How many sexual partners have you had?

Miss Voluptuous Miss Voluptuous
Currently I fall in the 5-10 range.... and I would like to have more! (even a few at the same time, please!)
03/02/2011
Alyxx Alyxx
Counting boys and girls, with the criteria of vaginal penetration with guys and oral sex with girls, 8. Counting other sexual activities, 10 or 12.
03/07/2011
Stephanie Marie Stephanie Marie
I used to know, now I can't remember? lol thats pretty bad. So I guessed on the poll.
03/07/2011
Armsjlove Armsjlove
One. Happily married for years. ~ Arms
03/07/2011
jazz4me jazz4me
I have been with something like 12 guys in my life. About 10 of them were horrible mistakes, yet of course at the time I had no idea.
03/13/2011
(Re)tired Stripper (Re)tired Stripper
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Originally posted by Nashville
I know many of my friends and I used to "compare notes" of our sexual partners and how many we had. I had a running tally of how many men my best friend had been with which was remarkably easy to keep because it never exceeded past ... More
I always have felt self-conscious, because I attended a Catholic school and everyone played themselves off as "good girls." I'm sure a lot went on behind the scenes, so to speak.

I was a late bloomer physically--though six feet tall--, so when men and women started noticing me at 16 (I quit traditional school and did self-homeschooling, so I had lots of freedom), I went a little wild. I was in a mindfucked abusive relationship with a 24-year-old man, and after that was through, I went even crazier with the promiscuity. Of course, promiscuity and being a "slut" is a very loaded and subjective topic. For me, though, it was too much.

I don't regret most of my adventures, but I do wish I was more careful and discreet. I've learned a lot since then!

I don't think there is a "normal" but there is definitely an average. We won't ever know--people artificially inflate or downplay their numbers all the time. Men and women do both. I'm sure EF is one of the best places to see honest answers, though!

The only regret is I am in a partnered relationship that's currently monogamous. I haven't had enough experience with male dominants as I would've liked. My partner is a natural but doesn't know anything at all about BDSM or the scene. Hopefully with time and gentle coaxing, he'll understand and become more comfortable with the desires he already does have.

I've slept with both men and women, and I count any genital contact as part of my "number." So I'm definitely in the 2-6% by that count.
03/13/2011
MontereyJak MontereyJak
Before I met my wife the total was 3 including her. But that we have entered into a new realm, she has added 3 guys to her list and I've added 2 females and 1 guy to my list.
03/15/2011
Elbert's Angel Elbert's Angel
unfortunately had to go through a few losers before I got to the one for me.
03/16/2011
SexyStuff SexyStuff
Just one
03/17/2011
sexygoddess sexygoddess
I've only had three.
04/05/2011
purplekidney purplekidney
We're both each other's firsts (He: and lasts!).
04/14/2011
mariedoll mariedoll
100 people, that is a lot of people.
04/27/2011
Hot'n'Bothered Hot'n'Bothered
Only one. I don't think that's the norm!
04/27/2011
lolsos lolsos
I think 15.
04/27/2011
mama2007 mama2007
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Originally posted by Nashville
I know many of my friends and I used to "compare notes" of our sexual partners and how many we had. I had a running tally of how many men my best friend had been with which was remarkably easy to keep because it never exceeded past ... More
1 = my husband
05/21/2011
mama2007 mama2007
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Originally posted by Perish
Someone*** Sorry that would have bothered me for the rest of the night.
lol anymore than 2 or so is gross. i am happy to say ive only been with 1 person and that is my husband! ppl need to settle down with 1 person not mess around with a crap load of ppl just to have sex
05/21/2011
Kiwidragon Kiwidragon
Just one, though that doesn't bother me. We've had plenty of time to perfect our game! I don't think there is a right number, it's whatever feels right to the individual. Though I have to say that having many partners without any sort of commitment runs some serious risks, and I don't just mean STDs. We have a Maury-like baby-daddy drama in my family where 4 men have had paternity tests and I work for a family law lawyer as well. Having a baby is stressful enough but going through all that crap to track down the dad for support would be awful.
06/22/2011
Trillian Trillian
It depends on how you define sex 16 women and 3 guys for me. I don't think anyone should be ashamed of how few or how many they have had. I think I would have liked to experience a few more but am in a happy LTR so that's not going to happen. Of course it is hard to beat just one when things work right
06/22/2011
Miss Nessa Miss Nessa
one
07/18/2011
TameTemptress TameTemptress
Just one!
07/21/2011
bayosgirl bayosgirl
100+?! How is that even possible? Serious question.
08/19/2011
kendra30752 kendra30752
Well to me, I can't say what number is too many for anyone but myself. To be painfully honest, I have always been ashamed of my number. It's between 7-10 and while I don't regret anything at all. I don't regret period. I learn from my mistakes. It may take me making the same mistake more than once, but I will learn from it. I might want to regret it, but I don't. I take away from it and make myself do better next time.

