Flash backs?

Contributor: sugarOne sugarOne
If you are in the lifestyle of M/s D/s or the bdsm lifestyle have you ever experienced flash backs while trying new kinky things with your Owner? If so how do you pass that point and move on? Do you continue what you are doing or do you stop and try it again another day?
08/31/2010
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Contributor: Sera Sera
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Originally posted by sugarOne
If you are in the lifestyle of M/s D/s or the bdsm lifestyle have you ever experienced flash backs while trying new kinky things with your Owner? If so how do you pass that point and move on? Do you continue what you are doing or do you stop and try ... more
Flashbacks from trauma? What do you mean?
10/17/2010
Contributor: UrNaughtyaAngel UrNaughtyaAngel
Yeah if they are negative flashbacks stop the scene.
10/17/2010
Contributor: socceras socceras
Quote:
Originally posted by sugarOne
If you are in the lifestyle of M/s D/s or the bdsm lifestyle have you ever experienced flash backs while trying new kinky things with your Owner? If so how do you pass that point and move on? Do you continue what you are doing or do you stop and try ... more
I don't understand the question
10/17/2010
Contributor: HouseWench HouseWench
For me it depends on the severity. Some things have left me more shocked than I expected, and others I've been able to push through with no problem.
11/04/2010
Contributor: Sera Sera
Why are you asking? Have you ever had any problems with this?
11/10/2010
Contributor: VanillaFreeSex VanillaFreeSex
Quote:
Originally posted by sugarOne
If you are in the lifestyle of M/s D/s or the bdsm lifestyle have you ever experienced flash backs while trying new kinky things with your Owner? If so how do you pass that point and move on? Do you continue what you are doing or do you stop and try ... more
flashbacks during sex....stop sexual activity for the time being. I am speaking from experience. You may even want to develop a code word. Be sure to let your partner know whether you want to discuss it then, later, or not at all. You may need to let your partner know if it was something specific so it can just be avoided in the future.

sometimes i've experienced where i needed to stop completely, the don't even touch me. Other times I've just needed to move forward without the particular trigger. then there is the no sex but please hold me.

word of caution: BDSM with having past issues can be a little bitter sweet. Be careful to take good care of yourself emotionally and seek help if you need it. If you haven't faced the flashback issues yet, you will when you can. Whether counseling and/or self help. I am going to message you with a possible book.
02/08/2011
Contributor: Mistress M. Mistress M.
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Originally posted by VanillaFreeSex
flashbacks during sex....stop sexual activity for the time being. I am speaking from experience. You may even want to develop a code word. Be sure to let your partner know whether you want to discuss it then, later, or not at all. You may need to let ... more
I have to agree with Vanillafree. Definitely a good thing to stop. You don't want to openly do things that are going to cause flashbacks until you've dealt with them.
02/12/2011