Aspergers. v. ADHD: which partner would you rather deal with?

RememberMe RememberMe 11/17/2012

Aspergers. v. ADHD: which partner would you rather deal with?

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RememberMe RememberMe
Aspergers. v. ADHD: which partner would you rather deal with? Why?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
G&L , deltalima , Stinkytofu10 , Missmarc , sXeVegan90 , LikeSunshineDust , llellsee , Incendiaire , Lizard , - Kira - , padmeamidala , mpfm , BlooJay , hhh , mjtheprincess , damnbul12 , sexxxkitten , Nurse Katie , Edeneve , Nykatron , PropertyOfPotter , Taylor , Howells , kitty1949 , Tristan's Everything , BabyL0ve , Jessie<3 , dv8 , potstickers , Thomas90 , smlove , fizzygato , higs , kkizzee05 , sillylilkitten , travelnurse , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , BiJess , souviet , XYCopperheadSly , Meido , marriedlady123 , JoshJosh123 , chicmichiw , KottonKandi , SecondStory , Kristi :) , HannahPanda , Ayogirl230 , bayosgirl , BrittaniMaree , twelve13 , sweetpea12
53  (84%)
The Mother of a SiNner , SiNn , Neotigress , Danneh , phoenixfire , comatose-kitty , Creepellah , purpledesert , bog , MistressDandelion
10  (16%)
Total votes: 63
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G&L G&L
I have ADHD and it really doesn't effect anything really.
11/17/2012
deltalima deltalima
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Aspergers. v. ADHD: which partner would you rather deal with? Why?
I have ADHD so I know what it's like, etc.
11/17/2012
Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
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Aspergers. v. ADHD: which partner would you rather deal with? Why?
ADHD
11/17/2012
The Mother of a SiNner The Mother of a SiNner
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Aspergers. v. ADHD: which partner would you rather deal with? Why?
my son in law has it and hes so high functioning id rather sita nd deal withs oemone with it the adhd
11/17/2012
Missmarc Missmarc
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Aspergers. v. ADHD: which partner would you rather deal with? Why?
ADHD
11/17/2012
SiNn SiNn
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Aspergers. v. ADHD: which partner would you rather deal with? Why?
My fiance has Aspergers
11/17/2012
sXeVegan90 sXeVegan90
ADHD
11/18/2012
Neotigress Neotigress
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Aspergers. v. ADHD: which partner would you rather deal with? Why?
I score 42 on the aspie test... I prefer my own peeps. ADHD folks make me nervous to and they hurt my feelings too often.
11/18/2012
Vanille Vanille
I am said to show signs of both...so...

But my girlfriend loves me anyway, so it is all good. :3
11/18/2012
Lizard Lizard
ADHD
11/18/2012
- Kira - - Kira -
I have ADD and it affects my memory and attention span. I'd imagine being with someone else with it would result in some weird conversations, but I think I could deal with that.
11/18/2012
BlooJay BlooJay
ADHD
11/18/2012
mjtheprincess mjtheprincess
I think if you love them enough it won't matter =) But, I have ADHD, and I am not that difficult to deal with, so I think I would lean that way!
11/18/2012
damnbul12 damnbul12
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Aspergers. v. ADHD: which partner would you rather deal with? Why?
ADHD
11/18/2012
sexxxkitten sexxxkitten
ADHD
11/18/2012
Nurse Katie Nurse Katie
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Aspergers. v. ADHD: which partner would you rather deal with? Why?
ADHD
11/18/2012
XxXxX XxXxX
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Originally posted by RememberMe
Aspergers. v. ADHD: which partner would you rather deal with? Why?
I didn't vote because it is hard for me to choose a disability without having a person behind it. My son is 7 and he is autistic as well as ADD, ODD and OCD. Of course I love him, but it is very difficult sometimes to 'deal' with. If I didn't know him and he wasn't my son, before I had him, I would have probably said I wouldn't be able to handle it. But it is totally different now.
11/18/2012
Nykatron Nykatron
ADHD
11/18/2012
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
Out of the two, ADHD. Can I ask why you're asking this question?
11/18/2012
Sera26 Sera26
My fiance has ADHD and I have Aspergers (technically PDD-NOS, same thing though). I've had other friends in the past with ADHD and we got along well. I feel that we had things beneath the surface in common.

