for it is not an issue for me.
09/07/2009
Liz2 Liz2
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Originally posted by namelesschaos
For me what you describe is one of thing that fascinates me about anal play. That I can have orgasm without ejaculation and without even being fully erect. It impresses me how independent the circuitry for ejaculation really is from that for orgasm. ... More
My b/f's erections vary greatly during pegging. At times he is semi-erect and emits a copious amount of pre-cum by a p spot orgasm, sometimes no emission at all but still an anal orgasm.
Ejaculation with semen usually happens with either of us stimulating his penis while I thrust but this is a somewhat shorter ride.
09/08/2009
ScottA ScottA
Same here - sometimes I'm rock-hard, most of the time semi-erect, but occasionally I go completely soft.

Sometimes there's lots of pre-cum, sometimes very little, sometimes an anal orgasm, sometimes a prostate orgasm, and sometimes I can't resist and stimulate my penis for the whole shebang.
09/08/2009
LiftedUp LiftedUp
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Originally posted by ScottA
Same here - sometimes I'm rock-hard, most of the time semi-erect, but occasionally I go completely soft.

Sometimes there's lots of pre-cum, sometimes very little, sometimes an anal orgasm, sometimes a prostate orgasm, and sometimes I ... More
I agree completely with ScottA here. I'm very much the same way. It varies a lot from session to session. I usually don't even think about it. As long as it feels good, just keep going!
09/08/2009
fishkiller fishkiller
We, too, are just starting the anal pegging, I like it, but have found as I relax the anal muscles my erection subsides a bit. What works, and has good relults, is as she is thrusting, she also is masterbating me, her favorite!! That, will get me off quickly, not what I want though. The pegging is a new sensual adventure, and we are still experimenting with anal toys, but I believe the relaxing (to allow the toy to get in) is what causes the erection to weaken. With any of the pills, viagra, cialis, or levitra, a weakining erection is not going to be a problem in all likelyhood. Just my opinion.
12/23/2009
luvinluv luvinluv
My partner and I have also just begun exploring pegging and anal stim. It seems like he is really enjoying it and will come to the brink, but nothing :{ He has either a limp or have erect penis. He feels like coming with just anal and prostate message but will almost pause and lose it? When pegging he will jack off and cum rather quickly. I want him to have the big O with anal and prostate but there seems to be something holding him back maybe? Is there anything we can do to help him relax and let it come to him?
04/23/2010
shepegs shepegs
It just varies. No worries.
04/23/2010
ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by luvinluv
My partner and I have also just begun exploring pegging and anal stim. It seems like he is really enjoying it and will come to the brink, but nothing :{ He has either a limp or have erect penis. He feels like coming with just anal and prostate ... More
It's a new sensation and will take him a while. It sounds much less fun than it is, but you need to "learn" how to orgasm from anal penetration. It's a combination of becoming more receptive to the feeling of anal & prostate pleasure and becoming mentally able to orgasm from that.
04/23/2010
luvinluv luvinluv
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Originally posted by ScottA
It's a new sensation and will take him a while. It sounds much less fun than it is, but you need to "learn" how to orgasm from anal penetration. It's a combination of becoming more receptive to the feeling of anal & prostate ... More
Thanks for the reply.
I was thinking that may be the case. I actually tell him to practise:} I have never told a BF to masterbate before but I want him to get used to it and be able to "let go" with me. I was kind of hoping it wasn't me:} He just comes so close and then loses it.
BTW you seem to be the guy to ask, I bought him an aneros and he can't seem to use it hands free? He says he has to put pressure on it for it to do anything for him?
Any tips?
04/24/2010
shepegs shepegs
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Originally posted by ScottA
It's a new sensation and will take him a while. It sounds much less fun than it is, but you need to "learn" how to orgasm from anal penetration. It's a combination of becoming more receptive to the feeling of anal & prostate ... More
How do you orgasm with from anal penetration alone? How does it feel?
04/24/2010
ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by shepegs
How do you orgasm with from anal penetration alone? How does it feel?
There are supposed to be two different types of orgasm that you can get from anal penetration. The first is the legendary anal orgasm, focused in the rectum/anus, going on for a long time, and not "draining". I haven't had a full one of these yet, though I have gotten very close (I think it was a small one). These are hard to get.

The second type is an anally-triggered orgasm. Physiologically it's the same as any other orgasm, with muscle contractions and (usually) ejaculation in the male. This is caused by anal play stimulating the prostate, bulb of the penis, and the nerves that run through the area. You'll probably need to play around a bit to find out what works best for you and your partner as far as stimulation and positions, but generally more rapid rhythmic stimulation is the best, at least at the end. I like to start off with long, slow dildo thrusts first and ramp up. Usually some genital play is good, at least at the beginning of a session, to get you relaxed and "in the mood" (keep in mind that people often tighten their anus when their genitals are stimulated, so keep that in mind during insertion).

What does it feel like? For me, anal stimulation lights up my whole pelvis/genital area. Pleasure flashes back and forth, rather than being concentrated in my penis (the pleasure includes my penis even when it's not being directly stimulated). Most of the time my orgasms from anal stimulation are powerful, the sort where you wind up needing some time to catch your breath and stop shaking. The neatest effect that I find is that I subjectively seem to be "ready" to have sex again sooner after an anal-induced orgasm than after a penile one - not sure why.

I don't do anal activities all the time, but they are a fun choice on the menu.
05/01/2010
Anally Fixated Anally Fixated
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Originally posted by Chou Wang
I have noticed that my erections became weaker or tend to disappear during long anal sessions (receiving). Not that I mind though as the anal sensations are just hilarious giving me a good portion of non-ejaculatory orgasms. But to finally finish off ... More
This is actually very common. It happens to me as well. The reason you can't stay hard is because your brain is concentrating more on the anal stimulation and the pleasure emanating from that and less on keeping the erection. I do find, however, that when I am nearing the end of an anal play session and start to rub my penis, I get the strongest erections, the biggest loads, and the greatest orgasms. Bottom line, it's really nothing to be concerned about whatsoever.
09/16/2010
ScottA ScottA
Some women might link erection=enjoyment and start to worry when their guy's boner disappears, but if you let them know that it's still good they should stop worrying.
09/16/2010
rubr1m rubr1m
I wouldn't worry about the erection problem, my boner completely disappears. Then as for anal ejactlation, oh god, she keeps me cumming and cumming from the penis anally with no hard on till I pretty much hit the point of passing out.
10/01/2010
libbyv libbyv
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Originally posted by Chou Wang
I have noticed that my erections became weaker or tend to disappear during long anal sessions (receiving). Not that I mind though as the anal sensations are just hilarious giving me a good portion of non-ejaculatory orgasms. But to finally finish off ... More
just enjoy and don't worry about it
11/24/2012
Genderfree Genderfree
It is normal actually to not have an erection while your ass is being played with. It's simply because the muscles are contracting and convulsing. It's just like if you had a boner and squeezed any one muscle really hard over and over again. Boner should go away.
12/03/2012
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