Dealing with "sub drop" for those with mood disorders?

blixa blixa
To quote, well, the first Google result for the term, 'Sub Drop is the emotional and physical affects of the release and drop of endorphins in the body after a play session.' I experienced this for the first time recently, having gotten into kink, and found it particularly unhappy and unmanageable. I also have major depression, which I think exacerbated the post-kink aches and pains, but more importantly the emotional drop that occurred. I felt extremely unhappy and extremely agitated, with my usual symptoms, only intensified, all converging on me over the course of a day. It's been really hard getting back on track mood-wise afterward. Are there any other people with mood disorders who've experienced this with BDSM? Has anyone got any advice for discussing this with a therapist who may not necessarily be kink-friendly?
03/29/2012
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Dawn (Lilac Distraction) Dawn (Lilac Distraction)
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Originally posted by blixa
To quote, well, the first Google result for the term, 'Sub Drop is the emotional and physical affects of the release and drop of endorphins in the body after a play session.' I experienced this for the first time recently, having gotten into ... More
This seems to be the reason why I can have the best sex ever, but then afterwards feel morbidly depressed, tense, irritable, and angry. I'll cry or storm off into another room. That's not exactly adorable post-coital behavior. There weren't any thoughts that led to this. It's just those intense physical feelings running throughout my body. The last time I had sex, which was a few months ago, I completely snapped afterwards. Got up, threw some clothes on, stormed outside for a cigarette. He followed me and was concerned but I told him to fuck off and leave me alone. The sex made me a monster and it had nothing to do with him. It makes me a little afraid of sex now.

I have Borderline Personality Disorder so it's like rapid cycling Bipolar Disorder plus extremely intense emotions. Little things flip a switch for me.

I haven't experienced it with BDSM . . . because I haven't really gotten to get seriously into it due to lack of partners or lack of interest by them. Hell, if the sex makes me that crazy, I'd hate to see what that would do.
03/29/2012
blixa blixa
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Originally posted by Dawn (Lilac Distraction)
This seems to be the reason why I can have the best sex ever, but then afterwards feel morbidly depressed, tense, irritable, and angry. I'll cry or storm off into another room. That's not exactly adorable post-coital behavior. There ... More
I'm sorry to hear about that -- that sounds absolutely terrible. I never really put two and two together with endorphin-boosting activities and my mood afterward until the kink thing, it makes me really reluctant to continue.
03/29/2012
tA tA
I've got depression problems too so subdrop for me can either be abysmally horrible or not bad at all depending on how it's handled.

My Sir takes care of me really well so I usually don't have to worry; all I have to do is say the word and there they are, making sure I don't get too far into the slings and terrors of my mopes. However, I do find that if I don't get enough aftercare, it hits me way, way harder and I end up being negative and cranky and upset/depressed for a fairly long time afterwards ( read anywhere from the rest of the day to a week :/ ).

I find that letting yourself accept emotional support really helps, but I also know that it can be a difficult thing to do, especially if you're feeling even more vulnerable/open than usual.

Unfortunately, I don't have any experience with therapists and kink.
03/29/2012
glasskitten glasskitten
I have a mood disorder and bordeline traits. After reading the other posts, I'm starting to believe this is a bordeline thing...

I didn't even know there was a term for this. Let me say that I've never engaged in any real Kink, I'm quite vanilla, and I've still gotten this. Uncontrollable crying, being pissed off beyond reason. Sometimes there is a reason behind these feelings (like the damn meds stole my ability to orgasm AGAIN), other times not at all.

I'm going to try to talk to my psych about this the next time I see him... if he says anything worth noting I'll let you all know.
09/06/2012
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