Anyways, there is a such thing as too many, but I think that a whole, whole bunch of sex partners that are only no one night stand type of things are usually an indication of some sort of issue within yourself. That was my case too. I didn't WANT to sleep with everyone that I did, but I didn't think I deserved to say no. One scared me into it and I didn't know I was strong enough or good enough to demand they stop. It's my problem and I should've known different, but at the time I didn't. I don't hate myself for it and I certainly wouldn't consider my number to make me a slut. I never had one night stands or slept with a person who I wasn't committed too.

Now that I've grown up and learned that I do deserve at least decent treatment, there's no way in hell I'd let a guy do me the way I did before. I'd be like "Excuse me?! You're going to MAKE me do what?" *BITCH SLAP ACROSS THE FACE!* Lol

I think when it becomes a regular habit, one night stands, then a person should stop and think very carefully, do some self exploring before they end up regretting it and hating themselves down the road. I know so many women who do hate themselves and I don't think any number is worth self hatred. I think it's great to slow down and not ever use sex as a way to deal with things, but I wouldn't think any less of a person who had a high or low number.

Now 100, that is a high number to me, but I think a lot of feelings get involved and one night stands are sooo risky and I guess that's why I'm so cautious.
08/19/2011
JRabbits JRabbits
I've only had two. *shrugs*
09/07/2011
7Miles 7Miles
3. First there was oral with an ex boyfriend. Then I was raped (also oral). Then I lost my virginity to my fiance.
09/13/2011
ScotchIrish ScotchIrish
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Originally posted by Nashville
I know many of my friends and I used to "compare notes" of our sexual partners and how many we had. I had a running tally of how many men my best friend had been with which was remarkably easy to keep because it never exceeded past ... More
Two. At 15 and then at 27 And after the wedding. Honestly. Now divorcing. And it's been 4+ years. Someday I hope again. I will cross anything (ie .. fingers, whatever it takes).
09/18/2011
kadytheredpanda kadytheredpanda
None, I'm still a virgin.
09/20/2011
Princess-Kayla ♥ Princess-Kayla ♥
Only 1.
And I'm his only one.
09/23/2011
poetprincess poetprincess
Quote:
Originally posted by Nashville
I know many of my friends and I used to "compare notes" of our sexual partners and how many we had. I had a running tally of how many men my best friend had been with which was remarkably easy to keep because it never exceeded past ... More
I am very picky about who i have slept with in the past and still am even now that im getting older.
09/26/2011
SoSexxxay SoSexxxay
Ok, so I have had intercourse with 6 people (I think.. lol) but I have messed around, had oral with more. Many more. Like, I can't count/remember all their names O_o
09/27/2011
SoSexxxay SoSexxxay
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Originally posted by SoSexxxay
Ok, so I have had intercourse with 6 people (I think.. lol) but I have messed around, had oral with more. Many more. Like, I can't count/remember all their names O_o
Crap, make that 7, just remembered haha
09/27/2011
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