How Important Is Your Partner's Fitness Level?

Timaree Timaree
How much does it matter to you if your partner has been hitting the gym versus hittin the Ben & Jerrys? Does it make a big impact on your attraction/arousal/sex ual experience?
08/11/2010
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Blinker Blinker
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Originally posted by Timaree
How much does it matter to you if your partner has been hitting the gym versus hittin the Ben & Jerrys? Does it make a big impact on your attraction/arousal/sex ual experience?
Nah, but for the record, my guy is a former martial arts instructor and personal trainer, so he's got a body that can break rocks. Me? I'm "skooshy and soft and warm with a booty" as he puts it. He's scaled back on his exercise while I've stepped up on mine. But as much praise as he gives me and my body, I have good self esteem and so does he.
08/11/2010
Annemarie Annemarie
My significant other and I just had a talk about this, actually. I prefer him to be kind of squishy and snuggly, and with a little meat. I like cuddly, soft guys.

He says he likes me as I am, too.
08/11/2010
Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
I don't mind if my partner's a bit fluffy. All I care is that he is healthy and is leading a healthy lifestyle. I'll nag my boyfriend about getting more exercise and eating more veggies, but it's less about his shape and more about getting the right nutrients and cutting down on unnecessary sugars and fats.
08/11/2010
MuffysPinguLove MuffysPinguLove
My boyfriend and I always say that we would love each other no matter what. Our relationship is built first and foremost on the mental/emotional relationship we have. Yes, physical attraction is a plus, but first and foremost, I love my guy for his sexy mind
08/11/2010
PassionQT PassionQT
I like my men to be trim and toned. They don't have to hit the gym often, but they have to either be naturally thin or do something to stay in shape. My husband runs marathons, so I'm used to his skinny little tush. I'm not in to body builders though with bulging muscles and veins a'poppin. I'm fit, but curvy.
08/11/2010
Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
I'm much more impressed by a man with good hygiene and a reasonably healthy lifestyle than by what shape he has. Some guys just don't have the metabolism to look like body builders no matter how much they diet or hit the gym. That's ok, as long as they take care of themselves. A guy could have a perfect body, but still wouldn't be able to get me aroused if he hasn't taken a shower and brushed his teeth.
08/11/2010
Coralbell Coralbell
I'm attracted to guys who have muscles but with a layer of fat over top. I want them to be healthy and strong but not ripped.
08/12/2010
DragonEyes DragonEyes
After going from someone who was over 240lbs to someone who is around 170lbs, I'd say fitness level is important to me. My ex(whom I dated on and off for 8 yrs) was lazy and overweight, had a bad diet and never exercised. My new boy toy is in the military so is required to work out on a regular basis and I must say I am a lot more physically attracted to him than I ever was my ex.
08/22/2010
Andromeda Andromeda
I prefer a guy that is fit, I suppose. And I don't mean he has to have a six pack, but rather he should try to be in his best health.
08/22/2010
DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
I wouldn't care if they were four hundred pounds if they maintained a healthy active lifestyle. I prefer someone who doesn't just want to sit at home, but someone who's happy to walk around the city with me in the evenings. I'd rather they weren't gym rats, but they shouldn't balk at the site of green beans, either!

I want a lover who will be around to spend the rest of their life with me, not someone whose healthy I need to be super concerned about. Balance is definitely necessary.
08/22/2010
Jul!a Jul!a
As long as he's not actively sitting on the couch trying to lead an unhealthy lifestyle, I don't really mind. Sure, the rock hard abs are fun to look at, but you know what? I'm a cuddle bug and those aren't all that comfortable all the time. For us, it's about the mental connection and as long as he's healthy, I don't care how he looks
08/23/2010
Sir Sir
I do not care either way. Both my girl and I are fairly active when we're together, we go on walks, take bike rides. She's very lazy, but I'm fine with that. I sort of think that it's cute when she prefers sweets over exercise...
08/23/2010
wondertoes wondertoes
It doesn't matter to me as long as he is healthy!
10/14/2010
Sera Sera
Quote:
Originally posted by Timaree
How much does it matter to you if your partner has been hitting the gym versus hittin the Ben & Jerrys? Does it make a big impact on your attraction/arousal/sex ual experience?
It does make an impact, but still love matters more.
10/15/2010
Shellz31 Shellz31
I prefer a guy be cuddly rather than have rock hard abs!
10/15/2010
Taylor Taylor
I do like a guy who will play sports or go for a walk with me. However I don't really like a guy who is obsessed with his looks.

I've dated some really fit guys and it mostly just made me feel more self conscious about any flaws I thought I had about my body.
11/01/2010
SassySam SassySam
Be be perfectly honest? Yes, it matters to me. Being active (although I'm not a fitness model or anything) it an important part of my life. I'm a Vegetarian, cook 90% of my meals from scratch, walk everywhere, do yoga in the mornings and go to the gym on my days off.

If I was dating a girl who was bringing takeout food into the house, or wasn't willing to walk to the movies when 'we could just take a cab', who wouldn't go to the gym with me etc. It would negatively impact our relationship. I'd much rather find someone who gets that part of my life and that I would be able to have conversations with about fitness and nutrition.
02/07/2013
gsfanatic gsfanatic
As long as they stay in reasonable shape, it's all good
02/07/2013
Adnerbmw Adnerbmw
obviously if hes getting a little squishy he isnt as cut and sexy but i am still attracted to him. Where it matters is in the bed and his ability to perform. I Can always tell when either of us is out of shape cause the sex is not anywhere near as athletic as it could be. after a couple minutes of work were both out of breath and exhausted thats where it takes its toll. I dont have to have a fit in shape partner but it does pay off to have it, on both ends though, him and i both need to be in shape.
03/10/2013
Allison.Wilder Allison.Wilder
Quote:
Originally posted by Timaree
How much does it matter to you if your partner has been hitting the gym versus hittin the Ben & Jerrys? Does it make a big impact on your attraction/arousal/sex ual experience?
It's a non-issue, sexually. If it's a health issue, then that's another story altogether.
03/21/2013
spiced spiced
Activity level is way more important than fitness level, and MY activity level is more vital to our sex life than hers. When I was unable to exercise much due to injury a couple of years ago, it really put a damper on our sex life. My sex drive plummeted, something I never thought could happen!

I don't think I'd have been attracted to her in the first place if she hadn't been active and fit; now that we've been together many years, I find her attractive pretty much no matter what. She's made it easy on me by staying active almost always.
03/21/2013
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