By the way, that's a huge generalization at any rate because every single person is different.
11/18/2012
RememberMe RememberMe
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Out of the two, ADHD. Can I ask why you're asking this question?
I dated someone with ADHD, and also someone with Aspergers.
11/19/2012
GONE! GONE!
"Deal with?" =/
11/19/2012
Danneh Danneh
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"Deal with?" =/
Agreed. That phrasing is problematic. Especially considering how many people on the forums have these conditions
11/22/2012
kitty1949 kitty1949
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Agreed. That phrasing is problematic. Especially considering how many people on the forums have these conditions
Yup.
11/22/2012
Tristan's Everything Tristan's Everything
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Aspergers. v. ADHD: which partner would you rather deal with? Why?
AdHd for sure
11/22/2012
Claire-Bear Claire-Bear
ADHD by far.
12/12/2012
Thomas90 Thomas90
I have aspergers, and i really hate meeting other people with it, because i find it so hard to understand them.... i know it sounds weird, but its so difficult for me. I'd prefer ADHD in an other half
01/02/2013
phoenixfire phoenixfire
I have family who fall on various parts of the autism spectrum, so I like to think I would be able to deal with an Aspie.
01/02/2013
smlove smlove
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Aspergers. v. ADHD: which partner would you rather deal with? Why?
my previous significant other was both. my wife now is just the ADHD. definitely prefer just that. I call myself the ADD whisperer.
01/12/2013
Septimus Septimus
I don't think that it would really make a difference. Any new partner you have is going to have their own quirks. It doesn't matter if they're bipolar, ADHD, dyslexic or what.
Every single person is difficult to deal with in some ways and easy in other ways. I like to think that I hit the jack-pot with my fiance, because all in all, he's an easy going guy and for the 5 years we've been together we've gotten along fabulously. But even he has his faults, and I know I have mine.
01/19/2013
bratcat bratcat
i hate these type of questions because this is a disability forum where i expect to read things or find information about having sex with disabilities not "would you rather." I think polls like this add to the stigma that comes with having these types of disabilities and it's kind of gross. Like Septimus said, every person has their quirks, wether they have a mental or physical handicap.
01/21/2013
comatose-kitty comatose-kitty
Either. Neither will stop me from being me.
01/21/2013
kkizzee05 kkizzee05
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Aspergers. v. ADHD: which partner would you rather deal with? Why?
I know several people with ADHD and it really does not affect much in their lives.
01/21/2013
Creepellah Creepellah
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Originally posted by RememberMe
Aspergers. v. ADHD: which partner would you rather deal with? Why?
Either one.
01/21/2013
doowop doowop
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i hate these type of questions because this is a disability forum where i expect to read things or find information about having sex with disabilities not "would you rather." I think polls like this add to the stigma that comes with ... More
Agreed.
01/22/2013
souviet souviet
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Aspergers. v. ADHD: which partner would you rather deal with? Why?
adhd...
02/01/2013
purpledesert purpledesert
This question is horribly phrased, but I'm going to ignore the problematic phrasing to share my experiences as I have ADHD. I find it difficult to interact with other ADHDers, especially without any form of meds. Trains of thought constantly crash, conversations fail to go anywhere, and plans are inconsistent. I have a close friend with Aspergers, and we seem to compliment one another well.
02/01/2013
Llewey Llewey
I'm sick of seeing the phrase "deal with" on these types of posts. People are not labels. I cannot stand these; love relationships shouldn't be treated like this.
02/10/2013
JoshJosh123 JoshJosh123
ADHD
02/25/2013
bog bog
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Aspergers. v. ADHD: which partner would you rather deal with? Why?
I've met some really brilliant and interesting people on the autism spectrum.
02/25/2013
HannahPanda HannahPanda
ADHD seems a lot easier to medicate/handle.
03/16/2013
bayosgirl bayosgirl
I strongly suspect my first bf had Aspergers. He was socially awkward to the extreme and had some intellectual deficits. I have no experience with ADHD but at least it can be medicated, where as far as I know there's no treatment for Aspergers.
04/02/2013
BrittaniMaree BrittaniMaree
ADHD would be more controllable I think
04/02/2013
twelve13 twelve13
The phrasing "deal with" seems problematic to me.
04/02/2013
sweetpea12 sweetpea12
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Originally posted by RememberMe
Aspergers. v. ADHD: which partner would you rather deal with? Why?
ADHD, because medication can help with that disorder
05/05/2013
VelvetDragon VelvetDragon
I find this post problematic and ableist, so I'm not voting.

You don't "deal" with people. People with autism and people with ADHD are individuals, the way their symptoms express will be individual, you love them as people, not their disorders.

I definitely wouldn't want to date anyone who would want to "deal" with me rather than love me for who I am.
Feb 9, 4:08 pm
SaucyxGirl SaucyxGirl
lol I would say either or. I myself am an Aspie so there is that little part of me that whispers "Say Aspie you fool."
Feb 10, 9:02 am
Total posts: 48
Unique posters: 47