Do "lovers gifts" (cards, flowers, candy...etc) equal an expectation of sex?

Bignuf Bignuf
Does anyone get their lover "little gifts", expecting sexual relations will follow, more or less related to having "done something nice"?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
YES, I get her/him things, but expect something in return.
1
Yes, I get him/her things, but that is a signal I love them. I don't expect sex as a PAYBACK, but as a "consequence" of doing something nice.
NO. I give them things because I love them. Sex happens when it happens, not in relation to the gift.
41
Other?
4
Total votes: 46 (44 voters)
Poll is closed
02/25/2012
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dhig dhig
for us, sex happens when it happens
02/25/2012
Ryuson Ryuson
Sex has nothing to do with gifts
02/25/2012
indiglo indiglo
Quote:
Originally posted by Ryuson
Sex has nothing to do with gifts
Yeah same with us.
02/25/2012
Rossie Rossie
Pretty pathetic if a person have to exchange gifts for sex.
02/25/2012
ksparkles16 ksparkles16
yup, sex doesn't correlate with gifts for me
02/25/2012
dynasty123 dynasty123
I am so happy how people are voting. Sometimes it seems that some people put sex before love and the person. Good work everyone!
02/25/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Ryuson
Sex has nothing to do with gifts
I am HAPPY to hear this IS the general consensus.
02/25/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by dynasty123
I am so happy how people are voting. Sometimes it seems that some people put sex before love and the person. Good work everyone!
BINGO. In a PRIVATE poll, I was hoping folks would be honest. This is a GOOD sign indeed.
02/25/2012
DreamWolf DreamWolf
I expect only a Smile and the Love shining through His Eyes, that's plenty for me to be running around shrieking happiestly out of my mind...
02/25/2012
bsgs bsgs
i give my wife flowers and cards and stuff randomly, i dont expect to get sex in return, but i dont complain when it happens either
02/26/2012
GONE! GONE!
Nope. I only do things like that because I want to and enjoy doing it.
02/26/2012
js250 js250
I give him little gifts when I find something he would really like. Sex, that happens anyways but not as an expected or implied association to the gift.
02/26/2012
arewehavingfun? arewehavingfun?
I love these answers. Aren't we all such nice partners?
02/26/2012
TheCleansing TheCleansing
Gifts are nice, but sex happens all the time anyway.
02/27/2012
Chilipepper Chilipepper
Reminds me of guys who buy drinks at bars and expect sex for an $8 drink. Prostitutes get paid more for the same service.

Anyways, never ran into such a person, and I don't expect it in return when I give things.
02/28/2012
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Does anyone get their lover "little gifts", expecting sexual relations will follow, more or less related to having "done something nice"?
One of the most sage things my Mother ever said to me was that gift giving is the one time you are truly allowed to be selfish...you give a gift because it makes you feel good to do so. So I am a totally self absorbed selfish gift giver! I don't expect anything in return all i really want is to watch a loved one's face light up. Sounds silly but I just LOVE giving gifts, I love getting them in return as well but it's more fun for me to go shopping or make a gift than to receive one.
02/28/2012
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
I am HAPPY to hear this IS the general consensus.
It really is nice to see isn't it?
02/28/2012
Ciao. Ciao.
Uh...definitely not. If I'm going to get my partner something nice it's because I really care about her, or want to cheer her up, or found something that's perfect. There's absolutely no expectation of sex in that.
02/28/2012
Jul!a Jul!a
If my husband gets me a gift, it's because he knows I'll enjoy it and his "reward" is seeing me enjoy it. It works the same way when I give him gifts. I don't expect gifts in return, I just enjoy knowing that he liked what I got him.
02/28/2012
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I give him little things all the time and don't expect anything in return. He doesn't do things often, but when he does I don't believe that he expects anything either.
03/01/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
I know My Man doesn't buy me things in expectation of sex. We have sex frequently, so no persuasion is necessary anyway.

However, he thinks it's really funny to buy a "Score" candy bar virtually every time we have sex. He'll come home from work that evening and stick it in my bra. Do you have any idea how sick I am of Score Bars? Any idea how many are lurking on the shelf over our stove?
03/01/2012
Swish Swish
sex happens when it happens some gifts can imply things, a sexy message in a card for example, but nothing should be expected.
03/01/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
One exception: If he buys me a sex toy, he wants to immediately tear the package open and see how I like it.

Aside from that, no. Flowers, candy etc are either because he simply wanted to or to let me know he really appreciated a special time in our bed.
03/01/2012
Harpina is gone Harpina is gone
No. My guy buys me those and he doesn't expect sex. He says that sometimes he hopes, but he always hopes for sex even without gifts. Haha.
03/09/2012
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Does anyone get their lover "little gifts", expecting sexual relations will follow, more or less related to having "done something nice"?
No, they should not be given with expectation of sex
03/12/2012
mistre$$ mistre$$
Quote:
Originally posted by Chilipepper
Reminds me of guys who buy drinks at bars and expect sex for an $8 drink. Prostitutes get paid more for the same service.

Anyways, never ran into such a person, and I don't expect it in return when I give things.
Agreed. Expecting sex for a drink..pfft! I don't really get things for people with the motive of "okay, you owe me now".
03/15/2012
Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Does anyone get their lover "little gifts", expecting sexual relations will follow, more or less related to having "done something nice"?
I bought my girlfriend a necklace and a sweater from Marc Jacobs this week. I wasn't expecting sex. They look great on her
03/29/2012
Total posts: 28
Unique posters: 24