I remember
touching a lot when I was a small child. (And getting yelled at if someone saw me, "Stop that! Girls don't do that!" Nice.) I remember trying to stick things in my butt (small things, I was clueless) when I was about 4 or 5. I had the right idea, that "something goes in somewhere" but didn't have it quite right.
I didn't actually attempt to have an orgasm until I was revving up into sexual experience at about 16. I was ready to have sex with My Man and I thought, "I'd better figure out how this orgasm thing works." I had them in my sleep, but I took a few tries before I could actually do it to orgasm. The first orgasm I ever caused myself, oddly enough, as an anal orgasm. Despite only touching my clit. I think I just hadn't located all the muscles, yet. The next time (which, knowing me, was either later that day or the next day) it worked the way it was supposed to, the whole thing, everything involved in the orgasm.
I was really proud of myself, and had no one to tell. I really wasn't going to call up a friend and say, "I gave myself an orgasm." It didn't occur to me to tell My Man. I have NO idea why.