Deaf and hard of hearing

indiechick indiechick
Does anyone have tips about how to maintain a romantic setting when you have to keep the lights on for deaf and hard of hearing partners.

I hope this isn't too invasive of a question, its a project for my ASL culture class.


As always, thank you in advance.
05/02/2012
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VelvetDragon VelvetDragon
I assume you mean for romantic dinner and so on, not for sex?

I grew up in a mixed Deaf household and my auditory comprehension sucks sometimes.

I find that dim lighting is just fine to see what someone is saying. This can be accomplished with a fireplace and enough candles, really, or those fancy lights you can buy that are colored, or draping colored semi-transparent cloths over lights. Reading lips is harder in dim lighting than understanding ASL, in my opinion.

When we'd go camping, often just the campfire was enough for the Deaf members of the family to talk and understand.

As for... more intimate encounters, again, candle or dimmed colored lighting has always been plenty for me to understand, and a LOT can be accomplished through touch, to communicate without words.

Do you have any more specific questions? Part of the problem is I've never particularly "created" romantic space... romantic for me has always been going out to a nice restaurant, or cuddling together on the couch. Haha. And I like sex equally with the lights on (so I can watch) and off, heh.
05/02/2012
Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by VelvetDragon
I assume you mean for romantic dinner and so on, not for sex?

I grew up in a mixed Deaf household and my auditory comprehension sucks sometimes.

I find that dim lighting is just fine to see what someone is saying. This can be ... More
Hmm, it would be really neat if the couple had worked out a system of signals for sex. Like a tap on the thigh means harder...similar to a green light, yellow light, red light system.
05/02/2012
Petite Valentine Petite Valentine
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Originally posted by indiechick
Does anyone have tips about how to maintain a romantic setting when you have to keep the lights on for deaf and hard of hearing partners.

I hope this isn't too invasive of a question, its a project for my ASL culture class.


As ... More
I consider this a strange question. Why does romantic setting ? light?
05/02/2012
indiechick indiechick
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Originally posted by Petite Valentine
I consider this a strange question. Why does romantic setting ? light?
I picked romantic setting because I think that how does sex work is a horrible question and someone in my class actually posed it. Romantic dinners, walks at night on the beach things like that
05/02/2012
VelvetDragon VelvetDragon
I generally don't talk during moonlit walks on the beach anyway. A lot is communicated by holding hands.
05/03/2012
Petite Valentine Petite Valentine
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Originally posted by indiechick
I picked romantic setting because I think that how does sex work is a horrible question and someone in my class actually posed it. Romantic dinners, walks at night on the beach things like that
I didn't notice it when I made the post, but my "does not equal" symbol was changed to a question mark.

What I was trying to ask is why does an absence of light equal romance? For the most part, people don't have control over the lighting of exterior locations: park, beach, etc, but even in an interior setting, why would a dinner be less romantic just because the lights are on? Same thing with sex — not every one needs to turn down or turn off the lights to enjoy it:

Lights On or Off?

Lights on or off

Lights ON or OFF?
05/04/2012
indiechick indiechick
Quote:
Originally posted by Petite Valentine
I didn't notice it when I made the post, but my "does not equal" symbol was changed to a question mark.

What I was trying to ask is why does an absence of light equal romance? For the most part, people don't have control ... More
i personally do enjoy the lights low...or waking up in the morning and being intimate before getting out of bed.. but you are right that's not the same for everyone
05/04/2012
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